March 2013 VIII: feeling kicks, comparing knits and halfway there

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Old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1588951-March-2013-VII-Our-little-pumpkins-are-getting-fatter?msgid=35174657#thread

HEy Gummi - xposted - hope the apple cake helps and you get a much better night's sleep tonight xx

Manda you have the same belt as me takes me about 10 mins to get it on right and comfy but it's got to be done!!

Lexi they recommended swimming to me and the truth is I can't swim but felt like a baby saying that, lol! Instead I made excuses re work etc

Fab news on house stormy how very exciting for you

Yes it appears being sick and missing an important target meeting worked yesterday as he realised he can't access any financial information with out me and can't do anything himself as its to complicated!! Plus has agreed i can get rid of my assistant and get a proper one as current is beyond lazy and I spend so much time re asking him to do stuff and chasing him up! So he got a verbal warning today for walking in at 9.20 two days this week with no apology when he starts at 8.30 and turning his computer off at 4.55 so he leaves at 4.59! Productive day :)

Anyone looking to get a nursery/ feeding chair I have a discount code for the kub Haywood glider chair for 119.95 instead of 240.00 until Saturday morning that you can use x

Evening all,
Just place marking really. Been having my weekly surge of pregnancy hormones causing exhaustion and weepiness, gah! Reading as always but not up to name checking and chatter! As always however, reading makes me feel like I am wrapped in a duvet drinkinghot chocolate and that i'm in the room with you all listening!
Love to all xxx

Hi all.
Am suffering from a distinct lack of ebthusiam for any sort of activity. My get up and go appears to have packed and left. Sigh.

Ethel, same here, I am hoping it comes back! I have had the last three days off sick and will be sick tomorrow too. Where is my glow???

Sorry to those feeling lousy, waves at all those having trouble catching up and hugs to those who need them!

Apologies for crapness!

[evil laugh] I texted DH who is 2 floors down baby is very thirsty and he bought me up orange juice and a toffee crisp :) wonder how long this works for

ohhhh what I'd do for a toffee crisp!

hi everyone!

Toffeecrisps hurt my mouth, far too prickly! :)

There is an August thread! How can there be an August thread? We will have five month old babies when they have theirs. GULP!!!!!

An August thread where is time going!!!! I had a scary thought earlier- even if I do the best possible I have one more clear month until baby arrives which will be December and that starts next week and that's best case sernario for me- no chance of me gettin into Feb jan will be a miracle at this rate

I have the man well trained on toffee crisps. Just about every time I open the tea-and-bread cupboard, I spot another one lurking in there. Not entirely sure how I'm going to train him out of the habit when it's time to lose the baby weight...

The first of August is thirty six weeks tomorrow. And isn't it the case that, in a forty week pregnancy, you're not actually pregnant for the first couple of weeks, because they say forty weeks based on LMP rather than date of conception? I'm not sure I'd have been comfortable talking to anyone about being pregnant two weeks after doing the deed in case I jinxed it.

I know what you mean, Stormy - although I probably did as soon as I'd peed on a stick with DS. Learnt my lesson in my second pregnancy though...

Well that's the job application gone. Wish me luck ladies, I really want this job! It will be a tense few weeks but I should know by Christmas!

well done possom! keeping everything crossed for you!

I can't keep up with you all......

Backwards glad you are feeling better, what a thing to bring up a storm of emotions. It was September for me, I just didn't know how to feel. Hit 12 weeks with this one the day after would have been old due date. Really really bittersweet, not helped that first appointment with MW she thought it was the same baby! :( Well done with application. Really good luck with it.

Hi everyone, have really enjoyed reading the childcare/sah debate. Its one of my favourite topics to chew over and in rl people get fed up with me or offended. I think the main shock I got when becoming a mum was just how stuck in the closet this topic is if you aren't in the situation where you're facing it. I definitely would have considered it more in my pre uni/post uni decision making process if it had been anywhere near my radar back then. One book I really love is 'I don't know how she does it' by Allison Pearson (NOT the film based on it with SJP though). It is just very real, funny and really nails the inner conflict/guilt that mothers feel. This society just needs a better plan of how to manage this stuff realisticly, fairly and efficiently - and soon!

