April 2013 part six...what does the third trimester have in store?

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joJo sounds like sciatica maybe? I've had it in my right hip/bum cheek from quite early on, same place when I was having 2dd's too, its jst gettin worse! Oh the joys Baby has been breech 2day too and I've been so uncomfortable! Finding it hard to sit down and get back up off the settee god knows what I'll be like in 10 wks time!

Got me some more baby bits today too, big box of wipes, socks, maternity pads, nappy cream, sheets n babygrows all from Asda. Need to start organising my hospital bag too, u ladies r keeping me organised! I'm booked to go to a MLU about 40mins away but giving serious thought to a homebirth atm (providing the 34 wk scan shows my placenta has moved)...anyone have any experience to share?!

Sorry to hear tht a few of you are having a hard time, hope the snow starts melting and the sun comes out 2moro!

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Hooray the rain has cleared the snow! Hopefully it has for everyone else too :).

I've been up since 1am today - blooming insomnia is really driving me mad.
You all seem so organised its making me panic. We haven't bought any clothes yet so although we have lots of donated outfits we have no vests, sleep suits etc. I do check m&s everytime I'm in town but they never have the smaller sizes and I really wanted m&s because of the integrated mitts and the quality is meant to be good. If I can't get any this week though I may just have to get them from elsewhere. Online ordering isn't possible because of where we live, delivery drivers can never find us.

We aren't decorating a nursery as we are hoping to move but I wanted housing association because private landlords are really hit and miss and I know the HA will keep up repairs etc. the only problem is the waiting list for ground floor properties and bungalows is around 12 months and because of my medical issues they won't let me apply for anything with stairs :(.

Hope you're all having a nice weekend!

Morning all
Sorry to hear there are various aches and pains still out there but so happy Alex and Mama are doing ok

Anyone else playing music to their bumps? I sing in a choir and we had a big concert last night so three hours of rehearsals friday night, three hours Saturday morning plus two hour concert last night, all with a full symphony orchestra and 140 singers. Every time the pipe organ, timpani and double bases kicked in, he went wild. Plus me doing lots of loud singing reverberating internally and it must have been a fairly intense experience for him!

It will be my last big concert for a while as I'm getting too tired for rehearsals after work three nights a week, but I'll definitely keep singing at home and will play him CDs regularly. Loud stuff with a strong beat seems to be the order of the day!

Just had the 4d! Will post on the fb group later!! All good tho!

Anyways I was just wondering what the hospital say about bathing newborns? Do you really have to wait til the cord drops off to give a proper bath?

My parents are visiting for the weekend. My mum just revealed that both her labours took about 4 hours. My sister was born at home and mum had no pain relief at all. She never tore or had any stitches. We were both late babies though so not sure whether that makes a difference

Please, please, please let it be hereditary!

bext I also do a lot of singing so bambino has been getting his/her fill from day 0. Since it's been able to hear and react I've been getting regular feedback and kicks-esp when I sing high (like to think baby approves rather than is scared!). From what I've read and heard from friends researching these things, there's no real evidence hearing music affects bambino's cognitive development or anything, but at the very least lovely choral music will be familiar to him/her on joining the outside world.....good prep for feeling entertained in rehearsals while dh and I take turns to push baby round while the other sings!!

*ratbag thanks, I've also read some bad things about bounty on here, I'm always very careful about giving out details to companies and reading the small print, but I haven't had any problems yet and in the pack they gave at the booking in appointment had some really good money off vouchers....anything to save money but I will bear in mind what you said

30 today only 10 weeks left

Afternoon one and all... Our new bed has been delivered DH is fighting with it as we speak and I can't wait to get into it.

jojo it maybe the start of some spd pain, keep an eye on it and if it gets worse speak to your miswife so you can get some physio etc.

So glad everyone is taking up the Whitch hazel advice, it really was a life saver for me and the number 1 tip I give to any expectant Mums. I am actually looking forward to putting that first freezing cold soaked pad in my knickers after birth

As far as singing and music goes, this bump is going to be able to bop along to Gangnam style when he comes out as that seems to be on a loop at the moment in this house from the DC's bedrooms and in the car

Jacqueline that is so funny that you mentioned Gangnam Style, as the only time I've felt my wee Bumpkin react to music was when that came on the radio once while I was driving. It was everywhere on the telly and radio at that time and I thought it was so cute that he/she might recognise the beat-DH on the other hand was absolutely disgusted at the thought that the wee one might share its mum's guilty pleasure of really cheesy pop music! [grins]

Sorry to hear about the discomfort that some are going through. I had terrible back ache yesterday evening despite having a bath and then a hot water bottle on my back.

empress I really wish fast labours were hereditary as my mum had super fast labours too. Unfortunately my sister had a long labour so not sure it's passed down darn it.

We stocked up on baby bits yesterday, now have some newborn nappies, a steriliser, witch hazel and lots of nappy bags all very cheap from Asda. My sister dropped lots of stuff round to us today including a cot, moses basket and stacks of new born clothes so we're rapidly ticking things off the list and I'll start thinking about the hospital bag soon.

