Calling The Viroids - Just Shagging Graduates!

[gormers]

Just thought I'd start a thread for all those JS graduates, whether a newbie graduate or even if you left us a while ago and are well on your way. Would be good for us to keep in touch, see if we're all staying 'sane'.

Don't know about you ladies, but I am still filled with the overwhelming urge to PIAR (that's POAS for all you older graduates - after you left us we went a little mad and started harnessing the power of the ramekin!) I think once you start the habit it doesn't leave you!

Well, it's good to know that the Just Shagging method works. Even if we did once in a while just cheat a teeny tiny little bit!

Just don't let your waters break in our oversized revolving door Frakkle. we don't want it to break down.

No no luck. Well actually we found a great house, but my FIL is the only person we know who can act as a guarantor (which we need because DH has worked for himself for less than 3 years,) doesn't like the paper work he has to sign, so is refusing. So we will literally be homeless in less than 3 weeks. And our landlady hates us, so there is no chance of staying on here after the lease has expired. And my DH is suffering depression so he's no bloody good for anything right now.

Sorry for the downer. I'm now off to pick up my lovely DS from playgroup while attempting not to burst into tears in public

PS macaroon love the name change. Is it at all cravings influenced? Yay on the boy. Little boys are lovely.

Oh blimey coaaf, what a nightmare :( Is your FIL usually this much of a prick? And have you spoken to all the relevant advice authorities about what to do next? Surely as a family with a young child, you must be a housing priority.

Sorry, am sure you have already done all this. I really hope FIL manages to remove head from arse and help you out.

The midwives in Sittingbourne are based at Medway Hospital, so I have been told that even with a home birth, my records are kept there, and most of my ante-natal stuff will happen there.
My mind is completely closed. no intervention :)
(hospitals are not my best friends - whenever i've been, i always felt like the staff assumed i knew exactly what was happening, and if i asked questions i was treated like a moron - at least in my own home, i'm in charge)

choccy sorry your FIL's being a pain.
Is there any way you can fill in most of the paperwork for him, to make it less daunting?

Sweetie you can't say no intervention. What if the baby is transverse? I totally understand the control thing and hating hospitals and I too plan to stay at home for as long as possible (sneaky plans to deliver on the bathroom floor 'accidentally') but don't close your mind to the possibility that everything may not go according to plan. You could easily end up in an all-or-nothing scenario. The majority of interventions in hospitals are negotiable and optional but there are some things which really aren't.

Don't compromise the safety of yourself or your baby and don't put yourself at risk of PND by setting your heart on the birth going one way.

no intervention where absolutely possible

how about that?

Much better . I have that in big red letters on my birth plan. And they need my (or DH's in the event that I'm incapable) informed consent before doing anything.

Now get reading Ina May Gaskin and don't wince when she talks about episiotomies!

ooh.
can't do CS cos I won't have anyone to look after the shop (fancy having a baby at the busiest time of the shop year! what is wrong with us???? )
But I take it on board. I want as little intervention as possible, but if it has to be, then it has to be, i suppose :)

Sorry Nickel after LO is born I'll hopefully be able to become something like NoMoreAchingFanjo and tie the two names together. At least now I can though shouldn't eat all the choc bikkies I want.

On the housing front, yes we are getting help from the relevant people, but we have to be careful as I'm not allowed recourse to public funds and this includeds council housing. Most likely we'll end up in a b&b until we can find something. Not ideal, but not a cardboard box. FIL doesn't have a problem filling in the form as such, but rather the info they are asking for. He's overly paranoid and thinks all his details are going to get stolen. He has pissed me off once or twice in the past but for DH and DCs sake I don't want to sour my relationship with him. So for now I'm just going to ignore him.

Managed to not cry when I picked up DS, and he gave me the biggest hug which was just what I needed. Children are so lovely sometimes

how about AchingFanjoChocolateBiscuit ?

Surely even if you're not allowed your DH is?

I think nomoreachingfanjo is a bit optimistic. achingfanjogimmethechocbicciesNOW is more appropriate

hmm think ConfessionsOfAChocFanjo gives the wrong impression. My current name is a reference to all our talk or sore and aching fanjos (or SPD) a week or so back. Ahh the things you have to look forward to

NoMoreChocFanjo is even worse...

Nope he's not either. We have to prove to the govt we can support ourselves with no help for 2 years. Once I have my indefinate leave to remain things will be different. It wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't unwell or if I waasnt preggers and hormonal, but we'll get through some how.

DS just fell asleep on my lap

NoMoreFanjoBiscuit?

Makes me wonder what FanjoBiscuit is....

it's the closest...

no! no more namechanges!
i'll cry.

not even a little one?

wondered about 'kateesgotabuninheroven' whaddya think?

NoMoreNameChanges(fanjobiscuit)

No idea what a fanjobiscuit is. Not sure I want to either.

Going to look at a house tomorrow. Not getting hopes up again but it's better than sitting at home stressing.