May 2013 - roll on 12 weeks!

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Thread n2 for those due in May 2013

Beaver I would def take a friend or your sister, they will help distract you and will feed you tea and biscuits!!! The wait is the worst, just want to get it done now! Good luck to you :-)

Little I'm also in Scotland - Aberdeenshire - and we do get 20week scans, I'm so annoyed that you don't get the choice - fair enough if you don't want one but that's not the point!! May be hormones making me unreasonably mad about this.....

Terracotta 11lbs sounds heroic!!

Hi new posters.

terracotta Can i ask what its like having a baby with a big age gap.My two ds's will be 7 and 8 when baby arrives.Also ask away about smaller age gaps as my first two are 17 months apart.

Had nurse appointment today.DP had his blood test.They still don't know what my blood abnormality is yet and so therefore dont know whether to worry yet or not.However,i will find out by phone tomorrow.

cuppa it makes me mad too even thought we might have turned it down, we should still be given the choice. Apparently they are only 4 Scottish authorities who don't do them and I'm just unlucky to be in one of them.

I need to go into town today, just can't be bothered with 2 hours of walking around while feeling nauseous. And if the rain keeps off I need to come home and mow the lawn. I've turned into such a lazy sod, I've had 4 days off!

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I too hate blood tests and usually faint.I had to leave the room when DP had his blood test today

I went to my booking appointment on my own.I always take haribo in my bag when i know im having a blood test.I don't care what the midwife says i sit there muching a few afterwards.I always ask for blood test to be done the minute i get in the room so that its over with.Then you have the rest of the booking appt to sit and relax a bit .

8+3 today

beaut not a mummy but a nanny opinion. I've had a few jobs with large age gaps and honestly the kids have gotten along fantastically. The little ones hero worship the older sibling and the older ones are very protective.
In particular one job the oldest was a boy of 7 who was an only child when his baby sister was born, I've never known two closer siblings than those two.
I worked 70 hours a week in that job and lived in for 2 years from the baby was 13 weeks so got a fairly complete picture.

There is 12 years between my cousin and her little brother,she would insist on getting up and doing the early morning feed for her mum!

You often find older kids understand mum/ nanny being busy with baby because they need more care and can wait their turn. Plus they are usually busy with school, clubs and friends that it's not as intense when you still have a little one ( older sibling) at home all day with the baby.

I'm so glad others are scared of the blood tests too! Don't feel like such a wimp. Thanks for the advice Beaut I'm going to ask the mw to get the nasty bit out of the way first, otherwise it will be impossible to concentrate.

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I'm not normally scared of needles but I didn't realise the booking in appt would include blood tests so with the MS I'm now feeling a little more queasy as most things turn my tummy at the mo

Picklep I try to think of all the lyrics to a song whilst im having it done as well.See i truely am a baby.Its not the blood or the needle.Its veins big(strange) vein phobia.

LittleB thank you.I didn't even think about having all the time at home on my own with baby.I think my brain is shrinking.I do think the boys will be super excited and they are pretty helpful the majority of the time.I do worry a bit about DS1 just because of his autism he can read situations/emotions badly so i think he may be quite confused to start.But we plan on making them both completely involved in everything.

Think my boobs might be changing, nipples starting to look darker and they feel quite firm.
Does anyone have any recs for boob cream? My nipples are starting to look a bit dry, is it ok to use Normal moisturiser on them? I'm usually use Simple Derma that's non perfumed.
Feel daft asking such questions.

beautician it's really nice. My older 2 are girls and they very much wanted a little brother. There were tears of joy when we told them we were having a baby, it was lovely :)

They help entertain the baby a lot. And I think as he gets older they find more and more things to do with him. One is really mothering and wants to cuddle him all the time (much to his annoyance sometimes!) and the other is his own personal giggle inducing machine. She seems to have such a bond that they spend ages just laughing at each other. The girls love each new milestone and proudly show off their little brother to everyone at school.

So from that perspective a bigger age gap is ace.

I do sometimes feel like I'm constantly having to tell the older 2 to hang on, or I'll be there in a minute. And these days when I bf him I have to go to a different room to them as he's so nosy he just doesn't get a good feed otherwise. I think they understand though.

They have told us a few times they don't want anymore babies so I am a little worried about telling them about this one! Have you told yours yet or are you waiting post scan too?

The hard part of a bigger age gap I've found is school. Fitting school runs and homework, reading and swimming lessons and all the other activities that gradually creep up on you. Before DC3 if I was shattered we could stay in out pjs and get ready at our own pace in the morning. Post DC3 there was no luxury!

That's probably way more than you wanted to know!!