Had a lovely day seeing my little niece who is one and a half. Amazing to think that she'll have a little cousin in a few months.

28 + 4 with 7 and a bit weeks (38 days) left at work, not that I'm counting or anything.

birdbrain yes! Though if you go in store they keep it in odd places. One boots store kept it with the first aid and another kept it with sun cream

DD has come down with chicken pox and has been taking it well so far, but I'm in for another week of not socialising with our normal group of mums and toddlers. Last week it was the snow and this week it's the pox. Ah well, went shopping today and topped up on chocolate and calamine to keep us sane this week.

Went to a second hand sale today and bought DD a large bundle of summer clothes... went to get some little stuff for baby :) always the way.

Empress I am heading to the RUH for this arrival as well. They do let you get to it on your own, they only have one water birth pool, so it's first come first serve. Maybe worth booking a tour, just in case. I had a really great bunch of midwives who were brilliant and listened to what I wanted and my birth plan, plus when i wanted an epidural it was in place very quickly. The worst bit was staying on ward for 3 days where I was the only mum in the room with a baby crying at all hours, tbh they expected her to have issues and pop along to nicu, but she was a stubborn madam. You can be discharged to a MLU if you need aftercare more than the baby. In fact a friend had issues after being discharged from RUH so quick, I advised her to pop up to the MLU and they kept her in two days and really helped establish BF [that was Paulton btw]. Trowbridge I hear good things about, but everyone I know that delivered there came home the same day as they had no reason to stay overnight. However I have heard if you are having difficulties and they have space they may keep you longer. PM me if you have any questions.

Evening all! Good to see updates.

Re singing - yes I've been singing lots, mostly listening to absolute radio 90s! Trying to educate it

All your preparations make me nervous! I've been buying little bits as we go along. Not even sure how much we have?! Sleep suits, couple of grow bags, changing mat (only need one as we're in a bungalow), some muslins (need more), newborn nappies, a mobile! We have fully cleared the nursery and put the border up today so I feel we're getting there! :)

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I forgot to ask: do sheets and mattresses for cots and moses baskets need to be brand new? My sister has given us hers and they're in great condition though used by niece. Could I just give them a wash and use them or do they really need to be brand new?

It seems a shame not to use them but want to be safe of course so will get new if needed. Any advice would be great, thanks!

I think sheets are ok but you really must buy new mattresses because of the SIDS risk. They aren't that expensive (about £30) and I certainly won't be taking any chances!

Hi everyone, thanks for your support a few days ago. Been at home in NI seeing family. Was nice to see everyone one last time. Tho my mum wasn't very nice to me. She's so attention seeking she can't cope with me being the news. Oh well.

Had a bit of a scare- went to a nice hotel & spa & overheated after getting changed to leave the spa. It had a heated floor& was really stuffy. I had major pains, was v v scary.

Then my husband hit the kerb & burst a tyre in a gale force 7 storm!
Luckily a sister is a doc & checked the bump & heartbeat ok. It was just me that was shook up.

Not a nice day, luckily the day after was better- my birthday!

My sisters gave me a whole car full of baby clothes & stuff! Our house is stuffed full now- time to declutter I think!

Re the mattress, yes it needs to be new- my mum tells me the Moses basket mattress is new- but I don't trust her!

Cripes milktray sounds like an eventful couple of days - glad all OK and hope your Mother gets over herself!

We had a bit of a stressful weekend - I had organised a decorator for the nursery as there was quite a bit of work to do in there. There was a crack in the plaster behind the wardrobe (been there for a while - we thought it was cosmetic!) and he asked if he could chip away at the plaster around it to get a better look as it was quite bad. I said knock yourself out and 10 minutes later you could see right through to the outside from floor to ceiling! It turns out that a small 2 story extension was added in the 90's (prior to us living there) and that it has not been tied in to the existing building at all so it is starting to move away from the front of the house.

So far insurance have said they wont pay out if it is shoddy building work and we are waiting for a structural engineer to check the foundations and advise the builder on the best methods of fixing the problem. It is potentially going to cost us quite a bit of money that we currently don't have and will mean a big building job on the run up to bumps arrival. RATS!!!!

Cor blimey that's not good news ruddy.
Good luck with the insurance.

And there's no danger of my mother getting over herself, she has to be the centre of attention at all times, everyone has to agree with her etc etc. however I don't play along, so she's a bit prickly to me.
(and was too busy to look after me when I had HG for 10 weeks )
So I really hope I dont need her help post-birth, as she will be soooo bossy.
Luckily I have a wonderful MIL who lives nearby. She is super lovely

itsaruddygame Oh no! Fingers crossed your insurance comes through! Our house is over 100yrs old and I live in constant fear of finding problems! It's depressingly frequent! so I walk around in the dark with my my eyes closed!!

I bought an eBay cot for £50, v pleased to find (this mothercare bedside cot. I figure it'll last a lot longer than the bednest or armsreach cosleepers.

Oh heck ruddy that sounds bad :(.

Good bargain candy, I have a saved search for co sleeping cots on eBay but not had a proper look yet.

