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Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

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YompingJo · 20/07/2012 06:20

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Angelico · 02/08/2012 18:01

Hello!!!

My sister had a show and went to hospital - but they sent her home as only 1cm. But things seem to be kicking off early...!!! Squeeeeeeeeee!!!

WantAnOrange · 02/08/2012 19:02

Hehe Angelico how far along is your sister?

I had my first ante-natal class today and it went quite well. They were happy to cover home-births as well as hospital births, plus they have opened a new MLU near in our town which I didn't know about. I'm still choosing home-birth but really pleased to hear it's available to others.

I can't remember who mention christmas further up but you re not mad, or at least we are mad together! I love christmas and start planning in August!

Kyyria · 02/08/2012 19:13

I'm not generally too fussed about xmas but am looking forward to the bean's arrival and then once I know what we're going to call him I'm going to buy 3 stockings (one each for me, DH and the bean) with names on so I can start buying some little things for each of us. It will be different this year being a family Smile

Whilst I'm at it, is anyone else going through phases of nausea/not wanting to be around food again? I've really lost all interest and i'm struggling to be enthusiastic about cooking (or indeed eating) anything. Still making myself eat as I know I need to, but have completely gone off food again.

32, 27+4, #1

lisbethsopposite · 02/08/2012 22:51

Hello all - agree with the blanket to swaddle small baby and I plan to use sleep bag ASAP.
Reply on the AP front Grin

LoopyLa · 03/08/2012 07:51

Happy Friday ladies!! Smile Smile

Just to let you all know that my friend in India has had 2 lots of good news this week - the first was that she was able to hold her 2 little boys for a few minutes and the second is that her little girl came off the ventilator so now able to breathe by herself!! Yay!! Grin

Thank you so much for all your kind thoughts Thanks Smile

Planktonette · 03/08/2012 09:02

kyrria - you're damn straight you should be pissed miffed!

I'm going to pretend like I have the right to an opinion here and say - that is a good job to leave.

Don't do it while you're on mat leave - it's always better to be employed than not - but don't go back.

If there's one thing competent women can win olympic gold in, it's 'tolerating being underpaid' (witha silver in 'misplaced loyalty'.) Note I don't mention 'underappreciated'. 'Appreciated' is nebulous - you can never get a firm grip on it, you can't know if you're being reasonable or not, a smile can keep you going for a while or make you think you were being silly the whole time - but £££ is measurable. If they're not paying you enough, you know. And you can leave.

(You know another thing women do that men don't do? I saw this in a survey for my industry (IT) the other day. We look at job descriptions and say 'well I don't have 100% of the required skills, so I won't apply.' You know what men do? They say 'well I have about 50/60% of the required skills, so I will apply.' See the difference?)

Just to be 100% clear on this - yes, your circumstance is bad, no, it's not fair, no, you can't change it. That requires changing other people's brains, and you can't get in their brains. (For your bosses, they have a lot invested in believing that they're competent, and for you to change their brains requires you to basically prove thst they're not competent, to them, and no-one in their right mind would voluntarily swap belief 1 for belief 2). So go hang out with some different brains instead. Brains that pay you properly, at that.

Londonmrss · 03/08/2012 09:02

Wonderful news Loopy! God, it must be such an emotional time for her.

squidkid · 03/08/2012 10:09

just a quickie - londonlivvy it was you who had just qualified as a yoga instructor, wasn't it? I have been doing pregnancy yoga since 15 weeks and love it. However my instructor is now on holiday for a month... My local sports centre does yoga (not pregnancy, for all standards inc beginners) most days and I was wondering about going and just doing what I could, however my instructor was very down on the idea ... but a month without yoga sucks. There are other pregnancy yoga classes around but they're all in the evening and I'd rather do it in the day now I'm off work...

so... what do you think about doing a normal yoga class pregnant? Is it completely unsuitable? If not, what should I particularly avoid doing? OR should I just do a few exercises myself at home?

Angelico · 03/08/2012 10:17

WantanOrange my sister is 39 weeks today! :) She had a quiet night last night and in spite of show yesterday MWs said it could take up until Tues for things to really get moving. Don't know how to feel for her - half of me wants her to get the ordeal over with, the other half was thinking, "Oh please let her have had a nice quiet night and got a bit of sleep!" Confused

Great news Loopy! :)

Kyrria hang in there - as Planktonette says better to have the job for now with so little time left but def start looking when you are off on maternity leave!

Milk glad I'm not the only one thinking about hospital bag - going to pack mine in next week or two so it's done pre-move! Ordered some button through maternity nighties off M&S website - girl at hospital had section and said they are a life saver when you are breastfeeding and also it can hurt raising arms above head for normal pull on nighties post CS.

