August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!!

Foof - aw that's fab, glad everything was ok

Foof, fab news! And 'great' that you've got a reason for potential future bleeding...won't make you worry less but I'll gently remind you if it happens.

Did a bit of exercise today, no bleeding or cramps (had spotting last time I did some heavy lifting) so taking that as a green light to stop being flabby.

Yvonney, sorry to hear forceps is upsetting. Will you mention it to MW?

Had a rubbish labour with DS, I'm terrified of going into labour again, but been watching birth programmes to try help me, will mention to MW at booking, he was induced early & took 61hours from 1st pessary to DS arriving so as long as I can avoid being induced & strapped up on the monitor I hope I'll be alright.

10wks!

ps my DS was only 6lb 6oz

Yay thats great news foof :) I had an area of fluid too on my first scan they said it was most likely a bleed, they never mentioned it on 2nd one though so think it was absorbed back in x

Sorry to hear some are having a rough time :(

Can't stop eating ice cream.. Currently poking the other half to get him to go to the shop.. Ben and jerrys chocolate fudge brownie! Nom nom nom!

Gary - yeah will def mention my fear of another forceps delivery, and I def want an epidural this time round, didn't get one last time as anesthetist (sp?) was busy with another patient! I know the chances of that happening again are very slim tho x

Yvonney - me too! No epidural and flipping rubbish management of a delivery that went on just way too long, gave me a naty uterine infection and wrecked my pelvic floor. But because it was a 'natural' birth and relatively pain relief free that's supposed to be a success!!?? I'm thinking about asking for a section this time... not decided yet...

foof - yay!! good news!!! little legs...awww!!!

So flipping sick still, pro is that i'm losing weight a bit which is making bump beginnings stand out! Hyperemesis really sucks grrrrr

Littlemiss - oh no, you have my sympathies! I'm also thinking abt a section, although I know the recovery is a lot worse x

I am so sorry for your loss Hanikam, hope you are as well as you can be.

Foof that is great news! How exciting to see your little one.

I am making a concerted effort not to think too much about the birth yet. I am addicted to OBEM and anything else conception/pregnancy/birth related but am not picturing it too much yet. I have always wanted children but used to think when I was very young I wouldn't have them because I wouldn't cope with birth. I am starting to think now, well everybody else copes, why not me?

There is a hypnobirthing class local to me, has anybody with other children used hypnobirthing before? I am really drawn to it, I think my fear stems from being out of control and this would help me cope, would love to know if it has worked for any of you.

locket you can have the tub of Ben and jerrys that's in my freezer if you'd like?! bought it 2 weeks ago and still haven't fancied it yet. dh keeps asking if he can eat it but I bought us a tub each at the time, it's not my fault he chose to eat his!

sorry to all I've freaked out my mentioning SIL and her baby! I'm hoping for a birth more like dm had with me and db - less than 2 hrs from first twinge to babe in arms, 7lb babies.

Thanks for the hugs and support earlier and so pleased your scan went well foof

Things still pretty crap at home, dh has pissed me off by drinking 4 litres of cider. Idiot. So no sense out of him at all, and he is passed out on the sofa whilst I am in bed feeling a bit blue. My DCs are at my mums tonight, they needed a night off step sibling tensions, and I'll go down there tomorrow first thing. Hoping for a proper chat with dh tomorrow evening (nausea permitting)

I have no exciting birth stories apart from turning up for work in labour with DS and trying to reassure my boss I was fine to teach as first labours take ages . Second minor story was that I vomited bright blue stuff after DD was born. She was induced due to me having kidney problems so was a bit early, but fine. Midwifes were shocked by the colours of my vom though! Both were really normal, no intervention apart from the induction, not much pain relief and no instruments or stitches, and I'm quite small; 5'4 and a size 8 usually. I am however praying that the SPD stays a million miles away this time.

Hanikan, so sorry to hear about the mc, it's so shit. Best of luck for when/if you decide to try again.

Waves, men do and say stupid things sometimes when we get pregnant. My dp freaked out for months and wouldn't talk about the baby until v late in the pregnancy (my first was a total surprise) but he was on board at the end and adores ds. It probably is just a wobble, perhaps don't talk about it for a while, let him get his head around it? That's what I did. I remember mine drinking too funnily enough, and he hardly ever drinks, he drank loads of Newcastle brown (ugh) and was really really sick, bless him.

I'm feeling a bit less tired and sick today too (9 + 2) haven't had a nap all day. Definitely should be asleep now though, it's 2am! Oops.

Foof that's brilliant news I'll remind you re:the bleed should it not be absorbed...

trenchcoat I'm thinking about hypnobirthing too. Like you I'm concerned about the birth and really want to be as natural / pain relief free as possible assuming all is ok. I found a book I'm going to start with. DH thinks its Mumbo Jumbo.

