Due dec 2012 - the long slow bit

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Hi thought if do this and try and link before we ran out!!!

Thanks Prunella don't worry dp and I are laughing about it already!

Stacey I would have done exactly the same in your situation! Hopefully your dh will calm down soon, is he an 'anything for a quiet life' sort who doesn't like conflict?!

Oh dear Stacey, not a good day for "d"D/H's all round. Treat yourself to something nice and enjoy a good cry x

Oh dear WillYou seems like we are all bickering over silly things at the moment! I would cry if dp shouted at me too I hate people shouting!

Thanks spotty see the thing is he's not the quiet type, I don't see why he's dead set about me saying anything considering I thought I was quite reserved!

I love him do much and hate fighting, esp about my XH as he's just not worth it. Hate these hormones.

stacey that's crap! I think you were totally entitled to send that text! Bang out of order!!!

Our bloody hormones are all over the place...i think worse than in first trimester! Oh the joys!

I got my car seat and base today...yay! Last of my shopping really...!

Any recommendations on breast pumps? I'd like an electric one...

Oh dear, not a good day for hubbies all round, glad mine was working!..
I'm sooo bloody nervous. A house has come up in the same street as my mum and dad. We have lost out on two houses in the same street in the past 2 yrs and looks like we are going to offer on this one too. Problem is, my own house is lovely, extended, just finished, modern, etc. The one we're offering on is really old fashioned, was an old person's who's now in a home. Loadsa work to do so starting from scratch again. It has a fantastic huge garden, is a great size inside and is in a really good area, but will add 25k onto our (already big) mortgage and leave us with absolutely no savings! I am totally torn. I know we would never have to move again its the area we want but I have so many plus sides to where we live already too, and of course dd would have to move schools which isn't ideal.
Closing date on Tuesday, so we may not even get it but if we do I then have the stress of selling my own house with 11 weeks of pregnancy to go. Oh lordy, what do I do???!
Apologies for ramble!

mwah make an offer nothing's final just from making an offer plenty of time to change your minds!

Bella is this your first? Just because some people find they can't express and you might want to try one out first when you can. I did a fair amount if research and have gone for the Spectra 3 pump

emily i know exactly what you mean - its such a difficult relationship. is this your first child together with dp? sometimes i feel that the weekends we have the step kids, its me and ds together and dh and dsd's as two units. i know its not really but little things like i try and limit the sweet treats ds has during the day and make sure he eats fruit, not lots of cakes etc, but when we have the girls the treats cupboard is full of chocolate, fruit and veg only gets eaten when i insist on it, and sweets and cakes are in abundance. I know its nice to treat them and as we have the girls every 3rd weekend, its not going to have a major effect on their health, my concern is that as ds gets older he may start to question why we only have these things when the girls are here, he wont understand that its not what they get everyday. does that make sense? how are others coping with step children? (i know thats not the thread we are on but its an added dimension to having another kid.)

stacey you were right to send that text, my dad always made a big deal about me doing homework at his because he couldn't be arsed so it was rushed on Sunday night. Wish my mum had said something to him.
Sounds like a bad day for other halves, I'm being super nice to mine after he deep cleaned half the house alone because I was too achey to help. I'm even letting him watch Back to the Future without complaint!

pmgkt it's my first. We have his kids every other weekend from Friday to Sunday, DH is pretty good with wanting to give them good food as he's convinced they don't eat all that healthy at home (according to whet they tell him they eat). I normally work sat so they get some all own time with there dad and we all spend the Sunday together. Most the time it's all good but like you said, sometimes he doesn't like to say no to them or pull them up on stuff but that's what being a parent is about.

Thanks for the validation girls. DH simmered down and came and cooked pizza. We tend to 'forget' arguments rather than talk because we're both stubborn and it would end in a row. But he's now doing the bins then coming up to bed with me. We'll be fine. Thanks for the support while I sobbed!

mwah def put an offer in, the things that normally work out best often come at an inappropriate time. If your current house is modern in a nice area I'm sure it will sell quickly!

Well let's see if I can sleep tonight. I hope everyone else does too! Night!

Ps stacey I think the text was totally reasonable, he's her father and needs to realise the implications of not doing it.

Dp is burning old paperwork in the BBQ I'm going to bed!

I made it all the way home from the in laws without a piss stop

Sorry to all those whose significant others are being wankerish. Mine spent the morning taking stuff to the tip for his mum and the afternoon swimming with the DNs and their friends - dniece's 7th birthday party. I did sudoku then organised the food so off to bed shortly - shattered!

The health visitor is coming to my house on Tuesday, how much will she care that the place is a complete tip? The carpets go in Thursday so all will be sorted soon. Should i bake a cake?

pidj in my experience they won't even accept a drink and they don't care if the place is a tip

I'm somewhat swamped with cake having made a big princess fairytale castle cake for dn all week. Most of Windsor commented on it this afternoon, i think

Not being able to sleep due to heartburn is actually starting to make me angry now. I haven't had a decent nights sleep in at least 4 weeks because of it!!!! I avoid acid, and sleep upright and use gaviscon and nothing stops it.
All people say is oh she'll have hair. I don't care! I'll have pulled all mine out at this rate because I can't sleep!!!

