August 2013 Part 3 - Adventures in the second trimester!

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Last fred here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1654660-August-2013-Part-2-Looking-forward-to-scans-and-the-beginning-of-bumps

Stats fred here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1655004-Due-August-2013-Stats-Thread

Welcome one and all to the wondrous second trimester where we shall bloom and glow

Noodles, I'll PM you.

Race for Life - I am going to do it in May (walking!!) with a bunch of Netmums people - will be 26/27 weeks by then. Just bought some bright pink deely boppers today to wear haha. I had cancer in 2007 so want to give something back.

Work - hoping to manage til 35 weeks but will play it by ear after 30 weeks, physical job so we'll see. I'll be taking the 9 months maternity and going back to my job hopefully, which is part time, but the business isn't doing so well so might not have a job to go back to by then :( but if not will still be looking for another.

x post with PFE., had seen already on FB but didn't want to say anything obviously, congratulations! First girl of the thread so far :)

Mat leave - I am also not working, ds is 3.2 - originally I took the year off and went back part time but found I had been demoted somewhat (unofficially of course) and they still wanted me to do 5 days work in 3 days, I got v stressed as couldn't get in early / leave late due to me doing all the nursery drop off / pick up so ended up logging on in the evenings and never taking lunch breaks. When I voiced my concern to mgr it was met with, "well I worked out you can fit that amount of work into 3 days, you prob need to be more efficient", hr weren't particularly interested either. Dh had started a new job so worked out I could afford to leave for a while and look for new job. I now realise, they'd kept my maternity replacement who still did my job so the job I went back to was a lower level so could easily get someone cheaper in, who would prob be paid less for full time than I got for part time. I never found another p/t job that paid as much, as soon as you say part time you have to drop your pay quite a lot and the ones I saw only just cover nursery so thought its not worth getting another job until in ready to go full time (which is prob going to he a little while yet!). So i left after abiut 4mths bit we are just about getting by :-)
Sorry I've gone on a bit there - it obviously still irks me a bit

Ooh remembering - congrats on team pink!! Seems your hunch was right.

Regarding race for life I was thinking about it (walking) as I norm do it every year but my nearest falls on the bank hop Sunday and we may be visiting in laws in Cornwall. But I would you'll prob be fine as long as you don't have bad pgp/spd probe as you can walk as slow as you like!

So anyone in the Edinburgh area fancy a mini meet up to slowly walk the race for life at Holyrood in June?!

remembering nice to start balancing out the stats a bit! Congratulations.

Killer headache today. When does the second trimester bloom start? I think I'm going to take my pregnancy back to trading standards.

What is the sheepskin for?

And can someone explain co sleeping too?

I've bought that ina may book - thanks for the recommendation. I've read the mums net guide to pregnancy.

Midwife 16w apt tomorrow. I'd really like to go alone, as I have some concerns I'd like to discuss without dh present.

16 + 5

Ruck, I'll be doing Inverness in May.
Woofers, co sleeping in the baby sleeping in your bed with you. Re bloom, I got told I looked all glowy today so I guess I've got it haha!

woofers hope you love the book
The sheepskin is a snugly liner for the pram/crib but I may use it for tummy time...
Does anyone have good resources or info on SIDS risks and dos/donts? I'm slowly realising how little I know...

SIDS? What's that? I'm having a lack of knowledge melt down

What's tummy time?!

Play mats are best for tummy time as you can attach toys. Most have a cushion thing to place on their breat plate also.

Tummy time for babies 10 minutes twice a day to stop their heads going flat at the back. Their skull bones dont fuse together until 18-24 months. Hence the soft spot. Also helps them to get use to being on their front. You will be told all this as time goes on.

Xxx

I'm reading 3 in a bed at the moment, all about co sleeping which I intend to do. If you bf and co sleep the generally accepted view is that it reduces SIDS risk. Although not all health care professionals are up to date with that. Hmmm, but given STBXH won't be here it will be 2 in a bed.

My scan is at 9 tomorrow. Quite excited but nervous too. Bit of a nightmare with health care and management of the Hyperemesis just now, so rather a lot going on. Wishing I lived somewhere bigger so I had some choice in health care provision but as it is I'm starting down the official complaint route tomorrow and hoping that the Hyperemesis clears up immediately and then that I had such a fast labour I don't even make it to hospital as I'm so angry with the midwives I don't want them involved anymore.

Soft spot also known in this household by dh, as self destruct button. (Clearly never pushed lol). My daughter is almost fused according to health visitor. My friends little boys head went flat at the back and has had to have op to sort it out. Didnt listen to advice given to her.

