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March 2013 VIII: feeling kicks, comparing knits and halfway there

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theTramp · 03/11/2012 23:24

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zoeymlucas · 08/11/2012 15:57

Your prob right Tramp I am just someone who keeps going till they break - litrally! Despite everything this morning and them wanting me to stay in I still trundled into work straight after and have sat at my desk like a grumpy git ever since just trying to get stuff done!!
However I have emailed boss about working from home over next few weeks and despite being sat in the office 10 steps away he replied we will talk about it on MOnday!!

GummiberryJuice · 08/11/2012 15:59

Children pie lol

October relax and spoil yourself and ds this weekend

Sundae stew sounds yummy we are having quick cheat chicken pasta, its my quick comfort food, a packet of schwartz chicken supreme, chicken, bacon and mushrooms, pasta and loads of cheese, dd1 takes some into school for lunch the next day

Zoey again plenty of rest please

Can't remember what else I was going to say

Baby on a quiet day, so tried to copy a couple of you and made a big cup of hot chocolate, nothing, so I shall now blame you for unnecessary calories Wink

pinkpeony4 · 08/11/2012 16:57

Three my midwife just does homebirths and the woman with 7 has had 6 homebirths! Still very hard to believe she would go and do the school run after giving birth but you do get that adrenaline high don't you? I however milk it and try and have as much rest time I can!

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theTramp · 08/11/2012 18:00

Myjob - well your pelvis is starting to loosen an widen in prep for birth and your back is coping with that an increased weight, so not surprising. I cannot recommend highly enough how nice a pregnancy massage is in easing up aches & pains a bit.

Oct - well done you on dealing with what you can deal with and not worrying about ifs & could be's. Sounds like they're looking after you well at hospital. Now time for your DH to step up. Can I suggest you book yourself a pamper day. Hair cut, nails done, foot massage, friend for lunch.. And just let him know date, fact that he's in charge of kids and that on day xyz needs to be done. Serving of own medicine and all that .. :)

Zoey - go see MW and/or doctor. Explain what's going on. Get something in writing from them re: you need xyz for health reasons. Walk into meet with boss Monday. Allow him to say his piece. Present him with Dr note and explain - if I'm to continue to manage work load to high standard I and you expect this is what needs to happen: I work from home 2 days a week. I leave daily at 4pm (arrive at ?). You and I start planning & implementing maternity cover. We agree parameters where I assist whilst on mat leave. We do this now or based on what Dr is saying I'll keep going as I am until I collapse and have to be signed off on long term sick which is of no practical benefit to either of us.

Sound doable? Or at least something along those lines. Just make sure you walk in prepared! Or I'm going to get cross with you young lady.

Loving sounds of warming pies and stews comfort food dinners. Think it'll be salad for MrM and I tonight. Have been wee bit comfort food heavy last few days, a little balance required following Chinese take away Tues and Yo Sushi last night. Oops.

Hopeeveryone has their feet up this evening for well deserved rest.

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Oodthunkit · 08/11/2012 18:33

zoey If you don't look after yourself you'll break and/or have a v early baby. Better to take time off. Or get a fit note from GP saying you can only work X amount of hours/days etc.

theTramp · 08/11/2012 18:46

Myjob - pre baby two nights out a week and one bottle of wine in pub each night = min £40. Which = min £120 a month. Which is way less than pregnancy massage...

helping? This is how my spending logic works :)

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lannyshrops · 08/11/2012 18:54

Evening all!
Glad DS had a good party yesterday, but boo to feeling unwell and being busy today zoey, you deserve chocolate!!
Sorry to hear you are so tired sheldon working FT and being preggo is not fun is it??
Hooray for scan manda and bacon butties! yummy!
october sounds like you are having a grotty time at the moment, you too deserve chocolate!

Re BP - I am the nurse! soey you have been correclt informed! As a general rule, 'normal' is about 120-150/60 -80 but depends on what is 'normal' for you. If the top number is less than 100 then you can feel a but unwell and also if the bottom number is greater than 100. Can cause various problems with other systems in the body due to high or low pressure. I am more than happy to explain anything in depth if anyone wants to inbox me x

re pill, Iwas on for years but suddenly started having hot sweats so came off it and they all went. I've not been on it for a year and used condoms before falling pg. I really don't want to go back on when LO is born but equally it's the hormones I dont want to take. I really, REALLY dont like condoms so any suggestions welcome! Did someone mention a copper coil which has no hormones?? Fertility and family planning not my bag!

