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April 2013.....we're halfway there! (Part 5)

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bunnygirl80 · 02/12/2012 01:50

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Bambino29 · 28/12/2012 22:05

A belated merry Christmas to everybody!

Mama - hope you and Alexander are doing well and you're on the mend. Been thinking of you both over Christmas.

Determined that January will be the month I start getting organised! Anyone found a good moses baskets? All the ones I've looked at seem to have mixed reviews online.

Will you be tuning into 'One Born Every Minute' this week? Usually love it but not sure if it's wise watching it whilst pregnant. The reality that I'm going to have to give birth in a few months is starting to hit home! Maybe ignorance is bliss....

23+5

enjay0811 · 29/12/2012 01:13

Well booked my 24 wk appt today but fully booked until wk afta nxt so will b 26 wks! Thanks for advice toobreathless I havnt seen the mw since booking in at 8 wks though! They took my bp and checked urine at 12 wk scan at the birth centre but I was told tht they don't do 16wk appt's as its not my first and classed as low risk. Hey ho, I feel ok and baby is moving loads so not worried. I do wanna get bp checked though, been feelin out of breath and a bit panicky like my heart is racing last new days. Anyone else got this?

bambino I love obem! Giving birth is the easy bit (obvs only in my experience) its the tips people give for looking afta a newborn on mn etc tht I think are more useful Smile

Hope everyone is enjoying the Xmas break. Can't scroll bk on my phone to chk names sorry but I am a regular lurker!

24wks

tattooedapril87 · 29/12/2012 06:36

i have been awake since 330! help!

ratbagcatbag · 29/12/2012 11:36

Hi tattooed, I guess now is bad to say I'm still in bed abs mnetting in peace Xmas Grin I have had the three am wake ups before though and they're horrid.

Ok I really need help, pleaseeeeeeeee

What do I need for baby?

Obvious is

Cot and furniture
Travel system - think spotted just got to buy
Moses basket
Bedding - lovey set already donated to me
Steriliser - already had given me
Baby monitors
Cat net for basket otherwise baby will be sharing. :)

There must be other stuff, so nappies, clothes, towels, cloths etc but I hae no idea how much etc

Not bothering with baby bath as have big sink. :)

toobreathless · 29/12/2012 12:07

Nappies: beware stockpiling as some babies get rashes with one brand & they grow out of sizes 1 & 2 very quickly.
Wipes: for when out & about.
Cotton wool (not balls)
Baby bath: if desired, we didn't use anything for a few months.
Vaseline
Calpol: generally not given to under 3 months but a dr may advise you to give & lasts ages.
Baby suncream (factor 50+)
Sudocrem.
Changing mat: we had one upstairs & one downstairs.

Lansinoh cream
Nipple shields
Maternity pads
Big knickers
Nighties for labour/hospital
Tens (if desired)

Muslins x 10
Baby blanket x 2
Baby bedding: sheets & sleeping bags
Warm cardigan or pram suit. We used cardigan end April 2011.
Thinner cardigan x 2
Sleepsuits X 5
Vests x 5
Cotton hats to wear after birth/home from hospital, at least 2.
Sun hat x 1
Outfits (if desired, we didn't bother)
Baby towels (could just use normal towels)

Car seat Plus adapters if desired for buggy/pram
Some sort of buggy/pram
Sling (if desired)
Moses Basket/cot
Changing bag with mat.

If planning to mix or FF (steriliser/bottles/teats/formula)
Dummies (if desired)
Baby monitor (if desired)

Probably forgotten loads but HTH.

toobreathless · 29/12/2012 12:08

Clearly I meant baby bath as in the stuff you put in the bath. I will reassure you that we did in fact bath the baby!

ratbagcatbag · 29/12/2012 12:52

Thanks too, I think I'm going to drag a friend to babies are us ( I'm still dossing in bed at the moment Blush

MumOfTwoCats · 29/12/2012 13:13

Hey ratbag i`ve been wondering how to keep my cats out of the crib when baby is not in it. ia a cat net like a mossie net?

ratbagcatbag · 29/12/2012 15:55

Hi two cats. I think so, I need one for when babies in it too, our cat likes to sleep on people :)

Teapig · 29/12/2012 18:08

Ratbag and mumoftwo if you find a net that keeps cats out do let me know where you got it. I know our two cats would happily get in with baby. My sister gave us a baby bouncer chair thing and one of our cats was straight in it, definitely going to need a cover for the moses basket.

