March 2011 - rolling on into the second trimester

[Muser]

We filled the first thread, time for a new one. Anyone and everyone due in March 2011 are welcome.

Well I don't think there's a dry eye on the board, I would hope that in the same position I could be as brave as you split but reading that I just think I would have fallen apart. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that the pain will ease in time.

Much love and strength to you Spilt and your family - you are so very brave to have shared this with us. I am so very sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you. Rest in peace Baby Bobbie and join the angels

Hi, campervanfan here, I just came on to say hi as not been on for a while and read your news with shock Spilt. I just don't know what to write. Take care of yourself and rest in peace lovely baby Bobbie xxx

I'm so so sorry for the loss of your beautiful bobbie, muser is right we will not forget the 1st of our board's babies to be born.
I wish you and your dh all the best for now the future.

Very moved by your message Spilt, thank you for sharing your story. Am so so sorry.

Split - so so sorry, but thank you for sharing your story - very moving.

Stay strong.

xxx

Feel a bit odd posting this when it's such a sad time on the thread. But I had my 20 week scan today and everything was ok. Very nerve wracking after the sad news this weekend, I am enormously grateful for my luck.

I know what you mean Muser it is such a sad time, but I am sure spilt would want us to share good news when it comes along. I am so pleased your scan went well. Did you find out whether it's a boy or girl? We weren't going to find out but I am sure I saw boy bits and now I am driving myself mad wondering if I really did see them - wish I hadn't looked!

Good to hear Muser. I think we all need to hear some good news today, I think the sad news has made a few of us more aware of what could still happen.

I'm glad everything was ok. Have you decided whether to learn the sex of the baby or not? I'm dying to know myself. I'm got 3 weeks and 4 days and counting to my scan. Then my little boy or girl will be referred to by name rather than by "it" as it's currently being called

We decided not to find out. I really want MrM to be the one to tell me, so we're waiting until it arrives.

I also find scans quite stressful due to previous losses, so it's not the best time to try and take stuff in. The baby was in a very awkward position for scanning so I think even if we had wanted to know, it probably wouldn't have cooperated.

split sat here crying as it takes me back to when my first baby was born sleeping, it is an incredibly devasting experience, but you will get through it you are a very strong woman with fantastic rl support. I went on to have DS within a year of losing our firstborn, and am currently 19+4 with DC2, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and am not saying that it will be right for you to try again so soon, but it was what i wanted to do and thats what we did. I feel so very sad but know you will be back on here at some time in the future. Good luck and goodnight Bobbie. xx

I agree, I think spilt would want us to share our news and Muser was spot on in saying we will always, always remember Bobbie, the first born on our lovely board. Glad to hear your scan went well!

Muser congratulations on your scan, I'm really pleased your little one is doing well. Everyone's right, I'd hate to think people were uncomfortable sharing their news after I gave mine. I'm genuinely really relieved and happy for all of you getting good news and having reassuring check ups. I'd be gutted for anyone to hear there were problems in their pregnancies.

Thank you all of you for all your kind words and prayers and thoughts. It's meant so much to us to know we've got all this support and concern, even if we don't know any of you in RL!

Sam so sorry your lost your first baby. And thank you, it is good to hear of people going on from this to have children. It's so very scary losing your first and being so frightened of it happening again, and the possibility that it might happen every time if there's something really wrong.
On a slightly personal note, did they advise you about when you can try again - if there is any reason to wait after a late loss? We've been told that the chances are we will not find out why this has happened, the tests often show nothing. But if there is a problem maybe we should wait for the consultant appointment to go through it. I don't think we'll want to wait long to try again, as actually I think that becomming pregnant again would probably be very healing (and frightening of course...). I don't know, I'm all over the place to be honest.

We're going to try and arrange to have Bobbie buried and the thought of that tiny casket is just heart wrenching. No one should have to bury their baby

spilt your post had me in tears :( what a sad experience for you.

Muser I was really glad to read your scan went well, such a relief to hear some good news so really happy for you. :)

My scan is on friday and we are hoping to find out the sex if possible...

Still not feeling anything definite in the way of movement. There are a few little feelings though occasionally which I think might be the baby! Looking through my notes from the first scan it says 'anterior placenta' so I think that might be why, as that can mean movements are felt less or felt later I think.

It was very reassuring last week at my midwife appt though to hear the heartbeat so I am confident everything is probably ok.

Thanks spiltthetea. You are right that nobody should have to bury their child. It's just wrong.

