March 2013 VIII: feeling kicks, comparing knits and halfway there

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Old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1588951-March-2013-VII-Our-little-pumpkins-are-getting-fatter?msgid=35174657#thread

Welcome Furry! We're due date buddies.

Put me in the "sodding minipill, aaargh!" camp, please. I went on it in September last year. They wouldn't let me have the normal one because a) overweight b) smoker and c) family history of embolisms (my dad had one in his leg a few years back). I thought great, it's supposed to stop periods entirely. Hah! Spotting for nine bloody months. It was such a relief when the man agreed I could come off the pill in May, although it does mean I'm a bit worried about what contraception I'll go back to after Stormageddon turns up.

Myjob, blood sounds terrifying. Very glad you're okay and everything's looking good in there.

Really unpleasant baby-dream last night. I had twins, and they were taken away, and I wasn't allowed them back until I could remember what we'd agreed to call them. No problem with the girl twin, but I couldn't think what we were planning to call the boy twin - we haven't got a boy's name since we're not having one. Spent a lot of that dream hysterical and screaming.

Thanks Em, I may have to go and buy some malt loaf now.

em my mind just read your last post as 'a wonderful homophobic doctor got my periods back on track'. I was genuinely wondering why he would reveal he was homophobic and if that had anything to do with his desire to fix your periods.... It's going to be a looooooong day in my mind today :)

ah jojo i'm giggling now!!! not seen any homophobic doctors (that i'm aware of!)

Welcome to the 2 x newbies Fox I found my third pregnancy exhausting. I don't feel too bad at the moment but expecting it to hit again soon. I do, however, lead a rock and roll lifestyle and go to bed at 8.30pm everynight!

JoJo I wished that there was a 'like' button when reading your post about breakfast! It sounded delicious!!

Myjobismum that sounded really scary but thank goodness all is Ok. I hope you are managing a restful day today.

I had the mirena coil after ds3 and it was fab. No side effects and I got pregnant with this baby about 2 weeks after it was taken out! It's the second time I have had it and with the first time I didn't have any bleeding for a year - amazing! Going to get one asap after this baby, definitely couldn't cope with 5 Children!

Loving all the recipes on here. I can't wait to get our kitchen back and start cooking again. Currently living off M&S ready meals each night which doesn't feel that healthy! Just had a Heston spiced pastry minced pie which was delicious.

Hi ladies. It's taken me pretty much my whole lunch break to find the current thread (I'm very out of practive with MN, not been on in a couple of years...)
I will come back on soon and try and catch up a bit and get to know you all x

Welcome Furry! Great to have more newbies!
Re: minipill, they vary so much. I've been fine on one, then a doctor changed my brand and it made my eczema go mad, and made me very depressed. They refused to change it as wouldn't believe it was the cause of the problem - I came off it and had relief of symptoms within 3 weeks. I just think the average GP isn't aware of the wide range of side effects.

Just found out that it doesn't look like we will be able to convert our loft after all due to head height and the fact that we won't get planning permission to raise the roof in our area. Am gutted. It means either that Beanette rooms with us, with all her things, and we move during my maternity leave, or we convert DH's office into the nursery, which means his office will have to fit into our (small) bedroom and we won't have anywhere for my parents and family to stay (they live 3.5 hours away). I really don't want to move; we've spent a lot of time and money doing our place up and I really imagined us bringing up the baby in our home. But I am so worried about lack of support and having no way for my family to stay. It sounds really melodramatic but I am sat here at work trying not to cry as I feel very isolated already and really can't face the stress of moving :(

PS myjobismum sorry to hear about your hospital trip, glad all is OK and hope you can get some rest x

Hello ladies!

Deep trauma at Tea HQ - our broadband is down! We've tried rebooting, but it looks like there's a problem with our connection, and not with our exchange. I woke up, picked up my ipad to find out the election results, and nothing! Hoping it will magically resolve itself during the day, dreading that it might be them getting confused about us moving house in more than a month... We will see.