Thanks for the really useful list toobreathless, I'm going to start getting things to spread the load and it's really helpful to hear what's needed. DH and I keep falling in love with 3-6 month clothes which we must resist and buy the practical things we need now. We allowed ourselves a lovely little jumper and a cute coat in the sales but now it's time to crack on with the necessities.

Trishstar · 29/12/2012 18:57

Great helpful list!

We got the tommee tippee electric steriliser set that has the bottle warmer and loads of other accessories in the mothercare sale along with an activity mat x

KelleStar · 29/12/2012 19:22

empress you can use it with the seatbelt, but it is much easier to have a base to click into. You can pick these up on eBay quite easily. With the seat belt, the lap section run over the top of the seat, through those hooky bits, it means that you have to thread it through every time, where as if you have the base, you strap that in with the belt and the seat clicks in and out for easy removal with a sleepy baby.

ratbag we never found the nets that helpful tbh, though we don't have resident cats, mine is still at my parents and she won't go near noisy smelly things.

I went into Bath with DD this afternoon and had a really good run of the sales and it was really quiet. Lovely stuff in M&S had some lovely bright stripey vests [sleepsuits too but we have lots of them] and a few things for DD. I did best in Boots and the prices were quite good, again I spent money on DD.

And to add to toobreathless's list...

Nappies & Wipes: really agree about not stockpiling until you've tried a few, DD did not get on with quite a few of the leading brands, but Aldi seem to be brilliant and now I stock up. Also the same for wipes, she was better with the aldi wipes too, though the herbal ones were lovely but very pricey
Cotton wool: is really handy for giving a wipe down in those first few weeks, rather than a full bath.
Baby wash: agree we never bothered for a while, I bought an all in one from boots, was cheap and still does DD well now.
Calpol: The boots own brand has a handy syringe that makes delivery less messy than trying to spoon a baby.
Baby suncream (factor 50+): DD also came up in a rash with some brands, so it's worth trying a few... I bought the sample sizes to try first.
Sudocrem or metanium. I have never bought one, I had sample pots from the bounty pack of each, tbh DD never really had much nappy rash.
Changing mat: we had an ikea spoling table for downstairs, day to day we used a muslin to line the table and the inner panel can be chucked in the wash for poonami's. 99p local collection on eBay. It folds up, so takes up a tiny bit of space. Bought a changing mat, but mostly changed DD on my lap with a muslin.

Lansinoh cream - a saviour even if you don't breastfeed, sore chapped nipples or even lips
Nipple shields - didn't need these, but knew our local Lloyds have them 2 mins up the road.
Breast pads - lansinoh ones were good and had a granule lining, also used the reuseable boots ones, you just stick them in the wash [in a handy bag]
Maternity pads - don't go with heavy duty period liners, the maternity pads are really gentle on sore bits and soak up much more, they are hugely bulky, I kept mine in the fridge, oh the cooling bliss on my stitches.
Big knickers - I had more issues with big knickers, but did buy my normal pants in the next size up for comfort. In fact today in the M&S sales bought me a new stash.
Nighties for labour/hospital - also take your maternity leggings for a little bit of leg coverage for visitors. Also they are comfy over your sore tummy.

Muslins x 10: I had 20, but I used them for all sorts, tucking under my ginormous norks to catch leaking BM that would get all over my tops.
Baby blanket x 2 - I slept on one the last few weeks of my pregnancy so it would smell of me, it was comforting for DD to smell me when in the box on ward for a few days.
Baby bedding: sheets & sleeping bags. I love gro-bags [and other brands] great for fidgety baby's that kick off blankets. They say their heads should be bigger than the opening, so there is no risk of baby overheating if they slip inside.
Warm cardigan or pram suit: Pram suit was good for wrapping up in, but I used a wallaboo car seat muff which kept DD snug in winter and the liner can stay in the summer and is nice and cool for them to sit on.
Thinner cardigan x 2
Sleepsuits X 5
Vests x 5
Cotton hats to wear after birth/home from hospital, at least 2.
Sun hat x 1
Outfits (if desired, we didn't bother)
Baby towels (could just use normal towels) we had baby ones as they are very soft on little skin, our towels are a bit crunchy.