Waves men are idiots, sadly. Mine said he would not drink through my PG in solidarity (he does drink a little too much and stopped before for 18 months) I'm now at 11 weeks and he sank a bottle of red last night, again. Which isn't loads I know but I'm wondering why say you'll stop when you have no intention. sorry, I'm grumpy with him anyway cos I was woken up 35 mins ago by him ripping my pillow from under my head. He was asleep and thought it was his. I'm now wide awake and REALLY could do with more sleep grump

AIBU to want to wake him up too (don't answer, I know IABU and I won't do it, but the thought is making me smile a teeny bit )

Scuba If my DP did that I would be absolutely enraged! I'm afraid I'd resort to violence. It's bad enough when he shoves his arm under my pillow. (Oh it's comfy for you, is it? No matter that my head is now five inches higher than I'd like it to be, who cares whether I'm comfortable or not, eh?)

Waves So sorry your DH is being an arse. What does he think he's achieving? Tell him to grow up. In all seriousness though, I hope he does buck his ideas up and decide to start supporting you.

Locket During my last pregnancy I consumed litres of ice cream. I love it anyway, but normally exercise some restraint. I may have to go and see what they've got at the supermarket :)

Foof brilliant news, how exciting to see baby wiggling about!

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat I used hypnobirthing for my second child and it was amazing. My husband thought it was mumbo jumbo too but now is a total convert! I couldn't afford the classes which cost hundreds of pounds (well worth it if you can, I'm sure) but it was enough for me to read the book and listen to the cd which came in the back of the book. I wrote down the breathing techniques and some of the imagery which I thought would help me and practised those. It just totally changes your mindset about giving birth and makes you feel totally relaxed, confident and in control and utterly convinced that this is what your body is designed to do. Instead of being crippled with fear, panic and pain like my first hospital birth which ended in epidural (nothing wrong with that if you want one but I didn't) I had a lovely totally drug free water birth at home, and i'm sure it was all down to hypnobirthing!

SendMum how interesting! Your birth sounds lovely. I'm currently reading the effective preparation for birth and will buy the cd soon. I'm really hoping to be more relaxed and more in control this time round. With DS labour was really painful, I ended up having an epidural after a good few hours in lots of pain and whilst he was born without complications or intervention, it didn't really enjoy the whole experience. If I find he cd nod exercises really helpful, I may ask to go to our midwife led unit this time.
Which book and cd did you use?

Duende I used an older one i think, hypnobirthing: The Mongan method. My first birth sounds very similar to yours, it was ok as nothing bad happened and my baby arrived safely, but I felt really out of control and I knew I didn't want it to be like that again. Hypnobirthing gave me the confidence to make sure I got the birth I wanted! I also had a great team of homebirth midwives who completely believed in as little intervention as possible, so they didn't examine me once apart from listening to the baby's heartbeat to check he was happy. So I never had the dreaded "you're only 5cm" or whatever which just knocks your confidence!

Sendmum - that sounds fab, I may look into hypnobirthing. I actually know someone who does it but not sure how much they charge. My last labour was fine, I just breathed through the contractions and even the midwife commented on how calm I was. Me and DH were laughing and joking as I felt drunk with the gas and was singing along to the radio! It was just right at the pushing stage, it was out of my control and I needed forceps. I think if DS had been the right way round I would of pushed him out no bother x

7+6

I'm thinking about the birth too. I had a record breaking (?!) 75 hour (1st stage) labour with DS, culminating in a C-section. I recovered super quickly - walking around happily 8 hours afterwards, driving in 3 weeks etc. So I'm wondering if I just ask for a C-section again! Though I worry that I won't recover so easily (I'll be 42) and it's harder with a 5 year old to look after too.

Am also thinking about how lovely it was to do NCT last time, and that it's a shame second time mums don't seem to get that ready made friendship/support network, but seem to
just go it alone. I enjoyed my maternity leave SO much, that I want to do it again! DS is at school so I'm hoping I will be able to squeeze in coffee & cake fests, trips to baby cinema (brilliant idea), monkey music classes etc...but am I living in cloud cuckoo land?!

SendMum thank you for that, it sounds great, your second birth is just what I want. I have a fear I would just be overwhelmed by panic and something like hypnobirthing would help me, even if (maybe especially if) I have to have interventions. it's that idea of positive thought that appeals, that my body knows what it is meant to be doing.

The classes near me are £200 for a small group, nearer £300 for private. I think it is a good investment but it is interesting to know you can do it successfully without a class. My boyfriend is fairly open minded about it, I don't know if he would enjoy the classes though.

Pic on profile (I hope!?) can't really see the arms at all, and can vaguely see where legs are, head is on the right

Foof, amazing!! I can't wait to get my first scan!

Aah foof how blooming lovely. So pleased it went well for you, what a cute little bean you have!

Yvonney - Im the same re section, might be a more straightforward delivery but the pain afterwards puts me off I used hypnobirthing cds and while DS's birth obvs didnt go great i found the cds were good for taking some of the stress away and i'd use them again

I'd like an orgasmic birth.

T'was in the Grauniad and everything