June 2013 - Thread 4 - don't forget your pelvic floor!

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Last thread too full to add a link, hope everyone can find their way back!

Ditto on the cleaning out room front. We've gutted the spare room and reckon we can actually keep the nice double bed: we thought we'd have to sacrifice it to make enough room but its looking good. Spent lots of time on the web today. Reckon we will get a Bednest, and a Quinny Buzz. And that's as far as we got today! So jealous of the sister! I have FIVE sisters in law. They all have kids. They aren't having more. Not one has offered us anything. Kind of gutted about that. I know they have it going spare. DH is only boy, and was last to marry and last to have kids and its like they've done it so many times before they just don't give a toss!

Sarah, have you thought to ask any of them if they've kept any of their baby things and say if they wanted to clear out in your direction you'll happily take hand-me-downs? However if they are all done having DCs, they might not have kept much... I think this will be our last and I'll be binning stuff/charity shopping it as and when this DC outgrows it... Definately ask - they might like to clear out the lofts...

Even if they haven't kept newborn stuff, by flagging up that you'll take hand me downs, they might start saving anything their DCs outgrow now, you might have a couple of years of storing bags of stuff in your loft until your DC is big enough to wear it, but it'll be worth it, particularly if any of them have good taste in children's wear...

Sunny that's great about your sister and sisters in law!

Mrsbri- glad the move went well

Don'tmind- hope your DS gets better soon bless.

I seem to have predicted correctly and am now full of cold passed on by DS. Got some berocca in for DH but I obviously can't have that. Can you all rind me again of what you said is ok to use in pregnancy to make the evil lurgy bearable?

AmI its honey and lemon drinks with paracetamol, rest and fluids.

I'm quite quiet as dd is very poorly and she loving passed on the bug, sat up all last night with her and tonight looks to be the same. She has never had a chest infection before but I think that might be what it is

Sorry to hear you're all sick :(

MrsBri - well done on the move, hope you get settled quickly. I remember staying up late in the evenings cleaning our old flat 3 days before baby was born.

Sounds like everybody is busy nesting and sorting. I am kind of doing that, not so much for baby, but more because...we might end up moving back to England in August. All up in the air right now and we won't know for sure for a couple of months, but rather than have to get things ready to ship/sell/sell a house etc in the last few months of pregnancy I'd rather tackle it now just in case. I guess I'd better get on with it then...

Well done on the move MrsBri, dont overdo it though!

Hope poorly people get well soon, I have to go do a full day at work tomorrow and then a full week at work, I keep forgetting I'm pg.

I hope you got some sleep last night, redwelly. Exhaustion and pregnancy do not go together. Is your DD any better?

I'm trying not to overdo it, but I found it frustrating being told to not get involved, so I did load the car a couple of times with light stuff like pillows and duvets, just to be more helpful. :-)

And I had to sort the kitchen and decide on which cupboards were used for what as DH wouldn't dare!

Baby B was having a whale of a time while I was having a bath last night (we only had a shower in the flat) and we were watching my belly move...DH loved it. :-)

Wish I could sleep longer to get a nice lie in. Doesn't really happen much though. Boo! Any other early risers out there?

Oh yes. Early risings here due to a small toddler. I got a little more sleep last night but waiting for dh to take over at 8 so I can have another hour.

Dd always loved bathtime whwn she was inside, only time I ever "saw" her move. I can watch this one move even now on its energetic days, one in three are the busy days.

Move sounds not too bad, wish so much we'd moved before dd because moving and then renovating/decorating is impossible with her in the house.

Hi all have been busy for last few days so just catching up!
Sunbeam piles are unfortunately quite common, your gp can prescribe you something to clear it up - last pregnancies I've had some suppositories that were great & worked much better than anything you could buy over counter.
I also seem to have caught a cold and have v sore throat - not a lot I can take is there? On top of that I dropped a le creuset on my toe on Friday so have been hobbling around feeling v sorry for myself
DS1 is off to his Nanna's for half term do we 're going to swap DS2 into spare room that way we can fit double bed and cot in together. Will feel a bit more ready after that! Also bought my first baby purchase this week, just some sleep suits but in girly colours. Felt a bit overwhelmed by all the girl clothes - I know where I am with boys!!
Sorry to hear about scare mrsbri hope moving hasn't exhausted you too much.
V jealous of all just into maternity clothes, am suddenly feeling huge this week. Had no idea sainsburys even did maternity wear - is that online or in store?
Blimey that was long! Happy Sunday!

another bad night with DS, how am I going to do this with 2?????

I'm not normally someone who takes much time off work and will be at my desk when like death warmed up, but I've just thought "sod it" - if he's too ill for nursery tomorrow, I'm not ringing round relatives to beg someone to have him, I'm calling in sick myself. I genuinely don't care anymore, which is surprising, as I was pregnant with DS I was still very committed to work and wanted to do a good job, but this time round it feels like I've mentally left already, and I've got 10 weeks to go!

I forgot to ask the midwife I saw on Friday for my Mat B1 form, when do you have to have given to work? Not sure if I can book another appointment to get it...

