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May 2013 Third Thread.

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SecretCervix · 16/10/2012 09:47

Sorry for the not very imaginative title. Noticed old thread was full and couldn't find a new one.

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Boodstress · 22/10/2012 20:17

EllieB I showed a big pile of holiday snaps to my best friend over lunch and the scan pic was the last. That was with my DC1. I just loved watching people's faces. Usually I just blurt it out at a completely inappropriate time.

LittlePickleHead · 22/10/2012 20:29

Heartened to hear all the good scan news. We have ours tomorrow and I am strangely nervous about it (I wasn't AT ALL nervous last time).

Will be so good to be able to talk about it openly!

berri - that makes me laugh, I know the minute we tell DD she is going to tell everyone. She has been waiting for this a long time, the next 6 months are going to go VERY slowly for her!

12+5 (well, we'll get that verified tomorrow!)

EllieBuffalo · 22/10/2012 21:09

Bood I like the holiday snaps idea. We know family and friends will be excited so went to just slip it into conversation as a surprise and await the reaction Grin

MaybeAMayBaby · 22/10/2012 21:24

Congratulations, Panda and Terror! What an emotional couple of month you've both had. Terror, will you wait until after too?

Ellie-I wish I could be more imaginative with announcements. I love the stories of putting the scan photo in a Xmas card or something. If you're going out for lunch, you could ask the waiter to put it on the bill plate! Or hand your family the menu with it in if you can't wait until the end of the meal.

My DD I really poorly. I'm quite worried about her. I thought it was just a bad cold at end of last week, but she's been vomiting for te past three days an I think it's getting worse. So strange. It didn't seem like a bug. Neither my DH or me feel ill-don't even have a cold. She won't even keep calpol down Sad. It's kept my mind off the waiting for the scan though. A week tomorrow. DH is always a bit unemotional at this stage of the pregnancy (well was the last time too) and it alway gets to me a bit. But last night while we were up at 3am with DD he told me he is really looking forward to it (with no irony considering the situation!). Really got me through the rest of the night.

Oh, and I'm getting obsessed with Xmas. DD is ridiculously excited and it's rubbed off on me. I've never bought presents this early before! It's kind of nice instead of obsessing about pregnancy though.

10+1

peardrop2 · 23/10/2012 03:05

I think I'm going to feel a bit shy about telling people are news...especially people at work. I think I feel like I've been lying to everyone with all these excuses to not got out or have time off for mw appointments. Anyone else feel like that? Don't get me wrong I'm excited to tell people - just weirdly nervous and shy about it too :-/

peardrop2 · 23/10/2012 03:06

Maybe it's a bit different when it's DC1?

10 weeks

Picklep · 23/10/2012 09:40

Congratulations on all the scan news - love hearing about them!

Pear I feel the same about telling people, excited and nervous.

Had bad night last night, woke up with stitch-like pain to left of belly button, took my breath away, so then couldn't get back to sleep with worrying. I've read online it's quite normal, ligaments stretching and what not - anyone else experience this?

Picklep · 23/10/2012 09:41

11 + 3

kittykatskumkwat · 23/10/2012 09:42

Pear I'm with you on the yelling thing, it really embaressed me, especially at work!!!
Great news on all the scan fronts, I'm so jeleous as I'm like the last on the list and havnt even had my midwife booking in yet!!! Ahhhhh the wait

PedanticPanda · 23/10/2012 09:57

I eventually managed to get hold of my midwife. The midwife assigned to me was on annual leave which is why I hadn't heard anything for so long, but I spoke to her yesterday on the phone and I've to go in next week for a quick chat and she's sent my info over to my chosen hospital and they'll contact me soon with a date for booking in and then a scan.

I can't wait, I'm desperate to tell DS. My graduation is in a few weeks and we're going out with family for a meal afterwards so hopefully if I've had my scan by then we're going to announce to everyone at the meal as they'll be all together.

seven77 · 23/10/2012 11:22

Congrats terror.

kittykat I'm at the end of the list with you, I had my booking in last week but still no scan date as yet, I'm also jealous.

maybe how old is your DD? DS is 4 and already excited about Christmas. I've normally got all my present buying done by now as I like to get ahead then just enjoy the lead up to Christmas, I'm unorganised this year. I'm really struggling to think of things to put in DD's (she'll be 13 months) stocking, any ideas much appreciated!

I found out from a friend yesterday that another friend is pregnant with her DC2 and is due on 26th May, though I'm not meant to know yet. Maybe she's one of you lot?!

beaver33 · 23/10/2012 11:38

Pedantic meant to say congratulations on the lovely engagement news. It made me shed a wee tear - such a thoughtful way to do it. He sounds like a wonderful man.

I'd like to ask a quick question to all those who've been for their scans (or even those who remember their scans from previous pregnancies). I felt a little bit disappointed that it was so....clinical. Obviously I know that this is a hospital appointment, and that the whole point is to take measurements and make appropriate calculations. But it felt rather disconnected from the actual experience of being pregnant and having a baby for me.

I mean, clearly it was emotional. But there were three people in the room - one guy whose badge said he was a researcher, and who did my scan, another woman who sat on a computer, and another random bloke in a suit who just stood in the background.

I had to ask them to play the heartbeat (he just said there was one) and was too busy measuring everything to really talk to me about what was on the screen. I asked lots of questions, but he seemed to answer them as an afterthought.

