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[janey1234]

Hello all..,
Let's clog up a brand spanking new club over here

(By hello all, I guess I mean hello hazle. Hopefully the others will join us soon...)

See now I understand why I instinctively liked you guys, you're DOG people and everyone knows they're better!

I had a bag full of miscellaneous crap gifts from work at Christmas which has been in the boot of my car ever since. I got it out today and in amongst the rubbish stuff was half a bottle of Baileys. I haven't really missed booze at all since getting upduffed but for the first time I could now murder a Baileys! DH might have to drink it to stop me thinking about it!

Well this is weird, I seem to be getting smaller instead of bigger. Laundry crisis today which happens when you only have one pair of jeans you can fasten and they need washing so I put on a pair I've not fitted in for WEEKS thinking 'I'm only in the house, I'll put a belt on and leave everything undone' and they fitted fine theyre not even tight. On closer inspection I've also regained a bit of a waist and apart from a big low sticky out tum look thinner than I have in ages. Weird, it's like the fat that was all over my torso has now congregated in just one place.

Are you trying to make us jealous, Purple ? If so, it's working!

Oh, and DH agreed tonight that we could get a private gender (and wellbeing) scan, so I went online and booked one before he had even finished speaking and before he had chance to change his mind. We're going on Thursday night

Woo hoo Rach! That's so exciting!

Now who is making who jealous?

Oh that's so exciting!

Ladies, have you got your flu shots or what are you planning to do about it? I usually don't - not being anti-vac or anything, I just never seem to catch any viruses or bugs going around, not even when DH does, so I haven't bothered. But we're going to Puerto Rico and it's full of Americans, who currently have this massive flu epidemic. So I should, right?

I had a flu jab at 8 weeks on the advice of my Midwife who said better safe than sorry. I too rarely get ill and didn't see the point in giving the baby unnecessary chemicals but was convinced it was completely safe and for the best. I will have the same dilemma with the Whooping Cough vaccine in the later stages.

I with I was going to Puerto Rico I have just booked a mini-break for DH, me
and the dog in May when I will be about 34 weeks..... in a static caravan in Cornwall

*wish!

I haven't had a flu jab yet, not because I made any kind of decision about it but because I hadn't got round to it but after seeing how much this cold knocked me on my arse I might get it done now. I wish I was going on holiday to anywhere even Cornwall!

I had it, as I was ttc so thought it was a good idea when they were giving them out for free at work. I never get ill either but thought it was sensible. I got my BFP about three days later!

I'm being a grump today. My DP is off on a jolly skiing for a few days in two weeks time, and I'm taking the opportunity to go and see my nan, folks and family. My very lovely cousin (GP) has offered to borrow some kit from work so everyone can hear the heartbeat. I've said no though because a) I do not want to get my belly put in front of parents, aunties, cousins, uncles and my nan when it looks this awful and b) what if there's something wrong? If anything does go wrong I want DP to be with me, and not to have a massive audience there. I know the odds are minuscule but what would I then do - call DP in Switzerland to tell him? Be comforted by people who aren't my DP in the interim? I know the odds are so slim of anything going wrong but having had something go wrong against the odds before (mmc at 12 wks having heard the heartbeat at 9) I can't help but worry. I think everyone in my family now thinks I'm being silly and making a fuss, but the thought of anything going wrong is terrifying enough, but finding out without DP fills me with dread.

Am I being totally ridiculous?

No you're not ridiculous. I'm not even so much thinking about something actually being wrong - chances are so small by now. But you'll find many stories if you google about how even experienced midwives or docs simply can't find the heartbeat even at 18-20 weeks (even though everything is really fine), so you'd be massively stressed if this would be the case. Your belly, your choice!

I think that's perfectly sensible, why risk panicking yourself over potentially nothing if you can't find the heartbeat.
I'm usually very rational and not prone to panic but pregnancy does bad things to you and there's a voice on the back of my brain locked in a cupboard pounding the door shrieking 'why are you thinner! The baby is SHRINKING, PANIC!!!' But I'm ignoring her and not letting the silly cow out of her cupboard. Even my SIL said I looked skinny today.

You're not being ridiculous Janey. It's your body and only you decide, so whatever makes you feel most comfortable and it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
On a side note, my daily amateur dopplering finds the heartbeat about 3/4 of the time and I hear the placenta 'beating' every time. I find a full bladder helps, as does hilariously clenching the buttocks - I have no idea how this second one makes it easier to find but it definitely does somehow!

I went to John Lewis today to look at the Uppababy Vista pram/pushchair. The sales lady was very helpful and gave us a full demo.... and then proceeded to do the same with about 5 others, all of which looked very good. So I am now back to square one with no idea which one to buy! I have brain ache!

I just saw that we have a baby stuff flea market organized in our very own village at the end of the month - first one ever, how lucky is that? It's a very small village, there are about 10 kids born each year, so I don't think there will be a massive selection. But we don't know anybody with small kids here (we only know other dog owners at the moment ), so probably a good place to meet other local parents and chat about nannies and things.

Are you all planning to go to some anti-natal classes? Apparently also a good place to meet other new parents.

Only problem I have with classes is the ones in my area are run by sure start/ children's centres and unfortunately I'm one of the people that go and give talks to parents to be. Could be a wee bit weird for me if one week I'm in the audience and the next I'm standing up giving a presentation!

purple that's intersting, what do you teach there?
But I think think it's weird - even if you weren't pregnant, it would be totally understandable to go and see what others are talking about, so you don't contradict each other if you have overlapping topics or so you can offer alternative viewpoints. If I was a participant, I would not find it odd at all.

I'm off to see the Midwife at 3.30 - absolutely dreading the weigh in. I even thought about skipping lunch but decided against it and pigged out instead.
I assume she will ask me about a birth plan? Or does that come later? If she does ask, my birth plan currently stands at: REMOVE BABY AS FAST, PAIN-FREE AND SAFELY AS POSSIBLE BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY!!

Is this your second appt rache? Mine asked about a birth plan at the booking in appt, and said if I wanted to talk to anyone about an elcs (still totally undecided) I need to tell her at my 16 wk appt so I can be referred to a consultant. I wish we had longer to think about this stuff!

Good luck re weigh in - I'm to scared to use my own scales

Yes second appointment. She only asked where I wanted to give birth on the first so I assume she'll ask now.

Nope, no mention of birth plan. She said we'd discuss it at 25 week appointment so I have got another 7 weeks to swot up on types of pain relief!

No weigh-in either She said it's not required unless I want it, which I really don't and would much rather remain in denial!

She had a listen to the heartbeat, which reassuringly is the same sound as what I'm hearing on my home doppler and means I'm not accidentally marvelling in awe at the sound of my dinner digesting. She also said that the only reason I can detect it myself this early on is because I have very little belly fat.... I am starting to really like this woman

Guffaw at "accidentally marvelling in awe at the sound of my dinner digesting"!
Re low belly fat, that's not something I am likely to hear!!
Had my scan today, there was a heartbeat! Must not get ahead of myself but made me really happy

Awww, Zombies it's such a massive relief isn't it? That's great news! Welcome to the post 12 weeks ever so slightly less neurotic club