Xx

I have lots of great links on the real risks if co-sleeping woofers. It's not dangerous if you do it safely and there is evidence that it actually reduces SIDS rather than causes it as people assume. it means you don't spend hours each night trying to get them to stay asleep in crib/basket/cot. Great for bonding and sleep, particularly when breastfeeding really. I've read the Dr Sears thoughts and studies on it which got me looking into it. You can take the side off a cot and make a cosleeper (I have a tutorial for this if you want link) or you can have them in bed with you. If you can afford it a big bed is useful. We were lucky enough to get a bargain of a super king size bed on eBay recently.

neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/

www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2011/11/dangers-of-demonising-bed-sharing.html?m=1

Oh and sheepskin liners are just lovely and snuggly, but additionally, they keep babies cool in summer and warm in winter. They are naturally anti bacterial and sort of self cleaning (so don't need washing really just wiping with damp cloth for messes) naturally hypo allergenic, and don't absorb liquid (it evaporates). Because they are natural they don't contain toxic fumes that some people are worried about in mattresses so great as a 'blocking' layer in cots. You can get them as rugs/pram liners/car seat liners etc.

organic no fume sheepskin

Thanks very much for all the advice. Helps to get the wheat from the chaff on dr google.

Waves - to have a shit service when your poorly is pants. Your already vulnerable, and to have mistakes / poor communication is terrible

I have only just understood what you mean by tummy time. Tummy time for BABY, not me!!

Looooonnngg way to go!

Btw most babies, in my experience hate 'tummy time'. If you use a sling a lot and don't always lie them down for naps then it won't be an issue. 'Flat head' syndrome is usually just a cosmetic rather than medical issue anyway.

Oh and lastly, sorry for mass posts! Congrats rememering! Any girl names yet?

my two loved their time on their tummies, I think if it's started from early on as you can then they just get on with it. Helps strengthen their necks and arms ready for crawling.

My one hated being on his tummy. He learned to roll fairly early, I think because he didn't like being on his fornt!

Just wanted to say, Morrisons do non alcoholic wine which is actually not bad. Yummy!

Ruck - I'd be up for trying an Edinburgh waddle for life!

Congrats Remembering

My dd loved her tummy time. But then she now sleeps on her front. All babies are different. Just have to go with tha flow. First seem alot for daunting than second or more. I think because you've done it once, the scary parts become less scary but never go.

I dont agree with having kids in bed with parents. I wasnt brought up in my parents bed kinda rubbed off i guess. Same with food, a child shouldnt be praised for messing around with dinner and rewarded with afters (grandad always made me finish what i had on my plate, again must of rubbed off). Not that i'm overly strict with dd, she gets in bed with me weekday mornings for her bottle of milk and snuggle. But we dont sleep. And with food my dd is a pleasure to feed, eats everything and finishes is all. Please dont be offened by my views, this was how i was brought up.

19+1 xx

Woofers - you made me lol - bless you - don't panic too much, you've still got another 4mths to read everything and anything you don't know you will pick up along the way (you can't possibly know everything anyway)

We didn't co-sleep with ds, he only stayed in our room for 1 week - but his snuffly / baby sleep noises were soo noisy!! And I kept checking him everytime he moved / groaned / coughed anything so got neither dh or I had much sleep, so dh got fed up and moved him next door and I then had the monitor next to me to obsess over (but dh got more sleep) - dh went through a bit of a shock period after ds was born and it took him a while to adjust, as women we dont' get this luxury, we have to get on with it! This time we will be keeping the new one in with us for a few months and dh will probably sleep in the spare room

on the subjects of births too - i would say mine was good overall, very relaxed, contractions started at midday and he was born at 9.09pm so quite quick for a first baby - hopefully this one will be even quicker

Been feeling a bit more 'normal' energy wise the last few days so hoping I am now starting the 'blooming phase' - bump has been aching today though but I have done quite a lot of housework whilst ds was at nursery and it seemed to help to have a sit down later on this afternoon, just enjoying being able to have the energy for housework again (okay that sounds a bit sad doesn't it). Baby also kicking a bit more, gave me a proper boot this morning!

Woofers you have horses (same as me, now out on full loan :(.)
You remember when you got your first horse and it all seemed like a huge job. Mucking out, feeding/watering, grooming, excercise and all things inbetween. Same as a baby just a bit more hands on, same sort of feelings. Nervous, wanting to check on them every 2 mins to make sure there ok, happy, scared and more. Just remember baby steps and theres plenty of help around :) xxx

Thanks on the congrats. Have ideas on names - current fave is Abigail Rose...
Woofers, don't worry, I knew nothing 15 weeks ago. There is a lot of very knowledgable and helpful people on this thread and MN in general.