I've also got a stinking cold
My midwife posted out my mat B1 form as I don't see her till 26 weeks. it should be handed in 15 weeks before expected due date so at 25 weeks for those not got a planned elcs.
I still don't know when to finish. I have 4 weeks annual leave to use, not sure whether to use it all as a block and finish at 34 weeks or finish at 35/36 weeks and use it to have some shorter weeks for a few weeks. (iykwim?!) I need to make a decision this week. My mat policy is rubbish so I'm not keen to actually start mat leave too early as sooner I start sooner I stop getting paid!

thanks little miss - I'll call up tomorrow and get them to post it to me, or see if I can swing by and just pick it up...

After yesterday's mega clear out we now need to fill up with baby stuff. I realised I am clueless. Could you help me?! So if I get a basket or a bed nest etc then she will presumably sleep in that for six months, in with us. So does this mean we don't need to buy a cot? Cots seem to come in many sizes so not sure what we would need. After six months I guess she is in the spare room, which will be her room. What would she sleep in at that point? Some cots have sides that come off so that would presumably see her through a while? But then there are some massive cots, when would you want them?

Littlemiss...a word of warning is that your mat leave will start the day after you give birth. If you're still on annual leave you're likely to lose any holiday and therefore pay you haven't used.

I also have 4 weeks' leave to take, so am finishing at 34 weeks but starting mat leave at 38 weeks. Hoping Baby B doesn't come more than 2 weeks early!

And Sarah, the larger cots are probably cot beds which transform into a bed to see them through til 4 years old ish. That is what we are getting as it works out more cost effective. And we have the Moses basket for when baby is in with us. Baby will probably transfer to the nursery once I'm sure he's sleeping through. :-)

We bought a cotbed for DS, he's 3 now and could easily get at least another year out of it, but will be putting him in a single bed now to put the baby in the cot.

He did look insanely small in it when he was little though! Word of warning, I intended DS to sleep inthe moses basket for 6 months, however after 8 weeks, he'd taken to sleeping wiht his arms out and was waking himself up in the basket, thankfully my Dad wanted to buy the cot bed so we already had it set up in the nursery.

Mrs Bri my work have said that any AL not used I can take before I return back to work. It's so difficult! I really want some time at home to get organised so 3 weeks AL then 1 week mat leave may be the way to go?
Sarah we are getting a crib for our room as friends have said not many babies will still fit in a Moses basket at 6 months and no room in our bedroom for a cot. We're getting the John Lewis gliding crib.
In babies room we have ordered a cot bed and a wardrobe as no furniture in there at minute and I'm going to use baby's room to keep all his clothes, nappies toys etc. hoping to use that room to get him changed after bath etc and for daytime naps when he's a little older to get him used to it.

LittleMiss - although you lose the time if you are forced to start mat leave earlier due to the baby arriving, you will have to be paid for the holiday days you are owed at the end of the year, so that might fund extra time at the other end.

I think the holiday thing depends upon your company policy. I've been told by HR that I won't lose holiday if the baby is born while I am still on annual leave. I could just take the outstanding holiday at the end instead of the beginning.

That's good. Apparently we lose it, but I'm wondering how that can be legal. That's law firms for you! :-/

Yeah that doesn't sound right mrs Bri.
I think I'm going to take 3 weeks AL and use the other 5 days throughout April/May. Wish we didn't have to decide now!!

The mat leave thing is already confusing me! Want to have some time with DS before DD arrives but also want to get as much time paid as possible afterwards. As I teach I don't accrue hols whilst off ( think they might do in Scotland though).

Hope DD and DS are better soon redwelly and dontmind. Our DS still has his cold but he also had icky tummy now bless him. So far myself and DH have just caught the cold part!

We had a Moses basket in our room for a bit then somehow managed to fit the cotbed in there instead. Moved cotbed into DS room and he's still sleeping in it but I'd like to get him into a single a month or so before DD arrives so he doesn't feel ousted. I think DH thinks that we should wait as long as possible before that expense but I don't want it to be done when baby arrives as it could well mean DS thinks she's stealing his bed! Maybe I'm over thinking? Wouldn't be the first time!

MrsBri - does your holiday year run Jan to Jan? Because it's down to the company's discretion if they let you carry it over to the next holiday year to take it at the end of your maternity leave, however if you don't do that, you have to be paid out for that holiday either when you come back or if they want to, they can pay you for the days at the end of the holiday entitlement year.

So, if yours runs Jan to Jan and you have the baby when say, you have 4 days holiday leave left, in your Jan pay, along with SMP you'll get those 4 days pay.

Does that make sense? It's down to them if they want to let you have the time or the money.

That makes sense as we aren't allowed to carry over. I go back on 2nd Jan anyway, so could potentially swap the end of my mat leave for holiday, or just get paid in Jan.

Bearing in mind my company thinks it can ask me to make time up for antenatal appointments, it wouldn't surprise me if they think they can also steal my holiday / pay!

Also payment for holiday only applies to the stat minimum which I believe is 20 days. So you can be paid for those but if you get 30 days holiday they only have to pay for 20.