April 2013... under starters orders

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so tested positive on thursday am for a due date of ... 1st april.... anyone else? early days yet but after 2 years of trying for no. 2 i am very excited!!

Been actively trying for two years, h said that he's been trying to hope how's he's feeling will go away or it's just hom being daft. He knows it's the worst timing ever but he's just miserable too.

Just a shock, but if I'm brutally honest I've been coasting along, content and complacent, not miserable but not like we were.

Married for three years, together for ten.
Wow. Yesterday I was going into my thirties potentially being a mum, now not likely and single and no house again. What a difference 24 hours makes.

My heart goes out to you.

Even if you knew things weren't perfect, it was really really crap of H not to have said something before now. He must have known that the time was going to come when you would get a BFP and now you're in a terrible position.

Spend at least the weekend talking it over with H, your friends, your family (if you are close enough).

URGH!

Ratbag, just want to second everyone's condolences. So sorry you are having such a shitty time. Do you have plenty of support in RL? Family or friends you could talk to?

Ratbag also just wanted to say how sorry I am that this has happened. Don't tush into anything you have time to think and talk yet.

Thanks everyone - I have lots of RL support from close friends, who have all offered to help me move a body if needed lol.

I thought I would be raging, but I think because I see how miserable he is, I can try and look at it objectively, we will spend the next week or two really talking and seeing where if anywhere we can go, if not then I would rather go for a fully clean break and not make him feel he's tied to me in anyway, I want to be a mum but bringing a child into a stable relationship is important, I know they don't always stay that way, but more than 6 weeks in would be a good start.

Oh ratbag I really feel for you, what a rollercoaster you've been through, on top of early pg hormones. You must feel totally wiped out from it all.

Hopefully you can have a rest and clear your head over the weekend. You are clearly a much better person than I am to be able to look at this situation objectively!

Hi all...well got bfp today on af due day...but have been poas for last five days and getting faint lines so feeling happier I made it to today with a nice bfp still, never knew poas was so obsessive!! So fx crossed edd is 12th April. No symptoms really but early days, slightly tingly boobs. Have one dd 5 years old but trying for 12 months for this bfp.

Rainbow I can't ever imagine the pain and heartache that you had to go through and how this pregnancy must be so worrying for you, we are all here to support each other though

Hi all,
First timer here and other than my DH you guys are the first to know I am pregnant!
Got a + on Thursday morning, and again this morning.
It's a bit surreal as I only came off the pill in May and we weren't intending to 'properly' try until December.
By my bests guess I am due about 12th April. I have an appointment to see my GP on Monday afternoon - we're not planning on telling anyone IRL for a while other than my Boss who has to know for H&S reasons!
Congratulations and hugs to everyone - it will be nice to get to know you all :)

SweetLikeCandy
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Hi sweet, our edd is the same 12th aug, the same here too..only dp knows and whole of mums net obviously! Can't make docs appointment yet as away on holiday till Wednesday. Exciting times! Is this your first?

Hi, yes this will be our first. I know what you mean about POAS obsession - I only did it again this morning just to make sure - I hid the stick for the three minutes the first time, this time I watched it and I got the positive straight away, even before the control line!
I can't wait for it to sink in :D

Hello likecandy and miarose and congratulations on your BFP hopefully we will have a boring and non eventful pregnancies!

mrsRigby still thinking of you and hope you are managing to work things out with your DH

Im feeling really sick this afternoon, funny how it's never in the morning!

Just saw this thread after starting another so will start with a lengthy intro then promise to keep it short and sweet...

Hello ladies, had my BFP just an hour ago, I'm all up and down with feelings. I'm 29 have been with DP 5 years, we had an unplanned pregnancy earlier in the year and I miscarried at 9 weeks and was devastated. Since then we have been not not trying and now it has worked, however afraid to be happy or get excited after last time. Also feel very guilty as last pregnancy I got very drunk at 3 weeks before I knew and again only drunk once since that night and happened to be 3 weeks pregnant again I discover, so convinced I have pathed the same fate. Sorry all doom and gloom, the test says pregnant but feeling so anxious, amazing how it completely takes over all your thinking!! Also I had some small brown discharge on day of period and have a slight tinge when I wipe sometimes (tmi sorry) so hoping it's implantation bleeding but the fact I've drunk, had pâté, prawns and scallops, runny eggs, painkillers and digestive tablets and no vitamins this week before I found out, so expecting the worst!! Any encouragement greatly appreciated, I was on a similar thread last time and it was AMAZING to have each other!

Hello everyone - I was on the other thread too, but I'll join in here as well.

I got my first ever BFP yesterday and there are no words to say how thrilled I am. DH & I have been together 16 years, had been TTC for 7 years and 4 fertility treatments and £20k later, we officially have a little bun in the oven

Feeling OK so far - little tugs in my tummy, like mild AF cramps. Slightly tender (.)(.) and a weirdy taste in my mouth. Also massively tired, but I'm not sure whether it's the fertility medication I still have to take that's contributing to that.

