December 2010: no, it's not an autumn pumpkin up my jumper ...

[Miffster]

...and we're gliding towards the third trimester, draped in suitably flowing attire.

LOVE IT!!!!

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Miffster If you have a straightforward birth you can discharge yourself whenever you want, you can anyway but if you had probs then I assume you wouldn't want to. I did this myself before.

I've been getting some really odds pains today, woke up with sharp stabbings pains all over the top of bump and have had them on and off ever since. Not felt her move since this morning I think either so I may call the hospital shortly. Waiting to see how it goes...

Thanks Cheese

hoping your hospital is able to reassure you about the odd pains, thinking of you...

C&G hope everythings okay and that the hospital can help.

I found I was in longer with my second. My first (DD) was born rediculasly early in the morning and I was home by mid-afternoon. My second (DS) was born at lunchtime but I had to stay in overnight coa they had to wait for blood test results as I'm rhesus negative. I think it took longer for the test results as he was born on a sunday but that's just my guess.

hey all - like the new thread title Miffster.... there hasnt been much wafting about in mat gear eating ice cream recently in my house @ the weather.

Hope all is well c and g I will text you in a bit :o)

Hows everyone else?

Thanks, typically she started booting me loads just before I got on the phone so I decided to leave it and things have calmed down a lot since then, phew! :o All the stress is no good!! Trying to breathe and stay calm hehe.

Crazykat I was in overnight with my first as she went into scbu, was born in the afternoon though. With ds1 I had him just after lunch and was home by 8pm and ds2 had him in the afternoon and home by about 10pm. I was desperate to get out of there so I asked for us to be discharged and they found someone to check him over before we left, didn't do it ama.

OWO yeah not too bad, hope you're well too. I'll keep an eye out for it :o

thanks miffster I survived the day so now I'm just a week behind on all my usual work.... ho hum.

C&G glad to bear baby's wriggling again

I'm really hoping to be in and out of hospital this time - that's what I wanted with DD but in the end, was in for 5 days not a good birth experience, so I would love for this one to go more to plan.

and thanks to whoever posted the link for the baby on board badges - got mine this week

I like the new thread name :-)

Hi, great new thread Miffster

C&G hope you're ok & the pains have gone now.

Re weight, last week I had put on just over a stone and a half. (put on 5st with ds2 )

Re staying in - ds1 (hospital as my B{ was very high) was born 21:52 on a Sunday, they let me home about 1pm the next day. Was only there for so long as my BP was still raised and his temp was still a bit low. ds2 (MLU) - born at 3.30am, they wouldn't let me home for 6hrs, but at bang on 9.30 they appeared with my notes (I was already dressed and ready to go!)

They've never wanted to see a wet nappy or made me wait for blood tests, both times I've had the anti-d at home.

Re MW appts - I've had 10wk booking in, 16wk, 20wk, 25wk, next will be 28wk anti-d appt.

Hi all and thanks for the new thread Miffster - liking the title. I've just been catching up on the last couple of days and loving lists of things bought - especially the nappies (sorry forgotten who it was now!)

I've had a sad week. Went to the funeral of a friend on Tuesday who passed away from cancer and it was pretty horrendous. Been feeling a bit down, but looking forward to the long weekend now.

My confidence in going for HB seems to have disappeared, although I have read through the HB thread which is on here atm and agree with a lot of the posters who support HB. I think I will wait and see how I feel when things have settled down. In any case, I still don't know what my GBS test will be so it is probably best I don't set my heart on any kind of birth.

WRT being discharged from hospital, I had DD at 12.15 a.m. and once I'd had bath, breastfed her etc, we were taken up to the ward (DH says it was about 2.00 by then) and IIRC we both slept until about 7ish. In fact I think I was woken up by the midwife and seem to remember being quite pissed off! At about 8.30 I said I wanted to go home and they were happy with that, but it took until the afternoon to sort out doing DD's newborn check and the discharge paperwork.

One thing I do remember was I really liked the food...I think there were a lot of drugs in my system and as I had barely eaten during a long labour I was starving. And I know hospital food is rank from being in a couple of months ago.

Very much liking thread title Miffster :) kinda makes me even more concious about wearing orange (not that it goes with my colouring anyway!)

Sorry to hear about friends funeral WLL, hope you have some good reflect/refresh time over the weekend.

Liking the discharge timescale info. Does anyone know when you are allowed to leave the area? Do they need to keep track of you with visits for the first few days? I think I would like to go to parents house if it is Christmas even if it is quite soon after the birth but its in London.

Really hoping for a brighter weekend, rain getting a bit boring!

Morning ladies,

Apologies in advance for the TMI, but would appreciate some advice. Last night I was really sick, vomited up my whole dinner (I still have recurrent bouts of nausea and vomiting) and then felt wet down there, whilst being sick do you think it was wee?(it didn't smell) and I have lost my pelvic floor control already or could it be fluid or part of my waters?? I was quite worried last night but am feeling fine again this morning? Do I need to start doing these exercises?

WLL Sorry to hear about your friend, hope you are feeling a bit better x

Button Weather is supposed to much better this weekend, fingers crossed anyway as I have a week off work!

Have a scan appointment at 1.30pm so I'll let you know how that goes.

Morning,

Sorry to hear about the puking, hope you feel better today?

It is quite common to experience pelvic floor weakness leading to urine losss during vomiting, coughing or sneezing. If you were well-hydrated before you were sick, then your wee could well have been quite diluted and not strong-smelling like morning wee, or wee that has hung about for a while and started to have that ammonia scent.

