April 2013... under starters orders

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so tested positive on thursday am for a due date of ... 1st april.... anyone else? early days yet but after 2 years of trying for no. 2 i am very excited!!

Hi all
Sorry, bit TMI but have woken up with a really sore stomach (high up, not near baby) and really bad runs. Had a supermarket Chinese last night so presume it was dodgy. Feel rotten but more worried that this is going to do some harm to the baby. It's clearly nothing super serious (I'm up and about and mumsnetting playing with DD, just running to the loo every now and then!)
Sure I'm being paranoid, but words of reassurance still welcome!

Ooh, forgot to say, the GP on Wednesday changed my EDD to 3rd April. Eek!

Phew, thanks for all the support ladies, after many tears, Me and DH are happy and are looking forward to it soooooo much, I've spoken to some friends who had exactly the same terrifying moments and my emotions are all over the place.

Around 20 people now know and are being supportive, but no family yet as I feel the pressure will be immense. I'm currently 6 + 4, and am suffering sickness feelings alllllllllll day, boobs are aching and such painful trapped wind it's waking me up. I have also spent three days panicking and regretting ever thinking this was a good plan, however now things are on an even keel with DH I feel much more positive.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.................................

Hi ratbag, welcome back! Glad you managed to sort things out...

Thanks Bonadea, I think I feel happier knowing I'm not wrong or mad to not be ecstatic all the time and it's fine to have a melt down about the changes. :)

Is anyone else looking at baby stuff? I can't seem to help myself, I go and look at bras etc and then end up at prams and cots. :)

Yes- have been doing all that. Really need to get a grip!

ratbagcatbag - it was the same here for the first week, DP and I up in arms (although I was desperate to be ecstatic but felt I couldn't as he was bringing me down!) Thankfully, after a heart to heart, all is well. It was born out of uncertainty and the unknown on his part, but things are good now.

I've had my scan date through - 24th September. Eeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! I actually burst out crying when I opened the letter. Seeing it in writing from an 'official' made it so very real

I have been scouring the net for prams. Oh my. I've found 3 that appear to meet my needs, but only seen them online so need to head out and see them for real. But it seems far too early to be rocking up and test driving them. Am holding back for a bit longer, but it's killing me. I WANNA PLAY WITH PRAMS!

Luckily I have kept DD's cot and moses basket so they need to be brought down from the loft at some point. My best friend has a 2 month old boy and has basically said I can have everything she has, so that's a big worry off my mind.

Just making the most of my week of luxury while DD is on hols. Slept in until 11am!!! Now feel sick and lethargic - meh!

Have a great day, enjoy the sunshine if you have it (I am being a vampire, sickness and heat do not mix well!)

Well my body is not letting me relax at all, my discharge is now bright red with the tiniest of clots but only when I wipe, however when I went to the toilet for BM-sorry if TMI but need help-blood literally dripped out of me but again only comes when I wipe, none on pad. I'm thinking that the doctor at EPU put me on daily aspirin to minimise clotting and help the blood flow, but perhaps it's flowing too much to my cervix and this is what is causing the bleeding. Called EPU and they said to go down if worried but they were not worried unless I have pain and soaking a pad. So should I try stopping the aspirin? Thoughts-anything else?? Help!

I wouldn't know about stopping the asprin. I think take the EPU advice and go down and see them. Stress is not helpful and at leas they can settle your mind. Also they can tell you whether to stop taking the asprin.

Big hugs x

Quick question. When are you going to tell the boss? I ask as currently up for my temp role becoming permanent. It's mine basically but I've not signed yet, as boss is useless with paperwork. My boss had a hissy fit at me this morning as the pregnant temp is asking for shorter shifts due to being tired etc. this girl came to interview, induction etc pregnant and said on first day, after scan. my boss is livid about this as feels duped etc. (I'm with her, but obviously can't tell boss this)
Anyway... For my own working peace of mind (and I'm a paranoid girlie anyway and HATE confrontation) I really don't want her go all apeshit on me like she is at the minute if I sign contract then tell her iykwim. Ugh what to do

My boss and colleagues know, due to weeping, sickiness and general stabby feelings. They're all supportive which is fab :) and been told of it gets too much not to worry, take whatever time I need.

I'm not sure what I'd do if my boss was evil, id at least wait until I'd signed contract if I was you :)

Can't go to EPU as off on a 'romantic' break to Brussels, so no time

Your boss sounds like a joy MrsTwinks not

Sounds like she will make your life hell but ultimately, the law is on your side.

Don't tell her, sign the contract and keep quiet as long as possible.

I have told my boss and he was just fabulous. I'm the 3rd to get pregnant in a year (there are 40 people at our place, of which maybe 10 are of child bearing age!) so he was shocked and did a mock 'head in hands' thing but he was thrilled and very supportive.

Do not put up with shit off your boss, if she has such little respect for people why would you offer her any?

Essex, go on your break, relax and enjoy your time with DP.

Come back and speak to EPU.

I know it will be hard, but the break could really help you to relax.

x

You could do either actually.