I reckon I'm 5 weeks on Monday, due 8th April.

Now terrified of making it all the way - praying little one sticks. I have an early scan at the end of the month. I haven't called my GP yet though - in my excitement I forgot to ask the clinic whether I should or not.

magictorch - so lovely to hear that you have a bfp after all you've been through. Go & book a GP appt is my advice, quick natter & a reassuring smile will be good.

I am officially knackered, was I this tired with DS? Who bloody knows, I'd like to go to bed now please. With a plate of cheese & fresh warm bread! What I'd really like is soft cheese- sigh.

My boobs are officially enormous & DH is already calling me fatty, his thought been if he starts early when I get the size of a house again & can no longer see my feet it will be kind. wait till labour & I'll swear at him good & proper again, telling him in the heat if the moment just how much I dislike his mother

Hello!

I'm a prune and thought there was only 1 pregnancy topic, started an April 2013 thread and thought it was quiet ha! Didn't know about this topic or this thread.

Anyhoooo!

I'm nearly 5 weeks with my 2nd DC (have DD1 who is 8 1/2 years old). This is DP's first and he is a bit nervous to say the least.

Feeling queasy, but only when I am hungry which is a joy - just when I don't feel like eating, I have to! Very sore boobs, was hyper and haven't slept well this week but at 4pm today I crashed on the sofa, I now feel utterly drained.

I am very excited though, it all seems so far away and I have yet to see the Dr but will be going on Monday.

Look forward to seeing you all.

*speaking to you all (durr!)

magictorch - that's so great to hear that you've got your bfp. Welcome to all the other new bfp-ers!

Starting to feel sick more and more in the day and I'm sooooooo tired. But I'm still not convinced that this is all going to work out fine Got my appt on Thursday 16th when I should be 7 weeks, I reckon, so hopefully will be able to see something reassuring then.

Magictorch wow 7 years TTC, you must be over the moon to have your bfp, big congrats!

And Essexwelsh I'm so sorry for your loss earlier in the year, I can completely understand why you're anxious this time around but please try not to worry. Before I knew I was pg with DS I was taking ibuprofen, drinking like a fish having a few glasses of wine and lifting heavy stuff and he is now a strapping toddler. Most people don't behave like perfect angels while TTC and there is no point getting yourself in a state about it, just concentrate on taking care of you and your baby.

Magictorch wow 7 years TTC, you must be over the moon to have your bfp, big congrats!

And Essexwelsh I'm so sorry for your loss earlier in the year, I can completely understand why you're anxious this time around but please try not to worry. Before I knew I was pg with DS I was taking ibuprofen, drinking like a fish having a few glasses of wine and lifting heavy stuff and he is now a strapping toddler. Most people don't behave like perfect angels while TTC and there is no point getting yourself in a state about it, just concentrate on taking care of you and your baby.

Thanks all - I haven't stopped smiling since I found out! I never thought the day would come.

Congratulations to everyone else too

Can i join too?

Have been sort of TTC for 3/12 but got bored so not even sure of my dates! I think I'm due on 6th, but it could be a few days earlier.

This is DC2 for us, DD is 16 months & also an April baby. Getting a strong sense of deva ju as the due date is about a week after DDs was! Got an early scan booked for 30th August, very nervous about that.

Is anybody else feeling a bit bloated? I have a bit of a tum, which sounds ridiculous! It must be fluid.

Thanks for the messages, can I just ask if anyone has had any brown discharge, I have had on and off since period due last Thursday, just when I wipe, this is main feeling of angst as reading it's a bit late for implantation, bled a little at 5 weeks then stopped then went on to lose at 9 weeks, so would love to hear any positive stories??

Hi EssexWelsh no experience of that myself BUT I do know of people IRL who have had bleeding early on and gone on to have healthy babies. Looking at the NHS advice online it suggests to inform your Doctor or Midwife - I completely sympathise about your worrying about eating/drinking before your BFP. I enjoyed the Olympic opening weekend with plenty of cocktails, Brie, blue cheese and homemade (raw egg) ice cream - oops!

magitorch wow congrats!

toobreathless no obvious belly here yet, or any other symptoms to speak of, but my sense of smell has gone crazy, it's driving me mad!

Essexwelsh - no experience with the discharge (this is my first BFP), but would like to put your mind at rest on the other stuff. I am horrified to recount everything I did without knowing I was pregnant, but it includes: drinking, a few cigarettes, eating parma ham and lots of unpasturised cheese, taking pain killers, using 50% deet mosquito repellent, eating runny eggs and rare beef.

From everything I've read it looks like you've just had some implantation bleeding. However, given your background I'm sure the doctor / midwife would completely understand if you were to ask them before your first appt. OR you could try NHS direct?