Car seat Plus adapters if desired for buggy/pram
Some sort of buggy/pram
Sling (if desired)
Moses Basket/cot/crib: DD hated the moses basket but was fine in crib/cot.
Changing bag with lots and lots of pockets

If planning to mix or FF (steriliser/bottles/teats/formula) again don't go overboard, DD had to find the perfect teat and we went through a few options before we found one that worked.
Dummies (if desired) whoever invented ones that glow in the dark deserve a medal, easy to find in the dark and replace.
Baby monitor (if desired)

we do have a tumble drier, but it's not used if there is sun about to dry the washing, but winters are much easier with the tumble drier around and I don't think it's pricey to run, we spent £45 running it over the last year.

photochick · 29/12/2012 20:25

wow thanks for the lists - very helpful for first timers like me!!
Been sale searching again today - must remember to buy practical things not just cute things!!
Been feeling lots more wriggling these last few days Smile
23+1

birdbrain17 · 29/12/2012 21:01

hmm about the anti-D injection I read in the book 'what to expect when your expecting' (really good by the way) that it's only a problem me having a negative blood group if DH has a positive one otherwise the baby will automatically have a negative blood group so there's no problem with antibodies. Has anyone heard of this, we're thinking of him having a blood test to check blood group but only worth it if the hospital will then accept the results. As you can tell I'm trying very hard to get out of this injection!!!!!

Having so much fun shopping, bought lots of good bargains in the sales, kiddicare.com seems to be really cheap for a lot of things by the way even with not sale prices...only problem is with pushchair/travel system. I have shortlisted from what I found online but there's so many in the shops I'm getting confused about what I want Hmm and one that I really am interested isn't stocked anywhere near me.....Is it silly to buy a buggy that if there's problems the nearest shop is miles away?!

25+6 Grin

p.s welcome to george hope you find this thread as helpful and fun as I do Wink

OComeAllYeFaithBaby · 29/12/2012 21:09

The anti-D is for all women who have a negative blood group. Basically there's a risk if your OH has a positive blood type that the baby will have a positive blood group. There's always a chance your blood will mix at birth (lots of bleeding) and you can have a reaction to the positive blood type. Worth doing a bit of research around it though because it's not totally risk free all this is from memory from my midwife placement 6 years ago!

I think I need to bookmark the recommendation lists! :)

toobreathless · 29/12/2012 22:16

Just thought I'd mention that Mothercare has Gro bags reduced from £30+ to £10 in my local one! Shame we don't need one. Also 1/3 to 1/2 off all monitors.

aufaniae · 29/12/2012 22:59

Some thought on travel systems - they may or may not suit you depending on your lifestyle.

You can choose to get a travel system (which comes with car seat) or get a separate car seat and buggy.

Instead of a travel system, we got a buggy with carry cot, and a separate car seat, it suited us because: travel systems are usually chunkier than non-travel system buggies. A narrow buggy was better for us as we had narrow stairs to our flat, and I used public transport a fair but - a narrow buggy is easier to maneuver on public transport

People tend to get travel systems because you can get your baby straight out of the car and place into the buggy without waking them. However I read at the time that babies should not be left to sleep in the car seat for lengthy periods (not very good for them). I think many people don't realise this. (Worth checking if this is current, my knowledge is 4 years out of date!

bunnygirl80 · 30/12/2012 00:53

aufaniae I didn't bother with a car seat that would clip onto pram for the very reason that I didn't want DS to spend more than a couple of hours a day in one. Also, I'm a cheapskate, so got him a car seat that fits birth-4 years, rather than getting one that would last 6 months, then buying exactly the same birth-4 years one when he outgrew it, because it's the one I wanted for him for 6mths+ anyway. Travel systems didn't seem particularly popular here 2.5 yrs ago when I was pg with DS, I think because we have totally different car seat laws manufacturers won't bother making them for Aus/NZ only as we're such a small market, and pram manufacturers won't make the prams compatible with Aussie brands. I think we struck lucky with DS because he transferred from car seat to carry cot on pram without waking, or if he stirred he'd resettle as soon as the pram started moving.

toobreathless's list is pretty comprehensive. I'd agree about not stockpiling nappies/wipes in case you find that brand don't work for you. DS was also out of the first size of nappies at 6wks, and we skipped size 2 and went straight to size 3 at that point. I never bothered with cotton wool, I bought some because it was on the list provided by the hospital, but it's still unopened in our bathroom cupboard 2 yrs later. If you're looking to not spend too much, then a Moses basket isn't essential and they only last a couple of months. I'd either get second hand or see how you fare with the cot to begin with. If you sleep baby horizontally rather than lengthways in it, and roll up blankets (not too close to them) then you can make it seem like it's Moses basket sized.

