My dad has died.

[Sidge]

I knew the phone call would come (he had a brain tumour and had been in the hospice since just before Christmas) but when the call came at 0430 to say he had died I just couldn't believe it.

I can't believe my dad has gone. He is only 60. The news hasn't come as a surprise but I can't believe how grief stricken I am. I thought I would feel more prepared but I just feel totally bereft. The sadness is incredible.

And to make it worse DH is away and I can't phone him.

Oh, I am so sorry for you.

I felt the same when the call came about my nan. You think you are prepared but how can you really be?

Have you got someone who can be with you?

Is there no way you can get hold of your DH?

So sorry for you

Why can't you phone DH? Is there no-one else for you to speak to at the moment?

Wish there was something more I could say that would comfort you, but just know that you and yours and in my thoughts.

So sorry to hear this Sidge. Wishing you strength to get through the next few days.
Lost my dad in July to cancer and still feel that awful sense of shock. Even if you know that your loved one is very ill, nothing can prepare you for it.

So sorry to hear your news.

Am so sorry

Hope you are able to speak to your DH (is the 'can't phone because he's military? They are usually really great about this sort of thing)

Thank you all.

Dh is away at sea, he's in the Navy. I have emailed him but can't phone.

Luckily I have some wonderful friends who had us over for lunch so I haven't been totally alone but it is really difficult. Like you have said, you think you are prepared for that call but you aren't.

Please raise you glasses and toast my dad David, who was a wonderful man and I loved very much [sniff]

Thinking of you at this sad time.x

To David. Much loved by Sidge. A wonderful man and no doubt very brave.

oh [sidge] how awful. Mum dies 6months ago and although it was expected and she'd been ill for so long she was only 68 and I still don't think I was ready for it

thank goodness for your lovely friends - wishing you all the strength in the world for this sad time

to David, may you be in peace now

David,

God rest you

Thinking of you and your family Sidge at this difficult time.

I'm so sorry Sidge. As Spud said, nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one. I lost my Dad 5 years ago and even though we knew it was coming, it didn't lessen the blow.

Be kind to yourself xx

I am so sorry

I am so sorry for your loss Sidge, I lost my dear dad when I was 19, he was only 47.

Very sorry for your loss. I lost my mum in October and I couldn't believe it either, even though I knew it was going to happen. Thinking of you.

Sidge, I am so sorry for your loss. I noticed on your profile that you are Hampshire. I am nr Winchester, so if you need any help with the children etc let me know x

so so sorry, 60 is no age at all. i hpoe you have someone with you, i don;t think you can ever prepare for the inevitable

So sorry for your loss xx

Sidge, I am so sorry for your loss, I will light a candle for your dead dad

Thank you all for your kind messages, I'm just sorry that so many of you know the pain I am going through

Squirdle thanks for your very kind offer. I am down near Portsmouth, maybe we could do tea and cake one day?

DH has managed to phone so that was good. He is so sad too, he got on brilliantly with Dad. The grief is like ripples on a pond isn't it? So many loves touched by sadness.

Oops meant lives not loves, but loves sort of fits too.

My condolences. I am sure that he was comforted by your obvious love and devotion.

Will your DH be able to come home?

I'm so sorry.

I am sorry.