The 3rd Gemini Luxury Bus

[Librarina]

I thought I'd get our shiny new thread started, welcome.
Previos Thread

I also thought I'd include our little round up of who is having what, when...feel free to update, there's only a few of us so we shouldn't end up drowning in Stats!

kittykats : girl
JoJo: boy
Bringon: girl
Frust: boy
Blending: one of each
Lib: surprise - 1st baby - EDD June 7th
Lor: surprise (for now!)
Ohtheplaces: girl - 1st baby - EDD June 5th
Peardrop: boy

Not sure about general as you tend to pick up feeding tips and advice from other parents, health visitors and the like as you go on and all babies are different, in terms of feeding as babies that is covered in the book I used as to how often etc if you can get them to slip in, it basically says try to get them to start the day at 7 but between 6-8 is fine and so on, you may find a more flexible plan works for you frus as gina ford is like at 10:10 have some water at 10:20 wash bottles, I was like urr ill do them when I can ta and have a drink when I'm thirsty?!? No harm in looking though and using what works for you

Thanks kitty. I guess I'll just pick it up as I go along! I just have no experience with children at all so feel a bit clueless.

Bring on the NCT classes!

You'll be fine! I had to be shown how to change a nappy in hospital with dd lol as I never did nct classes just the free nhs birth one
One thing I will advise though is don't let baby have its big sleep chunk in the day, it's tempting when they sleep just to leave them but they only have one big one so you want that at night so always try to aim to feed every 3 hours in the day by waking up then night time let them sleep and just demand feed when they need it and make a big difference between night and day, naps in day in light room and noises and at night subdued lights and quiet

I might invest in the 'What to Expect - The First Year' book. I have the 'What to Expect When You're Expecting' one and really like it.

Ugh. Has anyone else had enough of bump ache and being the size of a house yet?
I'm exhausted and I'm waddling. Even DH doesn't think I'm going to physically make it to my due date.
And my mum asked earlier when my due date was; i was very elusive and said may/June and mine don't tend to arrive on dday anyway.

But on the plus side, my living room is decorated, I no longer feel the urge to clean everything, and I went shopping today and ended up with nappies, wipes, bum cream, maternity pads, nipple cream, breast pads, and mascara.
Definately something odd going on with getting mascara

Yes. Thoroughly fed up! I was trying to write with the paper resting on my knees but I really struggled to bend comfortably to write on it! Naughty baby waited until I was about 1/3 of the way through my tasty dinner before moving up into my ribs & making me regret the small amount I'd already eaten! He's stayed up there ever since & is giving me especially bad heartburn. BHs are so much more uncomfortable when he's under my ribs. They don't bother me at all most of the time but when he's right up the top I have to sit down & breathe whenever I get one. V annoying!

I can't join in with all the discussion of parenting books. I didn't read any! I read a lot about labour & all the likely interventions etc. but I figured I'd just feed/change/cuddle the baby when he cried. It seemed to work for us, except for the cuddling bit. He'd refuse to go to sleep while held most of the time! He slept for 6+ hours every night from about 4-5 weeks. I think that's got more to do with genes than technique though - both DH & his brother did the same! I'm really hoping it'll be the same this time. DS was such an easy baby. I'd like another one like that please! Except maybe the next one could be a mummy's boy rather than spend all day every day shouting for 'daaaahhh-deeee'...!

Omg the sciatic pain tonight work clearly doesn't agree with me, I can't bend over and it's agony plus I know the little Madame is still breech, can feel her head under ribs and kicks in fanjo last 2 days, someone make her turn!!!!!!
On plus news booked tomorrow off and going to paint a chest for dd, that will feel like an achievement and dh has been told he's getting some money back on old ppi so very chuffed he was so shit with money when younger very fed up of being big fat wadely pregnant women frus

Oh, right, yes, good news... My postnatal bath herbs are starting to arrive! So far I've got yarrow & lavender. The yarrow came in Bulgarian packaging & it took me ages to identify the Latin name amongst all the Bulgarian which I then had to google! I knew what the lavender was as soon as I picked up the envelope - soooo smelly! Also in the post today I got a letter confirming my right to maternity allowance. I have to send back a form once I've stopped working. I'm really tempted to send it back now & put myself on early mat leave! Would just mean that I get the money a bit sooner. That'd be nice!

I think I'm only looking at the parenting books because I watched One Born Every Minute and this women, who was progressing pretty slowly, was mock-testing her husband on baby knowledge - temperature of bath, how high up the blankets should come etc. - and I panicked because I didn't know ANYTHING. At all!

Sciatic pain sounds miserable kitty. I had that for a few weeks in the early days and it's really not fun.

I'm definitely getting a bit tired of being big now. Most of the time it's fine but it's bedtime that's boring me the most. Can't get comfortable, wake up all night with restless legs, back ache, hip ache. It's SUCH a mission to turn over in bed at night and bring my ridiculous big sleep pillow with me, but can't sleep comfortably without it. Moan, moan, moan.