I went to the docs this morning, love my surgery, I rang at 8.40 and they were able to see me at 9.10! Took some wee as was basically expecting to get diagnosed with a uti, get my antibiotics and be better by tomorrow, but wee came up clear. Her basic conclusion is that I have flu - which would explain why I've been feeling so crappy. Maybe effects would have been worse though if I hadn't had flu jab Means however i'm advised to rest tomorrow too so need to miss another day at work. Still when I rang into office today looks like work I left for my team to do is being getting on with so that's a weight off of my mind.

I've decided that I'm still going to want dd to go somewhere when ds is born. I think it will be good for all of us! I phoned up a playgroup that's in walking distance and they have places from when she is 2 :) Also its £7 a session (3 hours) and she can do one or two sessions a day, that's cheaper than I'm paying now!! Think I'll start her on one day a week straight after christmas and work from home, which means dropping the commute one day, which by that stage I think i'll appreciate. Feel rather chuffed, and suprised as I thought I wouldn't be able to put her into playgroup until at least 2 1/2 and that i'd be looking at £60 a week for two mornings at a day nursery.

Snap Manda & Zoey - I also have this lovely belt to hold up my bump! My only issue is I wear it over my clothes and have to remove it when at work and going toilet!! Anyone outside waiting will hear the Velcro straps and must be totally confused when I emerge from the toilet!!! 5 mins after I flush the chain!!!!!!!!
Why oh why have I been up for nearly a hour!!!!
I have to get up at 6 to wake up ds13!!!!!

Hello everyone, sorry too far behind to name check properly, but I will be better... Hurrah for boss seeing sense zoey hope the support belts help for those that have them and good luck with the move stormy

Is anyone else still exhausted? At 22 weeks I was expecting to have a bit more energy. I was sleeping very badly - got a grand total of 3 hours one night this week, and had to take action, swapping sides of the bed so I was nearer the window, and getting a v shaped pillow to support my bump (which is still quite small!) and go between my knees. Seems to have helped.

My 20 week scan was lovely, and we've completed missives (Scottish version of exchanging contracts) on the house and flat, so that's all go.

The childcare discussion was very interesting. We're in a slightly different situation because I'm in a fairly safe civil service job and earn a bit more than DH even when he's full time. But he's an architect, and the industry is just in a state at the moment - so he's been put on 3 days a week. He does very well freelancing on the other two days, so we're building up our savings, but we just can't rely on his wage to pay the mortgage, or afford to lose my wage. So he will stay part time and look after baby 2 days a week after we both go back from parental leave, and we're currently working out if we can afford for me to go down to 4 days a week. We did work out that we can afford for me to take an extra month's mat leave on top of my 6 months full pay, and for him to then take over for three months. It's working out quite well, because financial necessity is backing up both our hopes to share things equally, but we'll have to see what works in practice. I do hope I can go to four days a week though.

Last night we were sitting down with spreadsheets and nursery fees trying to work everything out and ended up with six different scenarios! Pushed it too far when the childcare vouchers website suggested that if I took vouchers I'd be paying just £136,000 income tax a year!!! We gave up and had dinner rather than trying to work out what had gone wrong...

count I wear my black tube support thing under then my belt then my normal top over so I can wear it all day- it itches and drives me nuts on skin but this seems to work :)

For those haing a wobble with the loss of previous babies- i hope you feel better soon, I have been struggling with this too and almost a feeling of guilt when I get excited about this baby and it hits me the one I lost! Mine was due Xmas day which in my terms would mean I would have my baby now ! I have a friend on Facebook who had a miscarriage the week after and was the same and near enough everyday she posts about her baby and how heart broken she is and even went and got a tattoo- I know everyone copes differently but it's hard to see everyday ESP when she puts things like no one how it feels etc!!! I know how it feels and I have those feels but I wouldn't share it on facebook like that and no one ever knows what others have been through so you should never assume!!!

Another rough night (though better than the night before) so I've pulled a sickie and won't be heading into uni today. I'm just too exhausted to learn!

