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Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

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My best friend's 7month old died this week

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galaxy · 09/07/2005 20:44

and I feel so sad. The poor little love was diagnosed with an enlarged heart 2 months before he was born and it was touch and go as to whether he's survive the birth.

He was in special care at St Thomas's for 2 weeks then allowed home. He was doing really well and then ten days ago, she took him to the GP as he was unwell and they said nothing was wrong. She took him again a couple of days later and they said the sameme. On Thursday, she took him into hospital and he didn't survive the emergency operation.

We met in hospital when our dd's were born and I feel so very sad for her.

PLease say a prayer for her and her family xx

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wordsmith · 12/07/2005 21:06

This is awful. It must be the worst thing in the world to bury your child. My friend died 2 months ago aged 43 and her parents looked absolutely broken, but it must be even worse with a little baby. So helpless, so pure and innocent.....there are many children's graves in my friend's graveyard and reading the headstones you can't even begin to imagine...

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galaxy · 17/07/2005 21:15

I just wanted to tell you about the funeral. It was so moving but so lovely. To see a man carry his own son's coffin into the church was heartbreaking but at the same time, the proud look on his face spoke volumes.

They had a reading about "j" and the way that he had changed their lives and it was lovely but I just blubbed and so did dh.

J's older sister (`13)had written a poem about her precious little brother and it was read by a friend of the family and there wasn't a dry eye in the church.

Afterwards, there was a "celebration" of J's life at a local pubs and it was a really lovely occasion.

My friend was so strong as was her dp. There was some laughter and lots of sadness throughout the afternoon. We left at 6 and I wished I could have stayed longer. A friend of the family had produced a collage of J and his family which was wonderful.

I haven't stopped being tearful since and today, I couldn't help but to keep hugging dd every chance I could and thank God for how lucky we are.

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Nbg · 17/07/2005 21:18

Can't find the words Galaxy

Very true though, you don't realise how lucky you are.

Nbg · 17/07/2005 21:18

Can't find the words Galaxy

Very true though, you don't realise how lucky you are.

Aero · 17/07/2005 21:19

marthamoo · 17/07/2005 21:20

Oh galaxy - I imagine a child's funeral to be one of the hardest things to get through. It sounds 'perfect' though, if that's not too odd a choice of word. Your friend is lucky to have you at this dreadful time.

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galaxy · 17/07/2005 21:33

Perfect is how I would describe it too although yes, that sounds odd. I didnt sleep at all on Friday and I kept going into dd's room to check her. Totally irrational but I couldnt help it.

J was atruly beautiful little boy with a gorgeous smile. The collage was wonderful and reflected his personality.

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Dior · 17/07/2005 21:40

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essbee · 17/07/2005 21:43

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Flum · 17/07/2005 21:44

Oh god. Funerals seem to give off a strange ethereal sense of joy don't they. such strong emotions. it makes you realise you wander round in a sort of emotionless daze most of you're life doesn't it.

Childrens funerals are the hardest.

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galaxy · 17/07/2005 21:45

Thank you. Essbee, sorry I've been such an absent friend. Things are getting on top of me. Have come off ad's and have anew boss who is very aggressive - I seem to attract them

Willget in touch when things settle down, I promise I hope you are ok xx

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essbee · 17/07/2005 21:49

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galaxy · 17/07/2005 21:52

She's the best friend of my "real" boss who is on maternity leave and it seems that she is empire building. I wonder if her best friend will have a job to come back to?! I hope you're ok....and your babies are too.

I am pissed and I am going to sleep now. night night xx

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mandymoo · 22/07/2005 20:52

Thoughts to you and your friend's family (i know its already been said loads bit i really don;t have any other words........)

anniebear · 24/07/2005 15:54

My friends 11 month old little boy died in January, he also had a heart condition.

Was very very sad. She was pregnant at the time and now has a 2 month old little boy, but it has been so hard for them

My heart goes out to your friendxxxxxxxx

sparklymieow · 24/07/2005 16:13

Galaxy this sounds so familiar

My friends DS died at 5 months old from a heart condition, he was diagnosed at 6 weeks old. He was born 3 weeks before my Dd2. He died at home.
The funeral was very heartbreaking too. His dad carried him into the church, and to the graveside. The coffin was a tiny one as he hadn't grown because of the heart condition so was only 7lb.
Afterward we all went back to her house where we all had a drink in memory of Daniel, and we celebrated his life.
Unfortunely for my friend, she has no other children, and she can't get pregnant again

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