Welcome, emisboo

Interesting chat about PND. I know I've had mild undiagnosed depression in the past - only realised what it was after my circumstances had changed and I could look back and realise my thinking had been disordered. Since then I've been lucky and managed to fire off any approaching episodes at the pass by being aware of managing my mood - which tends to reinforce that it's only been mild. But I am worried about PND - it strikes me as a pretty logical reaction to being stuck with a wailing puking baby and no sleep. DH and I, and family, very aware of it. It was in fact one of the reasons for us moving from the flat to a house with a garden - I know when I've had down phases in the past I've been bad at leaving the flat and getting outside, the communal stair feels like an insurmountable obstacle - and so being somewhere I can just step out of the back door into the sunshine, in my jammies and with baby puke in my hair, should help. I'm also going to desperately plug into the NCT network in our new town.

Lovely sounding veggie meals, manda

Flamingo - the paddington bear marmalade challenged was stalled when we ran out of bread on Monday night! He's putting another loaf on tonight (we have a breadmaker) and that should encourage him. Failing that, he's working from home on Friday, I'll just leave the jar and spoon by the laptop!

Can I ask - am I the only person who doesn't get on with BioOil? I find if I use a tiny amount it just disappears too quickly, but if I use a little bit more I feel like a basted turkey. I'm in a maternity bra today so I'm not exactly lifted and separated, and between my boobs still feels greasy... (TMI, sorry!) I'm not entirely sure it's better than stretchmarks ...

Aww Lexi, chuck. That's crap, really really crap. Do you have a garden that you could extend out into instead? Or put a studio in as an office-cum-sleeping area? How bloody frustrating.

Myjob so, so sorry to hear about your bleeding and all the associated worries. What a nightmare. Glad you and baby are okay though - phew! And do take doctors orders and try to take it easy.

Suburban grey is great! Better than 'Gentle Fawn' which looked great on the tester and much bloody PINKER in the big tubs! Grr, tho am getting used to it now and it will do!

At the Beeb today, digging around in archive stuff. Knackered after another broken night's sleep coughing and weeing, but at least it enabled me to keep abreast of the election results in the US (about which I'm v.v. happy).

welcome lots of newbies!

Thanks for the welcomes, it's lovely to be part of such a nice group Just need to try and keep up with you chatty lot now .

myjob Sorry about your scare but glad everything was ok. Fingers crossed you don't get anymore bleeding.

stormy Yay to due date buddies . Your dream sounds awful, I've had lots this pregnancy, the one last night was very erotic .

pink I'm with you on the early nights, I went up at 8pm last night, left poor dh to do all the jobs and I think I was even asleep before dd1! I'm sure I never felt like this with the first two, just exhausted.

Lexi How stressful and disapointing for you. Can understand why you wouldn't want to move and you certainly don't need the stress. Hope you can come up with a solution that suits.

Who can add me to the fb group please?

Xposted, Tea! Boo re broadband! But hurray for the very healthy-sounding imminent move The privacy of your own garden you can just step out into should make a world of difference. Clever you.

Tea I don't like Bio-oil either! Makes me itch and doesn't seem to absorb.
Unfortunately our house (edwardian tiny terrace) is on a slopey, narrow plot so no way to extend out, either. I know I'm lucky to have a home of our own, but I don't understand why for 6 months people have been leading us to believe all was fine, several neighbours have gone into their roof spaces but now we can't?

DH has contacted an architect to get a second opinion but I'm not very hopeful. I guess also we'd planned how everything would fit and it seemed a really good solution, now it feels like we have to start again. As pg wasn't planned, we also have been doing a lot of work on the house, up until really recently, which is all money we probably won't get back. The thought of starting again somewhere else is so exhausting! :(

tea just wanted to recommend this marmalade cake for you as its simply gorgeous. It's really easy to make too and one of my staple recipes. Leftovers freeze well and it's lush with ice cream or custard.

www.nigella.com/recipes/view/marmalade-pudding-cake-5159

Lexi sorry to hear about your loft plans not being allowed. We have a bedroom shortage now because our au pair has our spare room. I bought an Aerobed which is brilliant. It plugs in to inflate and is double sized & raised. Guests sleep on that in ds2's bedroom and he goes in with ds1 whilst they are here. It's a good option for guests & means you don't need a special guest bedroom.

lexi boo to loft plans, but yey to architect... They're very good at finding loopholes :)

Can't go too far back on the phone to name check further. Currently sitting in the hospitals urgent care centre (the local walk in centre has been replaced by this) with my flat mate who is showing all the signs and symptoms of scarlet fever... Joy, yet another contagious pathogen is introduced into our student digs!!!

pink I will check that out, thank-you! My father has a lot of problems with his knees and back (he has a blue badge) so a 'normal' airbed etc causes him real problems. The Aerobed might be a good solution for him :)

Oh jojo fingers crossed that its not Scarlett fever! You're being a nice friend going with her!

lexi I was wondering if you could sweet talk one of your neighbours who does have a loft extension into letting you have a look at it to see how they managed it? Otherwise hope the architect brings you some joy.