I would put dummies firmly in the essential category, even if you'd prefer not to use them. All of my friends were very anti-dummy while pg, but I think the longest any of us lasted before buying one was about 3wks Grin

Some babies are extremely fussy about which teat they'll take when you offer a bottle, so again I wouldn't stockpile until you're sure you'll use them. I used Avent bottles and you can use other wide necked bottle teats on them. Luckily for me DS wasn't fussy as long as food was coming out of what he was sucking he was happy, but the Avent teats made him very windy. I used pigeon for a while as they have a slower flow, so bf babies apparently cope better with them (worked for me anyway!)

I'm now 26+1 and the arrival of dc2 suddenly seems scarily close!

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Fluffeh · 30/12/2012 06:50

Thank you for the lists. Although its quite scary how much stuff we still need!
I tried sale shopping for clothes but there was nothing that wasn't very blue or just plain white. DP is having panic attacks because there's only around 16 weeks till the baby arrives eek!
My consultant said they should do the cs at week 38-39 and I remember when she first said it, it seemed an age away now it's practically round the corner.
Silly noisy hailstone woke me at 5am today. The first night I was actually sleeping in over a week haha!
Is anyone planning to bf but not co sleep? I can't co sleep because of some medication I take, stopping it isn't an option, so I'm really worried I'm going to spend most of the night getting up and down feeding/changing/settling. How soon can I realistically expect to be able to express so that DP can take over a feed or two at night?
No one in my family or friends has breast fed since my mum but she died when I was a child so I have no real life experience with that.
23 weeks :).

KelleStar · 30/12/2012 09:06

Fluffeh you could go for a baby bay or side crib, it means they are away from you but nearby enough to easily slide them over for a feed, without the danger of lying on them. My friend used one and though expensive she sold it 2nd hand for almost as much as she paid, they hold their value well. As for feeds, DD was FF for the 2am feed and BF for all others from 9 weeks when I struggled, I never expressed very well.

SneezySnatcher · 30/12/2012 09:55

Fluffeh I'm planning to BF this DC (BFed DD for 13 months). We ended up co sleeping with DD eventually but I was too scared when she was tiny! This time I have a cunning plan!

We have just bought an Ikea Gulliver cot for in our bedroom. One of the sides comes off and it can be fastened to our bed. This way the baby will be close by and easy to feed but I can roll him back in his own space once he's been fed! I considered a co-sleeper cot but they are extortionate, especially as we have the nursery furniture from
DD. I did end up actually sitting in a chair and feeding DD for the first few months - looking back I wonder what I was thinking!

WRT changing - I did night feeds, DH did night changes and settling (it's only fair)!

itsaruddygame · 30/12/2012 10:53

The lists are a great help! My Mum bought me some lovely gifts for the baby from Brora for Christmas - booties, a cashmere hat and a gorgeous blanket. I also bought a sleeping bag and a few clothes and other bits. The only big item I have so far is a bedside crib which a friend has lent me. All I have to do is order a mattress for it.

Hope everyone had a great Christmas. I hope Mama and Alexander are both doing well and hope for an update soon.

Ollibobs · 30/12/2012 11:33

Thanks everyone for the really helpful lists!
Question for you all: if I buy a Maxicosi Pebble/Caribo car seat, do I need the Isofix base as well? And what's the deal with Isofix points in cars? Do you need these in order to use the base, or can you use it in lieu of the base itself?

I'm so confused! Shock

Missmuffet28 · 30/12/2012 12:22

Cars manufactured from 2002 on have the isofix points you can check just by looking down the crack at the back of the seat there should be two metal d-ring type things down in there, and you attach the base to the car with them then you attach the baby seat to the base no seat belts or anything involved! It is soooooo simple no faffing about leaning in, in the rain trying to get the seatbelt on right! Just click on and click off, Especially useful if you are transporting baby in same car usually but even if your not its not a huge deal to move the base either so long as the car has the isofix points, I was told not all bases are compatible with all cars tho so you would have to look up whether the one you want goes in your car but mothercare have a huge list to tell you if your dropping by there anytime soon Smile

Missmuffet28 · 30/12/2012 12:26

Although I should point out there are bases you can secure to your car with just seat belt if that's what you require, and you don't NEED the base you could just use the seat belt with your seat it's just something that makes your life a little easier and also has its safety pro's, cons's are unless you can find a second hand one they are an added expense Smile