I'm sorry if I have breached some unspoken rule by moving some earlier posts to here. I didn't know there was a bereavement thread on Mumsnet until last night.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/817409-Lost-my-twin
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/819433-To-expect-my-dead-twins-funeral-wishes-to-have-b een
My twin sister has just died of cancer just three weeks after the initial diagnosis at age 32. Although we were not identical (I was a boy) we were very close all our lives. We went to the same University, never lived more than 50 miles apart and I saw her about every three weeks.
It was her funeral yesterday and today was supposed to be just Mum, Dad and I mourning Caroline. Mum and I are desolate in our different ways but Dad seems entirely focussed on Caroline's will, what he will do with the money and what a relief it will be to inherit her shares in the family business. (He got 48% from Grandad some years ago and would get another 26% from Caroline.)
I cannot even speak to him about nasty he sounds. In the last few days of her life my darling sister Caroline made it quite clear what she wanted to happen at her funeral. Dad ignored what she wanted and now is doing all this!!!