Lots of movement to report at this end, at last!! Anterior placenta really masks things! Was in a meeting yesterday morning and had a lovely filter coffee, forgetting about the caffine, LO LOVED that! I was being well and truly booted afterwards! She even made me yelp at one point - bit embarassing!

lannyshrops · 08/11/2012 18:54

Not soey cleary zoey! Sorry for typos, I really should check before posting!

mandasand · 08/11/2012 18:58

Zoey hope you managed a snooze and feel a bit better. I love your yawny scan pic! Ours did a lot of swallowing (think the caffeine I had this morning had already woken them up!) I love knowing about the orientation because then I can interpret the kicks much better. Like you, I have a tendency to keep going with things past the point that is sensible. Exemplified in my attitude to something like decorating. I'd rather keep going till 2am and get a particular job done whereas DH will start off knowing he will finish at 10pm and start packing up at five to ten! Different work ethics, hehe! I used to work till the early hours all the time when single but that has gradually changed since we got together and now I'm pregnant I do try to listen to my body as much as I can. I get really frustrated at my lower energy, but think it's important not to stress my body out too much. V. approve of Tramp's tough love talking - do you think you can do that on Monday? Sounds v.g. plan.

I had early lunch once DH went to work after the scan ? and then fell asleep on the sofa for two hours! Managed a bit of work but at 5pm had irresistible urge to sleep again, but also a real craving for salt and vinegar crisps so to satisfy that and to wake myself up I've just been to the Coop! Hopefully I can fit another 30 mins of work in before DH arrives home.

October I think I missed your first post about accreta and had to look it up. Does sound fairly serious, but best to be forewarned and there's quite a bit to go yet so I think you're right not to dwell on it yet. Great that you will get looked at regularly from now on. Ahem, re your DH's lack of weight-pulling! It took mine a few weeks to realise pregnancy wasn't just a state of mind and was having a big impact on my body, energy levels, hormones etc, but once he understood that he's been absolutely great. Took a little while renegotiating things though. Hope you can get yours more on board.

Funny about comparing notes on our cervix length, Pink! I had no idea they were so long in the first place! I'd have guessed at about 1 cm, but it's so reassuring to know that our babies are relatively safely tucked up in there.

Sheldon, gosh, no wonder you've been feeling lightheaded! Mine was similar at Tuesday's hospital appt, 110/60, which for me is ridiculously low as, similar to you, I'm usually borderline high! I hope it doesn't get any lower Shock Think you may have to cut down on the lunchtime strolls, though! Wink

Gummi don't worry about baby's quiet day. Sonographer today said mine were facing all limbs in which is why it's been a bit quiet on the belly front Smile

Myjob I'm with you on the backache! Can't sit still with it, and the osteopath doesn't seem to be helping. She spends a lot of time trying to straighten my pelvis out (which is never going to happen as I've got mild scoliosis of the spine and I'm naturally a bit wonky all over) when really I want her to dig her fingers into my back muscles! I'm blessed having this natural health centre at the bottom of the road, but perhaps it would have been better going back to my normal clinic where they know my foibles? I decided to go local because I should be able to continue going even when I'm too huge to move, and she specialises in pregnancy, but it's twice the price of the clinic I normally go to (students training up to be osteopaths, supervised by the best in town). But, actually, a cab there and back would be the same as going local. Ah well, I feel a bit locked in with her now as she's (hopefully) going to fit me into her pregnancy yoga class with another expectant twin mum too... Is there anything like a trainee clinic near you? I get an hour there for £20 which is a lot better than £40! Or try a hot water bottle which has really been helping me. Or physio on NHS? My appt came through fairly quickly (altho once a month appts aren't going to have a great deal of impact).

Lots of hearty tea plans! We're having vegetable and lentil stew. I can't even face chopping and stuff so DH says he will give me a hand when he gets in. 6 Music, a swig of his Speckled Hen, a bit of a cuddle and I'm sure I'll perk up!

Happy evenings one and all!

mandasand · 08/11/2012 19:00

Lanny hello! Laughing at your coffee-induced kicks in your meeting yesterday Grin

OctoberCarrot · 08/11/2012 19:26

Thanks for all the support I really appreciate it. I hope DH gets more onboard with everything. He is a great husband and dad but a bit old fashioned!!! Being stay at home mum doesn't really suit me so I struggle to do the housewifely stuff whilst he expects full on homemaker. Compromise is the orðer of the day. Am off out for lunch etc next weekend so will relish that time out! Don't think he appreciates how demanding being at home is and I know I only have one baby who is the best child in the world but everyone needs some time out I keep reminding him!