Are blankets supposed to come up to a certain height? And what temperature bath? I've had 2 DCs and don't know this?

I've no idea!

If you've already had 2 and had no problems you're grand. It just made me feel like a dummy and total novice!

Just don't panic lorelei if you don't know it you'll get by.
Don't feel like a dummy because some mums need to follow strict instructions, unfortunately for me someone forgot to tell my babies

I put babies in sleeping bags and make baths warm until I put my hand in and it feels ok, there you go lor
Really all that stuff is pointless in my opinion
Been to aqua natel today to make myself feel better and pain gone again yeay and had lovely day with dh, would love to just finish now and have days to myself obviously

I do the elbow in the water trick kitty but only because my hands can take more hot than they should

I just tried to dash across the supermarket carpark with full trolley and dodge a car, and got a swift boot in the cervix that actually made me jump. Ooch!

I suppose I'll just trust my instincts! Total first-time-mum momentary panic. As you were .

I've just bought big definately not sexy pants half price too.

Ooh and tescos has 3for2 offer on some of their baby products (baby bath etc)

i am so angry with my mother.

What's she done frus?! Or does she often make you
Has anyone tried the new Malteser bar, like celebration ones but in a big bar, I'm doomed!!
Lor you will be great, most things are learned as you go on and you get alot if mw/ health visitor apps after baby is born, the only thing I found I was really unsure about in the early days was feeding/ sleep if you plan on breast feeding its so easy to give up in the beginning and I think get as much support as poss and ask lots if you need to, the rest is alot to do with your lifestyle and what you want, we are happy to get dd in a routine with going to bed between 7-7:30 and we go out after she's asleep if we want whereas I have friends who like to take baby out with them and keep them up till they go to bed, no right and wrongs just what's best for you, that applies to most things I think!
On another note, if I wanted a birth ball is it the sane as a gym ball ( I'm guessing ill get one cheeper) or do they have to be stronger to support our heft?

Thanks for the reassurance kitty. Makes me feel a lot calmer and I'd forgotten about the health visitor support too.

As for the Swiss ball thing I've been using an exercise ball I've had for years. Don't know what the difference is but it's working for me!

Gym ball definately supports our heft kitty as does a childs space hopper I have a large gym ball.

Unfortunately she does it alot kitty, she can be quite toxic at times. She has told me she has informed everyone (extended family) that my much planned pregnancy was a surprise, because she didnt want to answer her imagined questions about whether I could cope. Because apparently having a SN child, on top of her already thinking I'm a crap parent, means i must be mad and I'm not allowed any more children. And because she has no faith in me, she can't tell people to mind their own.
and I don't know why I'm so angry because it was predictable.

Grrr mad for you, why is it anyone's business but yours if it wasn't planned or was anyway?!
Ofcourse you'll cope, you sound like your doing a fab job especially with all this cleaning ontop of 2 dds you must never sit down! I think the fact you have a sn child and have chosen to have more shows just how capable you are. It was unfair of her to make assumptions and decisions on your behalf, if anyone asks about it perhaps ask them about how often they have sex and if they use protection then reply when they are stunned oh I'm sorry is that Inapropriate

It's extended family that I don't see. luckily. I can quite happily tell people how inappropriate their comments are. Although I've only had to say it to one silly woman at work. I know we'll cope just fine, in our little perfect family unit.

I told my mother she should have said "my daughter is 30something years old and doesn't discuss her sex life with me" now that should end unwanted questions.
DDs SNs aren't genetic, but DM doesn't look beyond the diagnosis' and unfortunately on the rare occasions that DM sees DD, dds anxiety levels are high because she doesn't see her regularly and her behaviour shows it, which means my mother never sees her on a good day. but she told me I was a crap mum long before any dx

But you're right, planned or not, it's nobody's business. I'm just angry that my DM felt the need to discuss it at all.

And on top of it all bumpy feels the need to bounce on my bladder, stick feet under my ribcage, and BH are getting more frequent but not more painful

Thrrrrrrp! To your mother Frus. And I'm having exactly the same ricocheting off my ribs and slam-dunking my bladder feelings with the baby, most disconcerting.

I'm very impressed with the baby knowledge upthread. I'm working on a policy of not finding anything out, then when the baby isn't like how it says in the book, I won't stress. I have got a list of where the baby groups and breast feeding cafes are so I can get support if its hard work.

I have just woken from an 11 hour sleep. Must be side effect of spending yesterday being massaged and pampered. Time for a lovely breakfast of pancakes then off shopping with my friend while DH watches football. I'm having a 3 day birthday and loving it!

Hello everyone!

I thought I'd just pop my head in and say hi. Obviously of all your bumps and impending new arrivals but very happy you all seem to be doing well.

No news from me here- I recently found out I have hypothyroidism which seems to have been triggered by my pg and will scupper any future chances until I get my blood levels right. So more waiting and lots of blood tests. Doesn't seem fair at times but its very treatable so I hope I will still get my chance one day.

jojo I've still got the thundercats FRER ready for its moment!

to everyone x

Hey thunder

How's the job going?