Hey all.

Could I ask if I'm being weird? Am in the process of arranging a visit from an old friend with a 1-year-old. Her baby is her LIFE. Is it weird that I now don't want the visit to happen until after my birth? Slight backstory is that after my miscarriage, she asked how she could support me and I said that what would help was if we could message about something other than her baby and she basically said no and said that her baby was her life and that everything revolved around him. That's literally what she said - I'm not paraphrasing. So I think I am scared that I'll have to spend the entire visit cooing over her child, when I'm worrying about whether mine is ok and worrying about how the rest of what has been quite a difficult pregnancy will progress. To be honest I'm also not quite ready for my day to be dictated to by a child, and she's already told me about how we'll need to have lunch ready at about midday and that he needs to be fed as soon as he wants it etc.

seconds I don't think your weird for postponing a visit from your friend, how awful for her to say that when you were going through that. . See her when you want, but I'd arrange a get out plan for when I did. How will you feel if post birth all she talks about is how her little ray of sunshine is just so much better than your own child? You might have far more patience than me, but non stop baby talk would drive me mad.

Secondsop I don't think you're weird at all. the last thing I'd want to deal with if I were not feeling well is someone else's perfect baby. If you're not feeling well you need to focus on you, and spending a stressful lunch with someone who won't quit talking about their baby would be five kinds of hell to me.

Just tell her it's not a good time for you as you're focusing on you and your growing kidlet right now. She should understand that.

Wow, secondsop, I gather most people think the sun shines out of their own kids' arses but I've never heard of someone being quite so blatant about it. Do you want to see her? Even if you do (and I do wonder why, a bit), definitely leave it until a decent time after your birth, when you can legitimately not focus on her Utter Miracle as you'll have your own to fuss over.

Another NCT class today - this time on breastfeeding. Again, I thought it was good - there was a DVD showing the natural instinct of babies to find their way to the source (as it were) and lots of good tips. My husband made me feel very pleased, saying that as soon as baby can manage it (~4 weeks or so), I should try to express a bottle a day so he can do the late night feed, and get some good bonding time. I really hope it works out that way as it sounds lovely. He also told me that he thought having a baby was going to be 'awesome'. :) Very early on in the pregnancy I felt a bit sad because I thought he was a bit unengaged, but he has changed so much. It's wonderful.

Anyway - another busy week of long work days coupled with NCT in the evening. Better get to bed.

Thank you ladies for your supportive comments. Theyre incredibly helpful and have really helped me resolve the way i feel. Ive managed to stall the visit - was perfectly honest and said that I wasn't yet in a place where I was ready to spend a day talking baby business when there were so many factors in my pregnancy that put my baby's health in the balance, and that I was also still in a place of wanting to get in only the bare minimum before the birth. I didn't say anything about her baby, and I also talked about practicalities such as how we wouldn't know what we really need (re the stuff she's lending) till after Christmas anyway as people will give us stuff for Christmas, and that at least I wouldnt have to potentially pull out at the last minute if unwell.

I do want to see her, because I think it would be a shame if we completely lost contact and our children never met, although we've grown in completely different directions. I don't know whether one day I'll be able to say to her "you really upset me - you were incredibly thoughtless" - the closest I got was saying I had to sign out of the messaging conversation for a bit as I was getting upset. She was upset at the thought that she'd upset me so I hope she's thinking about things a bit differently. mamapo you are spot on about me not wanting to have to fuss over her perfect child - I didn't realise that was really how I felt but youve hit the nail on the head. I think that is probably, underneath, the main motivating factor for me not wanting to see her until my baby is born.

mydaydream if she talks about how her baby is better than mine, ive got this lined up: "of course, it's not a competition, and the main thing is that everyone is happy - for example if we'd competed in terms of career we wouldn't still be friends, would we?". (is that mean?). Other thing I've got lined up : "of course, everyone thinks their own baby is better than anyone else's, and that's how it should be" which should hopefully stop the talk and make it clear that I'm not getting into a game of "how great is my baby".

Flumpy someone recommended horlicks to me for heartburn I have no idea if it works might be worth a try?

Seconds I hate all this competitive parenting and people who completely forget who they are once they have their children. My sister is the worst for this. I like to think the pre dc me is still here somewhere, although she only comes out on special occasions I certainly try to make an effort to not talk constantly about dd especially to people without children!

Morning all. Poor flumly feel sorry for you with heart burn , I'm sure you've tried chalky rennie? I found they helped more than Gaviscon

DH bought me a big bouncy ball it's great, bouncing on it now . Have not had much movement from yesterday but have mw today so hopefully will be reassured (have had the odd kick but not regular or as much as normal). Pregnancy is just 40wks of worry and I'm sure it doesn't stop once the baby is hear!

Talking of showing off parents..... Dd has learnt to catch a balloon