Well done for being so very, very brave spilt. I have some idea what you are going through as our first baby was born and died at 23 weeks due to a heart condition. It is so very hard at the moment, but (trite as it sounds) time IS a great healer. I can now think of my PFB girl and feel joy for all the good things she bought to our lives, despite the fact that we never really knew her.
I now have a 18 mo DD, and obviously, another one on the way. As far as I recall we were advised that it would be fine to start to try again as soon as we felt ready, though sensible to wait for 2 normal periods so that we knew what was happening with dates.
Lots of love to you and yours at this very, very difficult time. xxx

Muser: that's fantastic news that your scan went well, I think everyone is so sad at the moment it's great to hear some good news.

I know most of ye are in England and pregnancy check-ups are a bit different than here in Ireland, here I had a scan at 12 weeks and a scan again at 28 weeks (it's about every 4-6 weeks after that) and then we visit the doctors in between scans, I haven't been to the doctor since my scan so I'm going on Thursday and I am hoping to hear the heartbeat, I think I'll be on edge till then!

Hi Spilt have been thinking of you and yours all weekend.
Had a 16 week apt with midwife today (I'm 17 weeks) and was so relived to hear a heartbeat. I think I had talked myself into expecting the worse.
Am just battling with trying to get my ante-natal care sorted. My last two pregnancey's got a bit scarey near the end with me having quite serious heart problems (I'm fine when I'm not pregnant). BUT since DS birth6.5 years ago the maternity unit 5 mins down the road with fab ccu nearby has closed and my cardiologist and obs dr both moved on.
So now I am faced with min. 35 minute drive to nearest unit and no-one seems to be taking me very seriously so atm I don't have an initial apt with an obs dr let alone a ref to cardiology at the new hospital. My Midwife said that some-one should see me by 28 weeks and that should be 'just fine'. I have explained that by that point if history repeats itself I will be symptomatic but she doesn't think this is a problem!
Sorry to off load but DH doesn't really get it!
So glad your scan went well muser

jx

split we were told by Drs to wait 3 months but to be honest we started trying as soon as i stopped bleeding! I fell with DS after 2 months and everything was fine. Nowadays some opinions are that dating scans are so accurate now that it doesn't really matter about dates too much as they can tell from the scans!!
The pregnancy with DS was very scary i won't lie, only in so much as i didn't relax until 28 weeks when the baby has a much better chance of survival if it did come early, and the same with this one too. Didn't get a thing for DS until 34 weeks!!

On a slightly happier note, we told DS this weekend that he's going to be a big brother..( though how he hasn't noticed huge fat belly??) OMG bless his heart he was sooo excited and bought me breakfast in bed on sunday (he's 6yr old!!) then told daddy to get up and leave mummy and the baby to sleep!!! He is so protective, he has to lift up all my clothes to expose belly to kiss baby goodbye which is lovely if slightly embarrassing in the playground!!

Sam your son sounds like a little star :)

Are you really showing that much? My OH tells me I am a bit but I look in the mirror only to see that I've put on weight. I just look like I've eaten all the pies. I just feel bloated all the time.

I sorted out my NCT antenatal classes today. I booked the course a few weeks ago but then completely forgot about it until late last week when I found the forms in my bag. Paying by instalments but was wondering how soon after 25 weeks do I get my health in pregnancy grant? Anyone know how long it takes to process? The course doesn't start till February but I'm looking forward to meeting other mums-to-be in the area since I'm currently surrounded by people who have either never had children or the last time they had a child was over 15 years ago.

Catherine I'm sure this varies from midwife to midwife, but mine said she gives out the grant forms at 28 weeks, but that once its sent in, you get it quite quickly.

thank goodness we are just about the last to qualify for this!

Sending in my NCT forms today!

hi all got my gender scan in half hour why am i so scared havnt slept for days nows i worry to much why this so hard why cant we all have it easy sorry fast moan ment to be getting ready to leave !!!!

Good luck today Emma. Let us know how it goes :)

Oooooh good luck Emma .

hi well after all that worrying and sleepless nights met some very nice ladys at apeekaboo after a long struggle as the baby wouldnt open its legs had a walk and lots to drink we found outs its a boy and thank god we heard heart beat which is great got to try and stop worrying for me it wernt really about the gender i have one or each just wanted to see the heart beat ohhh roll on much

hope everyone is doing well of to play group now to wear dd out so she has a nice afternoon nap xx

have added 4d scan photo to here photos didnt really come out to well i have to much tummy !!!