Is it weird that I'm not remotely interested in discussing child care plans yet? Everyone expects me to have it all figured out already. Especially the uni, who every time I meet with them ask me about what I plan to do and I should have something in place by now, honestly they want the finer details!. Even my family and OH's family want to know. But the truth is, I'm takin 7 months out of uni in order to have a baby and look after him.
After that I'll have to move back down south with a baby in tow to finish my degree. It might be that my family can pitch in and help, sparing us the child care costs if they can't then i'll have to find a nursery but it will be so short term I don't want to worry about such things until baby is here safely!
Maybe I'm just odd. I just don't want to plan for nursery if its not necessary. My parents would be delighted to look after him so unless their health changes dramatically I think that would be the best option.
I'll worry about finding a decent nursery when I get my first post graduate position and will be working full time.

All this talk of toffee crisps is making me want one and all I have in is an enormous 'share' packet of wotsits like that's going to happen or some frozen potato waffles. Looks like beans and waffles again for breakfast :)

Still finding it hard to keep up. I might just use Facebook for a while because it seems more manageable when things are hectic.

Hope everyone is well. It's much easier typing on my phone with the wrong finger so am using that. This week has been manic. Ds3 is ill and so has been awake loads in the night which combined with loo breaks has made me feel beyond exhausted. He seems a bit more cheerful today but is losing his voice which sounds v cute but is sad poor baby. It's his birthday next week so at least being ill this week should mean he is ok for that.

Hope everyone else is ok. I haven't been able to properly read posts so apologies for not name checking.

self pitying moany post alert-also TMI

I've def got dd3s cold thing now. Voice went last night and been in pain from my ear all night, then threw up a ton of snot (sorry TMI) this am in the shower. Am so tired & achy. Think I'll cancel Appt this afternoon as I haven't the energy up get there especially without someone to drop me at the door.

Sounds like everyone is getting post baby plans in place. I have done what I can - courses completed, cv done etc etc - so now just have to wait until post baby and get out there.

Am also sending DS to a playgroup 2 mornings a week so that he can have lots of fun when new baby is here.

He is a little rogue but a totally loveable one. My Mum says that a 1 - 2 year old should never be out of your sight so I only have myself to blame. Totally agree so need to up keeping an eye.

Getting a few pains - hoping it is not spd but otherwise am in top form. Full of beans.

Haircut is good. I was all set for a bit of upset but she totally understood and cut it as I like it. Gave me a hug as I was leaving. She has 4 sons - 2 of whom are only 12 months apart and always has great advice.

Lashing rain today so need to change plans as was suppose to be walking with mums and babies. Mum and baby library time first. Viewing a new house tonight. DH not keen but am curious and it is a short walk from the school the boys will go to for 14 years so would be perfect I think. Dreaming of walks to school and rugby matches and general nice convenient life!

Great to hear of house exchanges, new rentals, kicks and general good life.

Happy Thursday all.

OC x

Morning ladies. I too am suffering - nasty cold - I'm in bed and despite best laid plans yesterday to work from sofa just ended up sleeping all day. Am stupid busy so timing not the greatest. Typical. But I can't power through with lemsips til weekend and it's someone else's health at stake, so remain in bed I am. Hope everyone else's who is suffering is coping.

My friend went into labour yesterday morning. I had a text at 05.35 saying she'd had an epidural, was 9cm dilated and babies head was turned awkwardly causing delays but she was looking forward to meeting him/her. Sounds rough. I know her plan was birth pool and she's v determined so I'm guessing she must be in fair bit of pain to give that up in favour of epidural. I've everything crossed for her though and role on meeting Socs playmate of the future.

Morning everyone. Sorry hear so many of you are suffering so much. It's a shame pregnancy doesn't make us less prone to bugs. Here, all have a . I still can't sleep (hips feel like they are coming out of sockets) but I think I'm getting used to it now.
October Sounds like you have a lovely hairdresser there. I'm still looking for one despite living in the same city for 8 years now.
JoJo Not weird at all and sounds like it will be great if your family can help with the childcare. You have made me want waffles now
zoey Glad your boss finally saw sense! Sorry you feel down about your loss too. I think I have come to term with mine more since the due date passed. I see what you mean about the facebook friend, it is a bit much isn't it.
Tea Great news on the house and flat.
Good luck with the job possom I'm sure you are more than capable of getting it.
Ethel My get up and go has gone too. If you see it, let me know :)
Right, once again I must get off mumsnet and do something useful.
I'm thinking of ordering my pram today. What do you think? Too soon?

sheldon. defs not too soon. I was pulling pram wheelies with mine last week :)