The rain today has helped a big crack develop in the ceiling in the back bedroom and rain is pouring in through it. It's all over the baby stuff :(. I've rang the letting agency and reported it so hopefully it'll be fixed soon but all the baby stuff is soaked/ruined. We can wash the clothes etc but the steriliser I'm not sure about.

Has anyone else reverted to 1st trimester tiredness? I feel so tired that anytime I sit comfortably I end up falling asleep for ten minutes. I also have huge swelling from mid calf on both legs making walking so much more tiring. I'm hoping its not going to last the rest of the pregnancy because I feel so blooming useless. Although the sight of my legs getting bigger towards the bottom is rather funny!

That sounds awful ruddy! Part of my job deals with the insurance industry and I am in a unique position, so perhaps I can help.

A few questions for you...
Did you get a structural survey when you purchased the property? Do you have buildings and contents insurance? If yes, which provider? Do you have family legal cover with your policy?

Sorry to bombard you, and feel free not to answer if you don't want to, but happy to help if I can...

Hi all,
milktraylady that sounds awful so glad your ok.
ruddy what a nightmare! Here's hoping you can get it sorted out soon.
Alex is now taking milk feeds, he is resting much better as well which was scary but all is well. Not having the greatest day just want to scoop him up and take him away from all this.
I had a physio session the guy was cute at least but several attempts at standing bearing all the weight on my arms and we had to stop as my legs were literally swelling before our eyes. The pain is fairly incredible it stops me thinking Aargh its so frustrating!
My partner, and I'm using the term loosely here! Stopped by for the first time Saturday. Upset and sorry willing to do whatever I want etc etc. just another confusion. He didn't see Alex, what is wrong with him?!
Sorry for the me me me post, heres to a better day tomorrow.
I hope everyone is doing well and hope those with pain are feeling better.
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Oh and hi mrsdevere :) [waves]

Oh mama - you really do have enough to be dealing with without this dead weight. He 'stops by' to see you after however many months and didn't even see his son? Seriously- I think you should him to move along! (I know I'm being flippant and these things are easier said than done- how long were you together?- but you do sound as if you'd be better off without him.

ruddy - eeek- hope you manage to get it sorted.

And yes yes fluffeh to the tiredness. Had awful back ache which stopped me sleeping last night and I'm like a zombie now! Doing ok at work, but when I step through the door at home and can 'relax' I'm just good for nothing!!

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Gosh , everyone seems to have so much else to deal with besides this 'growing a human' lark!

I am now down to 19 work days to go until I start ML - DD1 is chief counter and reminds me every morning how many days to go. She is happy enough about the baby but she is really excited about me being home to take her to school and collect her in the afternoon too! She is already planning who she wants to invite home on 'playdates' as we have so rarely had people round.

My boss has finally got round to thinking about my maternity cover although TBH I am pretty sure she is leaving it a bit late! The advert has gone in the paper and interviews are set for the week of 11th February which means they then need to start the following school week (although there is half term in the middle) if we are to plan any sort of handover. Still, I figure that is not my problem but expect that whoever lands the job might be wanting to meet up in halfterm or will keep me busy with emails.

My boss has also asked me to complete the mid-term assessments on my classes and to then use that data to write my reports and to hold parent conferences before I leave. These are usually due towards the end of March.

She is being very nice though, but keeps reminding me she has a 'duty of care' so has offered me time to work from home to mark the assessments and to write the reports and will cover my class for an afternoon so I can hold parent meetings then and on one evening - but will give me a half day off in lieu the next day so I don't get too tired!

These are all things that we normally have to fit in around working and teaching full-time so it is really nice that she has considered what she can do to help me get everything done without getting exhausted. It still seems like I have a lot of stuff to get done in the next few weeks - and I opted to get it all out of the way before we finish for half term so I don't have the option of leaving it until half term to finish stuff - but that gives me 14 working days to get everything done!

Good evening!

Dysgu great to hear your boss is being supportive. Tbh after two previous premmies I think she is still putting quite a bit of pressure on you, it sounds like she could have been a bit more organised.

ruddy no helpful advice from me I'm afraid, hoping it turns out to be not quite the nightmare it seems at the moment.

I am well, 30 + 3 now. This week I am putting together a box of toys for DD1 to have as a treat when I am feeding baby especially first thing in the morning when I planning to feed DD2 whilst DD1 plays nicely on the bed before we all get up for the day. HA HA HA! I am mainly hiding old toys and books so they are 'like new' and adding some magic colouring books (no mess!), puzzles etc.

I had a pleasant surprise when I got home and saw a package on the mat. I happened to be checking fb on my mobile last week when I noticed vertbaudet had a fb competition where the first 500 people to enter their email address (which they have anyway!) got a free newborn bib, booties and hat set. It is duck egg blue with sheep on it- so sweet!

Thank you to however suggested Amazon Family, I have signed up and will then cancel.

It was my birthday on Friday and DH got me a kindle for breastfeeding at night, I used to really struggle to turn pages, balance clip on light and not drop the baby it is amazing!