Yomping I don't know if you are getting these messages... but hope you are surviving the holiday! :) and haven't expired in a fog of cigarette smoke

In terms of cots / co-sleeping we are probably going to get this one. We can get it cheaper in Ireland rather than through NCT website but meant to be v good post CS as you can avoid sitting up to lift bean and just wheak her straight across to boob :) It also converts to a playpen when the bean is in her own room.

God I'm so tired - anyone else?! Have to go and do Friday's renovation related jobs - today we are mostly buying tile strips, silicone and those foam pads you put under furniture.

Have a good day all! Thanks

londonlivvy · 03/08/2012 11:11

squid my experience of preg yoga classes is quite limited (I've been to two) but they were both a lot more gentle than most normal yoga classes, probably because they have to allow for people up to 40 weeks and with a variety of health issues. I normally do quite a dynamic form of vinyasa flow yoga and have just been modifying along the way. I do a lot of home practice and I am lucky thati have an instructor who is happy to accept me in her classes. Many won't, because there are quite a few things you couldn't or shouldn't do and they'd need to be frequently finding replacement poses for you or modifying your position to adapt the pose. Some teachers are confident enough to do that, others aren't. So you could go to the local leisure centre and ask the instructor if she would have you. Do take care though and

  1. Don't squash the bump. So in a forward bend, widen your legs. Don't do closed twists like marichyasana c. Don't lie on your front in bow pose (lie on your side and do it instead)
  2. Don't push yourself too hard. You don't want to over stretch your ligaments.
  3. Don't hold your breath at any point. Breathe.
  4. No abdominal crunches, plank or navasana. Do your pelvic floor muscle exercises instead.
  5. Avoid deep back bends as you get enough during the day with the weight of the bump
  6. If you haven't been doing shoulderstands etc, now is not the time to start.

If the instructor isn't willing to take you on, I would suggest the Tara lee DVD. There is a full session of 70 mins and a restorative one of 40 mins if you're feeling knackered.

Hope that helps. Golden rules are breathe, listen to your body and don't push too hard.

Right. Best get dressed. Off to a wedding. Sadly without DF as he's away on a course. Boo.

londonlivvy · 03/08/2012 11:14

Oh and if I remember right, you love the relaxation bit at the end? It probably won't be as long in a normal class. But you can get a yoga nidra cd of guided relaxation to listen to at home. Bliss.

hufflepuffle · 03/08/2012 13:02

Grrr error in posting, blah blah, too cross to re type!

hufflepuffle · 03/08/2012 13:09

Sorry, I really cannot keep up with posts, my head is a mess!! But Squid, can only agree with yoga advice. My class was off for 4 weeks and my return yesterday was v hard work!! Class seems a total faff compared to my previous but now at 30 wks I see why!! Think a regular class would be impossible and prev instructor would not hav taken me. Wish I had done more at home over 4 weeks off, at stage where could hav done with it......
I would ask local instructor and hope they confident to take u otherwise get a home routine set.

Looopy, so glad to hear about your friend, babies are remarkable and hopefully they continue to improve. X

Do not want to co sleep. Hubby 6'6, big and snorer. Me 6' and sleep like a foetus, there is no room in our bed!!!! And I will likely be at work after 3 months. Like look of that cot tho Angelico... But not looking further as doubt we can afford!!!!! Excited to hear about your sis, but looks like she has long few days ahead!! Keep us posted. X

Cannot remember any more posts and as u can see by my non bold name checking, an having a lazy day..... With a bunged appt book- not good mix. :-(

Oh thanks for opinions on swaddling, must get some cellular blankets, hav already got sleeping bag for bit bigger.

Oh and whoever said about Avent BF pump, i got that v good value set, impressed with it. Much cheaper than anywhere else and lot of stuff in box! Only thing is that Avent hav new range out called Natural. Bottles and pump interchangeable, teats and collars not. Lots of good reviews on Avent electrical pump.

Must go eat lunch before afternoon onslaught begins!

hufflepuffle · 03/08/2012 13:10

Yay!! Lots of pressing back button, copy and paste, post rescued!

Kyyria · 03/08/2012 14:20

Thanks planktonette and angelico - already thinking through job options whilst I'm off and keeping eyes peeled on the job section! Grin

YompingJo · 03/08/2012 14:25

We're back and we survived Center Parcs (which I have now learnt how to spell correctly Grin).

Is it weird that you girls feel like family to me now? I have loved sitting here and reading through 4 pages pf posts to catch up. Loving the bump pics, they are all gorgeous and we all look pregnant now which (although terrifying) is great, and so much better than that looking podgy stage.

Angelico, thanks for thinking of me - we didn't even have a mobile phone signal and deliberately left the laptop at home so that we had a proper break, but it was nice to see my name checks when I read all the posts just now Smile. And that's the cot we have! Worth having a look on eBay (you too, huffle), as they go for about £100 second hand, that's how we got ours.