Lexi www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B0056FQEPO/ref=redir_mdp_mobile?creative=22206&creativeASIN=B0056FQEPO&linkCode=asn&ref_=asc_df_B0056FQEPO10472433&smid=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&tag=googlecouk06-21 this is the one we have. My father also has a really bad bank bit said it was ok when he slept on it. You can inflate it so it is very firm.

Sorry obviously meant bad back!!

Afternoon ladies and hello to all newbies

Myjobis fingers crossed no more scares

Jojo is scarlet fever safe for you?

Lexi grrrrrrrrr re loft, I agree with Em about asking one of your neighbours for advice.

Lexi. Not sure how long your garden is but would you consider something like this for your dh study?

www.shomera.ie/

Friends had one in London which they used as playroom. Worked really well.

Hi to everyone else. Hope all are doing well.

Requested extra appointment with consultant to discuss placenta issue so am meeting him at 930am. We just feel that we were scanned told this is what ou might have and I am just googling getting scary stories so hoping that he will clear up concerns.

DS is busy throwing his Lego box around as I sir here.

DH and I discussed Zachary/Zach As a name last night. Quite like it and it goes well with DSs name I think.

Off to get dinner. No veggies here and dh is so fussy and I am a dreadful cook. He ends up being disappointed a lot!

OC x

Hi all and a big welcome to furry and preggo.

Lexi, that's a right pain about your renovations. Hope you can find a way around it.

myjob glad all is well now after what sounds like a scary experience. Take it steady.

manda we too have gentle fawn in our hall and found it a tad pinker than anticipated!

Jojo hope everything turns out alright with the infected housemate!!

stealth the cardigan story was very touching. It reminds me of my gran a bit. When DD was very small, she showed me an old but pristine toy rabbit she had in a cupboard upstairs in her spare bedroom. She'd bought it when my aunt was pregnant and then after my aunt had several miscarriages an ectopic and then failed IVF, the poor old rabbit just stayed in the cupboard. My aunt is the youngest of my Dad's siblings and the only girl and was never able to have a baby. And my gran never told her about the rabbit, so to this day, she doesn't know.

Just to add to contraception debate, have been on about 10 different brands of the pill and also the injection snd the implant and didn't really like many of them! The only one I did like was dianette and they would let me take that for long because I didn't have acne!

Have also had mirena coil which I loved. Same as pink, really suited me and no bleeding for about 3years. If I can't persuade DH to go for the snip after this baby arrives, I might opt for the coil again.

Have felt shocking this afternoon. I walked into town at lunch to get a few bits and really felt like I was getting round ligament pain, was really uncomfy. Then got back to the office and just felt terrible, thought I was going to pass out and could hardly keep my eyes open. Left at 4.30 so managed to get home by 545 ish and have had my feet up for a few hours. Feel a bit better for it, but winder if it's just a combination of still having cold, lots of stretching going on and being knackered from getting up at 6am today and yesterday... Woe is me...

Am going to try to get an early night, hope that will help.

Thanks everyone. October they look gorgeous but I don't think we have room! Love the name Zach and hope that the consultant appt goes well.
JoJo scarlet fever - eek!
Ethel hope you have a good rest. The round ligament pain is surprisingly bad sometimes, isn't it?
Am feeling very down still - sure I am being pregnant and melodramatic but I feel really upset. I think it's made me think more about how little family support we have round here. DH has given me lots of cake and is telling me to be less of a pessimist - we shall see what happens I guess :(

lexi I can sympathise. Our nearest family are an hour away and not particularly hands on. However, I found that we created our own support newtotk with people we met through NCT and neighbours etc. At the point at which DD was born, we'd been living in York for just over a year, so had very few good friends here. I actually found it quite surprising which of our circle really stepped up to the mark and helped us out when we needed it. I am still very of people who have willing family and friends on their doorstep.