Lol at children pie. The chicken pie was Delish. Would really recommend it:

www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/chicken_and_leek_pie_77394

Yes grotty time at the moment so Chocolate is a great idea. Must make a cuppa and have some to cheer me up. Then I need to check if phone has dried out..... At least I will have a new toy to play with.

Weekend will be nice - Having two girlfriends over for dinner on Sat night. Really looking forward to it. Going to open a lovely bottle of red to go with beef and even treat myself to a glass.

Roll on tomorrow. Have a coffee morning date with some mums. Should be really nice. Just made a lemon cake for it. I am a real delia these days!

Hope everyone is having a lovely evening.

Oc x

Vivee74 · 08/11/2012 19:56

Hello, just catching up after a few days... Lots going on.

Stealth, we are looking to move to Reigate too!!! In canary wharf but looking to move there after Christmas. We looked at a house last week. I know no one there but have heard very good reports of it. It's closer to OH''s work and still easy back to London, which I will miss...

Similar to others am worried about my support network and social interaction once on maternity leave/baby arrives. All my family and close friends are in Australia. As we are moving ill know no one there. OH has family within half hour, but they all much older(siblings all 60ish), so not close to them. Really hoping that nct will open up a support network, otherwise think I will struggle.

Had a fun conversation with guy at work tonight. I had a dress on that definitely does not hide my bump, which I think is very obvious. Anyway he was asking how my running was going. When I said I hadn't been much lately and was slow he proceed to give me tips on how to improve!!! The other guys where laughing away, but he obviously has no idea...

Em2010 · 08/11/2012 22:28

Hello All just placemarking a bit!! Very sorry that I can't properly name check (I'm on my phone) as ive really enjoyed catching up with today's posts!

zoey really sorry to hear you've not been sleeping well, always makes things seem that much worse. As others have said, please take it easy (else a gang of us will have to stage an intervention - with cake Grin)

pink am so so very Envy at the woman with 7 children, that is how I would like to be. In reality my life is more Wayne and Waynetta....

stealth Reigate plans sound great. It's a lovely corner of the world.

lanny loving hearing about the coffee kicks!

All ok here, ds has had a fever since yesterday but doesn't seem in the slightest bit unwell with it. Just chalking it up to 'one of those things'! Still very achey after yesterday's stair encounter, was up half the night as my back, hips and legs were aching so much! Am very tempted by tramps suggestion of a pregnancy massage.

october sorry to hear about your accreta concerns. Fx all will be well for you. Out if interest what is the Irish healthcare system like? Is it similar to the nhs? Sorry if that sounds totally ignorant! I'm very curious about the healthcare systems of other countries! (Spent a lot if time at university comparing maternity healthcare in USA vs UK)

I'm watching the inbetweeners film and laughing away am so mature!

eigmum · 09/11/2012 08:35

Lovely to read all the news and so hard to keep up!

Keep pushing re the extension, the laws are getting better I think so a second try might be well worth it.

I am wondering if something happens with your thyroid at this point as I am getting really thirsty after taking it, better go back and make surevi'm not overactve now. Nice to know I am not the only one in that camp! I also have low blood pressure 90 over 50 late two times. I can't stand the whole way from Wimbedon to Waterloo without fainting or sitting on the floor but as long as I don't stand too long or get up too quickly it's fine.

Dinette brings back memories! Over 20 years since I was on that. It is hilarious these midlife visits. After my first she said " now we need to talk about contraception" . I said ( to the lovely child - sorry midwife) but seriously she looked about 16! I'm 35 - this is my first pregnancy , i was lucky enough to fall pregnant the first month dh and i tried so I get how it works. She went on and on and in the end to get rid of her I said fine, I'd read the bloody leaflet but sex was the LAST thing on my mind thanks. I am already thinking about getting sterilized after this as I know I don't want any more kids and am getting on a bit but doctor says I should wait and see. I am thinking if I am having a c section anyway just get it all over with!!

OctoberCarrot · 09/11/2012 09:14

Feeling buzzier today.

Lashing rain here so really looking forward to coffee morning with mums and babies.

Did I moan about dropping iPhone into toilet. Tried to dry it out which didn't work. Incommunicado is growing on me..... I could get used to the silence!

Have a good day one and all.