Here is a good article about pelvic floor exercises and stuff, you can also get a free sample of a pant liner by clicking on the ad round it -

• apparently the last few weeks pre and post birth can be a bit of a bugger for this! (stress incontinence I mean not puking).

I would wear white knickers for a few days and go on knicker watch & sniff duty, so it's easier to check if it is

a) few drops of pee
b)vaginal discharge ( remember, we are prone to being more lubricated down there at this stage)
c) something else.

If in doubt take pants in plastic bag to GP/midwife.

I meant to add, yes, do the pelvic floor exercises everyone! DO THEM NOW whilst you are reading this thread! And squ-e-e-e-e-eze. And do that special concentrating face that women do when they are flexing their fanjos. Hehe. No,really, it is worth it. I started doing them after I had terrible bout of convulsive gastroenteritis/norovirus a few years ago and found myself peeing, puking and pooing simultaneously for 9 days and it left me with tendency to leak when sneezing so have been religious about it ever since. Pregnancy really affects pelvic floor.

Sorry to hear of friend's funeral Wholelottalove, how sad.

re. midwives: I have had a booking in appt and one other appt, I missed the third one at 22 weeks because was on holiday, next one is 27 weeks I think. Have also had 1 GP antenatal appointment, and one extra one to get a fit to fly letter.

I'm going to be on here all day, the weather is crap and I have the day off to wait in for various deliveries.

Wholelotta Sorry to hear about your friend, how are you feeling now?

Button you do have visits afterwars but you can still do what you want to, if you won't be home then arrange the visit for another time. Remember you can do what you want!!! They cannot order you to do anything; it's your baby.

Lavita hope you're ok. Definitely get checked out imo, my waters went at 22 weeks with my last and they leaked from then on. It's not always easy to see or tell and those pads that supposedly test for fluid are not accurate. Even when they check you they can't always be sure if it's a slow leak so please take it easy and get looked at. It's worth it to be on the safe side having been in that situation.

Definitely getting married in 2 weeks from tomorrow!!! :o :o

My SIL has had her proper Nuchal and her measurements are 1.8 which is a wopping 2.2 less than the NHS woman said. The private consultant has said that the sonogropher in the hospital shouldn't have been doing the nuchal measurments and shouldn't have told her it was the 'thickest one she's seen all year' - I really hope my SIL complains because I imagine this woman is giving other people duff inormation.

I am so so so so so pleased for her. She gets the full results on Tuesday so I am feeling hopeful that she will be fine.

Love the new thread, well done Miffster

Yay for the Wedding C&G

I stayed in Hospital after both of mine, 2 nights after DD so they could sort out my Meds for blood clot.
I stayed 2 nights with DS, they practically had to throw me out, I was the only one on the ward and kind of enjoyed the post-birth bubble we were in
This time I think I will be more eager to come home sooner especially if I go on EDD, as I will want to get home for Christmas.

yay! goood news about DF's sister in law and yay again for C&G's wedding excitement!

I have started a thread over on pregnancy about wanting to tear off my bra, it is driving me wild, anyone else having this?

Miffster - I replied in the thread. I had that issue with bras before I went to get properly fitted (Bravissimo only for me now!) and found that Mothercare are crap at fitting bigger cup bras AND are crap at making bras for bigger cup boobs!

DuelingFanjo - great news about your SIL. She should definitely complain. A discrepancy that big suggests to me that the NHS sonographer measured the membrane along with the nuchal gap, which is something they need to avoid doing! And telling her that is not on at all.

C&G - congrats on the wedding!

ButtonAzure - I think post birth check-ups depends hugely on how things go. Eg. if you need stitches, they'll need checking. I'd be inclined to think you won't want to travel very soon after the birth too.

I really want this LO to arrive by Christmas!

Heartburn has started for me...not happy about that! I've got some Rennie heartburn tablets which help and aren't too awful - I can't take Gaviscon without puking so it's a tad pointless.

OOoooo just paid deposit on a new and HUGE car, which is bloody fantastic!!

Great thread title miffster

C&G glad to hear LO is moving around and great news about the wedding date.

WLL so sorry to hear about your friend, funerals are bad enough but when it is before their time it is very sad.

DF fab news about your SILs measurements.

japh yet again it makes me laugh how different standards are - I had a 2nd degree tear last time (I believe because they never stopped me pushing ) and never got my stitches checked. I was just told that in 'x' amount of days the skin would start to heal and the stitch knots would start to drop off! I also stayed in for 5 days when I had DS1 by c-section as that is the standard here, the UK seems to be 2 days. I think we're generally quite lucky with our care and post natal ward.

Lavita Poor you still having MS. I would echo C&Gs advice if you think it might be your waters do get it checked sooner rather than later.

Well we hava skip booked for this weekend so we can weed the garden (severely neglected due to nausea and huge weeds bigger than DS1!!) - my DH is SO lucky! I am so good to him lol!

Yee haa and woo hoo! My Maclaren XLR buggy, carseat and bargainous ebay softcot which all combine to form a cunning travel system have all just arrived in the last half hour, now I can leave the house!

Am going to wait til DH gets back to get them out and play with them.

Today's hot voucher codes for the bank holiday weekend - spend your wine money on...

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Also 15% off orders over 100 quid at Crave maternity wear. Code is AUGUST15 ( AUGUST10 for 10% off orders over 75 quid)

yay to the travel system. DH says my ebay carrycot has arrived. I want to go home and play!