If you are temp, tell him, and he withdraws the contract he would still be discriminating against you and you would have a valid claim for sex discrimination.... Although obviously it would be very stressful.

Personally, I think you're just going to feel awful by keeping it from him and will just be stressing. Is there any possibility that you tell him now before you sign, he takes advice from HR who will tell him what I say above and you get the job anyway because the law's on your side? At least that way you would not feel like you had been underhand...

Essex, i had bright red blood and one huge clot, have done at lot of reading EVERYWHERE I can find info, one lady had 2 x really big bleeds and was fine. Others had bleeding all through their pregnancy...

If you have it just when wiping, and not on your pad I'm sure you'll be fine (hugs)

Can you really not go to the EPU? Would you be better off being reassured than going away if you think you won't relax?

I went for my second blood test today, I have rang and they are normal, I have a scan booked for next week, we have had similar amounts of blood loss it sounds like, so i hope that is of some comfort?

Thinking of you xx

And thanks everyone else for your thoughts

Oh I know they can't get away with doing anything, doesn't mean they won't try iykwim. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks, surely I'm under no obligation to say before then.

Lovely family friendly boss I have eh! (I work for a family run children's retailer lol)

I had my scan today, all ok little grain of rice is there and in the right place with a teeny tiny heart beat! Amazing to see, put me at 6+1 which is what I thought I was around.
Oh and that dr I saw yesterday rang me this morning and said I should self refer to the EPAU told her I did yesterday after seeing her, if I had rand for an appointment today they wouldn't have had one until Monday which means waiting a whole weekend when things could have gone very wrong, complaint going in on Monday!
Right off to catch up on the rest of the thread.

Hi all,

Been wanting to post but worried in case I jinxed something!

I'm 6+1 today but had two early mc's at the start of the year so was waiting to see how things went. No real symptoms at all, i'm always tired so not sure I can count that, lol.

Glad the scan went well Giddypants, must have been amazing knowing things were ok.

Hoping a stress free, problem free 9 months to us all.

Lola

Giddy - seeing a heartbeat is really positive. When I had my early scan with DS I was told that if a heartbeat is detected before something like 8 weeks (can't remember precisely) that the chance of miscarriage is much reduced.

Angel / Essex - hang on in there with the spotting.

Welcome back ratbag.

I got my date for my booking in appointment today - 28 August. The scan date will be arranged at that appointment I think.

Do anyone else's gums hurt like buggery? Mine are awful. They look all stretched and white in places as well. I have a long standing dentist appointment on 4 Sept but I'm wondering if I should wait till then.

Flosshide - I thought I'd get my date for my scan on my booking in appointment, but I only made the appointment on Wednesday and the paperwork came through today with my scan date. If your local health authority work the same way, you could know your scan date next week!

Angel - glad your blood tests look good! That is very positive

Giddy - that Dr is a tosser, glad your little grain of rice is sitting nicely cooking away

MrsT - ha, you couldn't make that up could you!!

Congratulations Lola, welcome to the thread!

Hi Lola and welcome to the group.
twinks what an awful boss you have I don't know when I'm going to tell mine, I'm not having any sickness or any real symptoms for that matter so I may wait until I'm about 8 weeks or so to tell everyone, or rather I'll tell the big mouth and it will get around the unit in under a week (80staff) a few colleagues know already, one was there when I did the test!
I think that my boss will be ok she knows what a hard time I've had with DS another girl I work with is about 12 weeks now, she told the girl with a big mouth and it was around the unit in no time, she was only 6 weeks at the time and wanted to keep it quite for a while her face dropped as she told everyone her news!

briancox I'm very of the 5'11 and no bump, I'm 5'1 and had a huge bump, although only went up to 9 stone when I was due, I was mahoooosive! Considering baby was only a 4.7lber I had a lot of water and maybe a few too many milkshakes! I think I'll be bigger this time as I can't stop eating! So hungry all the time, then I feel really sick afterwards, can't win at the moment.

Welcome back ragbag glad to hear all is well and back on track.

Keeping fingers crossed that all is ok for you both angel andessex

I called EPU they said they couldn't advise over the phone, so am now sat on train going to Brussels for weekend, so far it has not got any worse, so I'm crossing everything it stays settled at least and hope a relaxing weekend helps-thanks for the advice, see you in a few days unless we get free wifi

Essex - maybe a break will be good for you, try to enjoy yourself, although easier said than done I know.

I can't wait to get scan date through. Something to concentrate on, had considered an early scan as with a complete lack of symptoms it's hard to actually believe I'm pregnant but will try to hold off for the meantime.

Hi lola, welcome

Giddypants, great news, how lovely for you to see your little grain, glad you didn't wait.

Essex, are you ok?

Whoopsie, didn't refresh before i posted! Bloody estate agent distracting me!

Have a great break essex

I have told my immediate boss, will wait until 12 weeks fir everyone else at work.

Telling my mum dad brother next weekend, hopefully my scan on Thurs will bring good news.

Still not many symptoms here, no appetite, but that could be the worry (have lost 4lbs this week!) and sense of smell +++.