I'll have a think about 17 month gap questions!!

weather! I am moving on Jan and my hosp would then be treliske! hence HB for me :) shit place :( My SIL only had her baby there a few months ago and was sent home the day after with all sorts of post-labour issues and no BF help and it was just such a sad story. She really needed to stay in a be looked after :( They don't have a birthiing pool either afaik? eek! If it is all awful then we might even stay up here for the birth and move down after! I adored my MW service up here last time.

little that is just nuts. the anomoly scan is really important, like seven says, and my unsympathetic prat of a dr muttered to me that the 12 week scan wouoldn't even tell me whether the baby was healthy, i would have to wait until 20 weeks for that...

pickle don't feel silly, we all have our issues! I had panic attacks after my mc and would breath in for three, hold for two and out for three when I started to feel it coming on. And I have done this in other stressful situations, it really does seem to focus and ground me, if it helps at all (and I am not a hippy dippy meditative type at all!) If you need to offload about it, come here that is what are here for :)

cuppa I am in my fat jeans sometimes too, and today even broke out the maternity jeans! Only because I had to sit cross legged on the floor for DS's music group though, feeling nauseous and having the waistband digging into my bloat for half an hour was too much to baer. Lazzy band trouser it was :) I am still wearing them out of laziness but they are definitely too big!

welcome teracotta and congrats on your fourth pregnancy! good luck for a homebirth!

thanks for the urine sample heads up peeps :)

Oh yep what LittleB said too.

It is nice having older ones at school and getting baby to yourself for a bit during the day. You get to feel like you can spend loads of time with baby without the jealousy and then when the older ones come back from school you can give them their quality time without feeling like you've neglected the baby :).

10storey Your weekend sounds fab.

Terracotta Thank You.I have to say the school run is the bit i dread.I loathe it enough just with the boys.Although they won't have long left at school after the baby is born as the summer holidays will be near.

I won't be telling the children until i am twenty weeks.I am going to tell them at Christmas.Ds2 has autism and the minute he knows it will be on his mind constantly.

beautician there'll be half term first as well not long after so that will help too. I had DC3 just as the Xmas holidays hit. It was nice if a little tiring. Although I think no matter which way you do it, it's tiring!

That's probably a good idea re the 20 weeks. When my nephew was told I was having a baby and he was going to be getting a new cousin his first response was 'now?'. I think it took his Mum a fair while to help him understand how far away it was (he has autism too if that's not clear). 20 weeks makes it real as it's not long until bumps show and kicks can be felt and cuts also down how long it feels it takes until the baby is 'finally' here. DC1 and 2 soon got tired of waiting for 3 (as did I). It didn't help I was 2 weeks late though.

hello all!

So sorry to hear about MC hooya look after yourself.

Terracotta can I ask why are you with consultant care after big baby? Did you have any problems? (it didn't sound like you did). My last DC2 was 10lbs4, and I'm dreading some kind of extra monitoring. I had her in midwife unit in birthing pool so hoping for same again but not sure I'll be allowed.

Also stupid question re homebirths - did your carpet get stained? Who clears up after? wild I am sure you won't mind me asking...?

Extreme tiredness and muddle headedness here too!

I am thinking about going for a water birth if my elective caesarian idea gets a big no.Im really bad with pain though so not sure iLl cope.

Ive been keeping my sister informed with everything.She just told me to stop thinking soo much and then sent the very helpful message Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.[Hmm] anyone guessed that she hasn't got any children yet.My life revolves around plans.I presume she realises my eldest still has Autism and routine is my middle name

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Oh goodness sorry rant over.Must make sure i read all previous messages before going on and on.

Hooya So sorry.Fx for next time.Sending hugs

beaut no they really just don't get it. (I'm sure my sister thinks I'm making dds autism up). [raised eyebrows emoticon]

beaut what a helpful sister. ramble on here we are always happy to listen.
Oh and I HATE when people send twee messages like that and think they are being really philosophical.

DH is autistic ( AS/HFA) and although excited I think the whole process is a bit overwhelming to him. I think he would have preferred if I waited to 20 weeks to tell him too.

Frustrated its so annoying isn't it.The least helpful comment i get is 'ahh to look at him you wouldn't think anything is wrong would you'.He is very high functioning and to me being my first he is just DS1 with a few added quirks.I think some people think you are glad of the label.I fought against it for ages but he does need that extra support sometimes.

Has anyone else on here told any family.My MIL has been great im very impressed at her having kept it to herself as well haha.

LittleB Which traits does your DH have?I know the autistic spectrum is sooo broad that everyone on it is different.I do believe that all of us are probably somewhere on the spectrum.I for example am not great in social situations until i get to know people.