How to tell OH I’m accidentally pregnant

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Hi guys,
unplanned pregnancy here! We had one careless night and bam, it appears my husband has super seed cos now we’re up the duff! I’m 39 and he is 41. We already have a 19yo and a 9yo.
I know DH always wanted another baby but he knew financially it would be too difficult, so we didn’t plan to TTC. But he’s also said in the past that if it happened by accident he’d be happy.
i can’t decide how to tell him. Do I make it a big, memorable event despite knowing it’s gonna take him a while to wrap his head around things. Or do I be more tactful and just have a conversation?
mid love to know how other ladies told their DH?
om kinda tempted to pretend I don’t already know and do a test together, but I’d be a terrible actress.
please would anyone like to share their stories of how they told their partners?

I’d just tell him but do it privately (not with the other kids there). And in the nicest possible way it’s early days

No, not at all! Your comment was kind and realistic! You’re absolutely right, I think it’s gonna take me a long time to get my head around this too. But I know I LOVE being a mother, and I know I’ll be happy in time. I just can’t help but worry about the timing.
But I honestly do appreciate all the advice, especially from people who have been through similar. Could I ask about your situation when this happened to you?

My first and second were very close in age and I’d had a traumatic birth with serious injuries. I also suffer from pregnancy sickness. I felt terrified about doing it again. But then I took medication for the sickness, had an elective c section, a much easier recovery and the easiest baby known to womankind (still is an absolute dream).

During the entire pregnancy I felt, at best, ambivalent. I am overjoyed I had the baby (now 8 year old!) and truly thank my lucky stars that I accidentally fell pregnant. But up until the actual birth I was just scared and sick.

Ah that’s understandable. Thank you for sharing, I’m so glad it all worked out.

Ivejust told DH tonight and he is absolutely thrilled! im so relieved!

Ah that’s lovely! Enjoy your good news together.

Congratulations to you both 😀

Same here, we wanted child number 3 and 7 years of no contraception here we are. Cutting through the excuses we knew the situation and willing to take part. Money isn't everything and we imagined that each time was it.

We played the game as two and made 3, we will be responsible and look after our new born.

Sometimes we have wishes and don't want to face up to our responsibility as it exposes our vulnerability.

I knew my OH on no contraception, I willingly played my part and take responsibility for it.

Be happy in the wonderfulness of nature