OC x

OctoberCarrot · 09/11/2012 09:16

Vivee. It must be hard not having family close by but I think children open up friendship doors. Make sure to get out to mums and babies clubs etc. you won't get on with everyone you meet but you'll meet some gems. Also if you are brestfeeding there are lots of support groups where you can meet other mums.

LexiandBeanette · 09/11/2012 09:21

Zoey I think Tramp has the right idea - don't break yourself! It sounds like you already go above and beyond for work but you need to look after yourself, too. ((hugs))
October sorry to hear about your DH, sounds like he needs a reality check - hope you have fun with your girl's dinner. Glad to hear that at least the consultant seems to have things in hand and is keeping an eye on you.
Vivee big hugs to you, I feel I can't complain re: family being far away as mine are at least in the country!

Architect came round and he thinks there is a solution that will give the headroom we need. However we obv need to pay him extra for proper plans (though he will handle building control for us!) and then our builder needs to price up the extra cost of the clever solution. So we aren't out the woods as we were on quite a tight budget. Will wait on the builder to see.

May be a bit quiet for a few days as off to London for an overnight stay to see Swan Lake with my oldest friend - looking forward to it but a bit anxious I might crash out about 9pm :) Brunch in town tomorrow and lovely DH has offered to come and pick me up. Hope you all have good Fridays and I will catch up at the weekend!

zoeymlucas · 09/11/2012 10:06

Thanks for your support guys I have actually taken it on board and emailed boss last night and said I want a meeting today as I am unwilling to let this matter drag into another week as its urgent and can not put put off so we have a meeting at 12 today!!! As you said Tramp I have written down all the facts and have even brought my notes so he can see hard evidence for himself as consultant wrote everything in there!!! So thanking you muchly for your support etc its given me a kick up the rather large backside :)

However Em an intervention with cake does sound amazing and worth a go

Really sorry to hear about your iphone October I would be gutted if that was me - my DH's phone got wet and broken and replaced the LCD and screen himself as it would turn on but had no light so he couldnt see anything and it costs like £15.00 and was all fixed - and he is USELESS as fixing things so it must of been easy.I want one of them dot com also sell special dry out bags for phones I have no idea if they work though

Enjoy london Lexi that sounds amazing and i am very jealous I love that sort of thing but DH really isnt into it and neither are any of my friends Envy

Hmmm a nurse that means I can ask my questions and not bread DH's no Dr google rule evil laugh However after a better nights sleep am feeling a lot more 'human' today

Oodthunkit · 09/11/2012 10:51

eig I'm going to get sterilised this time.

OC have you tried it in a bag of rice?

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theTramp · 09/11/2012 11:46

Had private scan today. Socs is a contortionist. Loads of room in there but choosing to squish in a dive bomb position and clearly v enamoured with his/her feet. Which were up over head, in mouth, touching nose.. Silly baby.

Private scan lady gave us lots of developmental info. We've checked up on brain, heart, kidneys, lungs, stomach etc etc and all with nice explanations and arrows to show us relevant bits etc. Sooooo much better than NHS scan, lovely as NHS peeps are, an picture quality 1000 times better.

Also- because Socs is contorting and hiding below my large low placenta the chances of me feeling much more than flutters etc is pretty slim. Basically the placenta is getting all the kicks. But plenty of movement, just proper rolly polly stuff. What have we got coming our way?!

Zoey - really pleased your taking control my dear. Sadly if you don't it's not looking like anyone else will. Give him hell! As the Spartans might say.

Lexi - fingers crossed.

Myjob - I'll let you know how they go then, hope there's some precarious living through me that works sudden magi on your aches & pains ;)

Oct - pop phone in bag of rice, aids drying by soaking up water.

I'm off to chiro now (eek). And am shattered. Not looking forward to an afternoon of work. Want bath and sleep.

Vid now sent to Grandparents so they can join in the fun.

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Vivee74 · 09/11/2012 12:51

Myjob, couldn't be bothered to point out the obvious to him. He's previously given me 10 minute "chats" about how to make £3.50 reselling old mobile phones, then given me more info the next day on the same topic. Hate the idea of endless parenting advice from him once he worked it out, so kept quiet for a bit longer.

Good on you zoey for sorting work out. Hope it goes well. I want to have the conversation about working from home a few days per week soon, but need to catch boss on a good day!!!

Tramp, private viewing sounds good. Thinking about one to get photos in a few weeks.

Happy Friday all..

Oodthunkit · 09/11/2012 14:30

tramp dd2 was hyper in pregnancy and still is!