Sounds odd, but I felt like I was being used as a guinea pig for a research project rather than seeing my first child for the first time.

I'm over the moon and so happy, but the experience was slightly diluted by everything else.

Is this a normal experience, or have I just been unlucky?

(Disclaimer: I was being seen at a large teaching hospital)

seven77 · 23/10/2012 11:47

Sorry you felt like that about the scan beaver. When I've had scans there's always been the person doing the scan, and someone else sitting silently on the computer, never a random man in a suit just standing there though. Perhaps he was overseeing them but I guess he should have been introduced. I find that they don't say much, I guess their job is be taking measurements as that's obviously how they work out your EDD, but they've always pointed out what's what and explained what they're doing, eg "I'm just measuring baby's head circumference, here's baby's arm" etc. I agree it's very clinical though, I know they don't find it exciting as they do it all day, but we don't. Also I try to bear in mind if they don't seem very happy that it could have been bad news for the previous woman they've seen.

PedanticPanda · 23/10/2012 11:57

Thanks beaver Smile I've not stopped smiling for days.

My scan with DS wasn't like that at all (done at a small health centre with a maternity section), even my scan with my last pg (done at a hospital) a couple of months ago which was checking for mc wasn't as clinical as that, it was a midwife, me and DP both times and was a pleasant experience. Questions were answered straight away too, that's a shame that your first scan was treated like that.

3rdtimelucky73 · 23/10/2012 12:06

Hi all,
Been lurking for a while, but thought I'd be brave and say hello.

Saw the mw for my booking appointment a fortnight ago, and have second scan in a fortnight. Very excited, but nervous too. Be nice to have a due date and also actually know how far along I am.

MooLL · 23/10/2012 12:48

beaver I am so sorry the scan wasn't a good experience for you ... I have only ever had one person in the room plus DH and myself however we have gone private for all our scans so far. With my DD it was the same except the very last scan ... then it was NHS but the consultant in charge of HDU plus the professor in charge at St Georges as they were making the call to induce labour a month early ... It was a different feeling as they talked to one another rather than us .. but in the situation it was probably fair enough. The one thing pregnancy one taught me is don't be afraid to speak out - if you dont know why someone is there ask ... and if you dont want students in there etc then dont be afraid to say ... its your pre-natal and birth experience so do not worry about owning it. I remember learning about the severity of my pre-eclampsia and possibility I may not get past 32 weeks in front of students and frankly felt an idiot as i sat there sobbing -- in hinsight I would have asked for them not to be in the room ..

Ive taken thur and today off work as just too exhausted to go in - its done me the world of good and feel much less emotional and much more in balance again. Also told my nanny today who was over the moon and very excited about having a new born in the house!

seven77 · 23/10/2012 12:54

Hi 3rd, pop yourself on the stats thread. Have you worked out your due date yet? There's a due date calculator further up the page on the right, you just need to know the date of your last period.

wilderumpus · 23/10/2012 13:13

beaver attitudes differ wildly I have found, am sorry yours was like that. I have nearly always had more than one person in the room, sometimes as many as four (which I hated). I find that I don't ask questions because yes, it is a medical procedure, they are so busy and need to concentrate, but at the end they might show me the monitor again and will show me the interesting bits of the baby etc and I might ask questions then.

Sometimes they are just a bit 'grumpy' and serious about it all tho, when others are so sweet and give you lots of time :) Luck of the draw.

10+2

wilderumpus · 23/10/2012 13:15

congrats on graduating panda! what kind of course did you do? I can't wait to get away from studying!

PedanticPanda · 23/10/2012 13:19

Thanks wilde, I done a BA Hons joint in osych

PedanticPanda · 23/10/2012 13:21

Thanks wilde, I done a BA Hons joint in psychology and sociology. I'm so glad it's done now but I'm wanting to do a masters now. I was going to start one full time next year but now that I've done my BA I can't bear the thought of doing another dissertation/thesis so am considering doing it part-time over 2 years instead.

Picklep · 23/10/2012 13:22

Re these extra people in the room with you - are we not entitled to say no? In the past I have been asked if I minded a researcher/student present. Usually I don't mind but for my 12 week scan I think I'd say no just in case there was bad news, really don't want an audience.

For my emergency scan at 7 weeks, i could hear behind one door the loveliest sonographer, she was cooing and aw-ing with the parents, lots of chit chat and laughing. Unfortunately I was called in to the other door, this sonographer although efficient was abrupt and very unfeeling. I was really disappointed. Hoping I get the friendly lady for my 12 week scan. It does make such a difference I think.

3rdtimelucky73 · 23/10/2012 13:29

Hi seven don't have an EDD date yet (other than May) due to a mc in August and catching early.

Will in a fortnight and will update thread all being well...

PedanticPanda · 23/10/2012 13:59

3rdtime I had a mc in August then to our surprise we fell pg straight away too so I've been using the date of mc as a last period date to work out an EDD. I spoke to the midwife yesterday on the phone and explained and she was fine with this too.

3rdtimelucky73 · 23/10/2012 14:24

Hi Panda, ditto.

Yes have done that as a rough date, but know it can take while to ov as hcg levels can take a while to return to normal.

Looks like we might be due at a similar time, maybe I can get DP to propose too! Congrats

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