Well, the holiday was better than expected (that should be my mantra: it will be better than I think!). The first 2 evenings were the worst, 2 barbecues, sitting outside surrounded by smoke, I excused myself on the pretext of being tired at about 9:30pm and went and read in bed, just to get away from the smoke. But after that. DH and I did our own thing more and it was better. These were the highlights:

  • going off site to see bison and waipiti (like elk) at the {{http://www.bisonfarm.co.uk/ Bush Farm Bison Centre]] which was quirky but cool, and we bought bison fillet steak which we cooked for tea, it was lush! (and I had it medium rare, shhh!)
  • flying owls - gorgeous
  • lots of cycling around the nice site
  • watching woodpeckers in the bird hide

There were some pretty emotional moments though. On the first afternoon, DH and I went for a cycle and my gears jammed, resulting in me being thrown forwards and landing on the handlebar stem with it stuck right in my belly, low down, exactly where the baby?s head was at my last antenatal check up. It hurt but not too badly, but the baby's movements seemed to be very reduced that evening and the next morning too, and I was really worried, so we went to Salisbury hospital to get checked out (quote from MIL: "no more cycling for you, Yomping, when you get back" - reply from me, in my mind: "right, but it's fine for me to be constantly breathing in your fucking cigarette smoke and passing that on to the baby???Angry".

Anyway, they were lovely at the hospital - quietest A&E I have ever seen. Straight into triage, sent to maternity Day Assessment Unit, doppler straight out, gel on tummy, which prompted a massive kick from baby Blush Grin. They put me on a monitor for 30 mins and said baby seemed fine, the midwife also had a good feel around and said that it had moved to lying across me which is why movements would feel different. DH said that it I had biffed him in the head, he would probably have moved too GrinConfusedBlush. She said that cycling should be fine, just be careful, and I smugly passed that on the MIL when we got back. Very glad we went in, they were very lovely and reassuring and we would have spent the whole week worrying otherwise.

Second emotional moment- DH went for an epic 19k cycle on Wednesday morning (he's training for a triathlon) and I was stood outside talking to him afterwards as he stretched. I had a T-shirt on but no bra and felt damp - looked down to see a small wet circle at about left nipple height. OMFG. Is this meant to happen at only 30 weeks? Shock Shock Shock I did a lot of squealing along the lines of DH having achieved a 19km cycle and my main achievement of the day being leaking from a breast Sad. Then we went into the bedroom to investigate further, in a kind of horrified fascination. I squeezed and a bit more came out Shock. DH offered to suck some, and nearly got himself a slap but then when he had gone to have a shower I got some on my finger to see what it tasted like. (can't believe I confessed to that!).

Third emotional moment was when we went out to dinner last night, just the two of us, and DH said that he is over the moon to be starting a family, it has all been quite quick but it just feels right (we moved in 4 months after meeting, having both been married before, were engaged within a year, married within 2 and here we are, having only been together 3 yrs 3 months, 9 weeks away from having a real live baby, eek) - but his only fear is losing me if something goes wrong, and then he asked me if something bad happens and he has to choose between saving me or the baby, who should he choose? We were both in floods of tears, and that conversation (along with the hospital visit) made us realise how much this little baby means to us. I said to him that I have had 37 years and they haven't all been great, but now that I have met him and we are together, I feel that I am complete - and I would like our baby to have a chance to feel that too, so he should choose the baby. That was he would keep a bit of me too. But god, it was an emotional conversation Confused. Think the waiters wondered what on earth he had said to me as I couldn't stop crying Blush

So, yeah, the week was eventful but good on the whole. And tomorrow we are off to eat snail porridge and all sorts of weird food at the Fat Duck courtesy of Heston Blumenthal. It is going to be amazing but we are pretty scared!

Yomping, 37, 31 weeks today!

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YompingJo · 03/08/2012 14:26

That link should have been the Bush Farm Bison Centre

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hufflepuffle · 03/08/2012 17:38

Oh Yomping you have made me cry!!!!

Angelico · 03/08/2012 18:33

Ooooh Huffle that is going to be one tall baby! :o And must look out that Avent pump thing, I don't care about the fancy-schmancy new bottles if I can get the old one cheap :o

Yomping well done on surviving the poison cloud :) Glad you had a better than expected time at Centre Parcs - and v glad your bean was okay after the bike scare, hurrah for lovely midwives! I also welled up a little about your conversation with your DH Blush but let's hope for the best for us all! :) My DH would never have that conversation as he is relentlessly "Ah sure, it'll all be grand!" (ie Irish Hmm) but he counter-balances my worrying streak :) Also he has just arrived home with a Chinese for tea so I luffs him more than ever and am going to go and devour said Chinese! :o

Enjoy your evening beangrowers x

hufflepuffle · 03/08/2012 19:25

As I am a bit of a whingapuss I have decided to make a list to show that I am actually very happily pregnant!
This is my Positive Points of Pregnancy Post!!

Well apart from the blindingly obvious positive outcome of having a whole new person at the end of it......... Woo hoo!!!!

  1. Best hair I hav ever had in my whole life!! Thicker and shiny and can actually be totally lazy and was weekly instead of every other day.
  1. Brilliant posture! Being on the v tall side I have hideous posture which has caused many problems. Now despite people saying I am carrying 'low' believe me I hav a v full tummy right up to my boobs, which means need nice upright back to keep comfortable! This can only last because I have literally had to change habit of a lifetime!
  1. No sensitive teeth! Swollen gums means exposed top of teeth hidden and no sensitive teeth at ALL!! Keep bringing on the ice cream!!!!
  1. People finally noticing and being nice and smiley and happy!
  1. Generally putting life in to perspective, looking over life's minor niggled due to the realisation that there are more important things!
  1. The wonder of finding lovely friendly support and care n a group of 'strangers' who become friends, lovely MNers!

Apologies for not reading and posting properly but at least I hav caught myself on and cheered up!!

And yes Angelico , what on earth size child will we produce??! DH says a Superhuman!!!

WantAnOrange · 03/08/2012 19:52

Yomping my boobs have been leaking since about 10 weeks! I think it was later in my first pregnancy but didn't expect that!

Angelico I hope everything is going smoothly for your sister!

Advent bottles Bloody Advent Bottles! I have the old style pump and loads of bottles but would prefer the new style teats. I wish you could buy just the collars and teats on their own. I also have the breast milk storage cups that you can screw the collars onto (so don't need to transfer to a bottle) but you can't get them on thier own and I'm not buying a whole new set of bottles just for the tops! Angry

I have some happy news too. My cousin had a major heart op yesturday and she has now woken up and feeling fine (all things considered). I am so relieved!

MickeyTheShortOne · 03/08/2012 20:23

Ahh Yomping That made me well up too!! I don't think DP has even considered that.. in fact I don't think I'd even considered that!!! Maybe thats a conversation we should have...
I'm 4 weeks behind you and I'm leaking like nobody's business. At first it was at night but now its in the day too- its been so painful these last couple of days! Mine was just more of a whitish-clear liquid though and didn't really taste like anything.
Does anyone else's DP seem fascinated with the idea of breast-feeding? and wants to try some (off the tit)?! Or is that just mine!!!!!
And I wouldn't worry about things being too "quick". Although we've known each other for well.. at least 11 years we've only been together for a year and a half and I'd moved in (basically) within weeks. I think it depends on how comfortable people are with each other. And I'd like to think we're made for each other :o Neither of us are the confrontational type so we don't argue, if we're pissed at each other then we'll just come out and say it. We've only ever had a row once. It was horrible and I don't think I want to ever have it again!!! if he sees that bitch of an ex-girlfriend though i might just hit knock her/him out Wink

Dear me when did I become a jealous woman? Oh no, I didn't. She's just a bitch. Wink

Anyway: To make you laugh: a situation does not get more awkward when you mis-hear an 80-odd-year-old-customer's request, and respond in horror "You want some durex?!!?!?!"... No no Michaela, she in fact wants "Two new legs". I will never live it down. Ever.
I saw her again today- thankfully she didn't seem to remember the incident!!!

And I'm really interested on the thoughts about co-sleeping etc etc. Initially I hadn't wanted to co-sleep because I'd be scared of rolling on the baby- although that cot looks like a brilliant compromise!! I think it may work out quite well. lets hope ikea do some :D

P.S. Sympathies to all those moving out- I will be joining you in three weeks (I CAN'T WAIT), exciting times ahead :D

Beccus · 03/08/2012 21:12

oh, yomping that also made me feel very teary....i am going to taste the milk, too!!
kyria, i know if we leave our job after mat leave, we have to pay a lot of money back - worth looking into.
Co-sleeping? no way, i will squash baby. Baby can sleep in cot next to us.
wantanorange, your comments ahout co-sleeping made me laugh so hard, too funny.
Great news, loopy, had been thnking about your friend and her triplets.
Lovely B/F has fitted black out blinds to the loft windows, fingers crossed bean stays off the bladder pillow so i can have a lie in. Happy weekend x

Kyyria · 04/08/2012 03:08

3am. Wide awake. Shattered. Can't figure out why I'm awake. Been to empty bladder, bean happily asleep, don't think I'm worrying about anything. Haven't slept properly for just over a week now...

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

32, 27+6, #1, shattered

WantAnOrange · 04/08/2012 07:27

I have just learned that DS does not know how to un-do a button. Hmm How could I be so crap, that he can't do that at the age of 6?!