My dad has died.

[Sidge]

I knew the phone call would come (he had a brain tumour and had been in the hospice since just before Christmas) but when the call came at 0430 to say he had died I just couldn't believe it.

I can't believe my dad has gone. He is only 60. The news hasn't come as a surprise but I can't believe how grief stricken I am. I thought I would feel more prepared but I just feel totally bereft. The sadness is incredible.

And to make it worse DH is away and I can't phone him.

I am so sorry.

Sorry to hear your news. My dad also called David has terminal liver cancer, he's only 64. I hoped that knowing that he is not going to get better will make it easier when he does die but I suppose nothing can prepare you for a death in the family.

I'll be thinking of you over the coming weeks/months. Take care of yourself. Hope your DH comes home soon.

xxx

Sidge so sorry
my mum died also of a brain tumour (age 45).
Although we had 2 motnhs of expecting it, it didn't make the grief any easier.

I am wishing you strength to get through the next few months.

Thank you all so much for your kind words, they really do help.

I'm just so sorry so many of you share my pain and have lost loved ones, or are facing losing someone you love.

As long as he is in your heart and as long as you talk about him and remember him, he will live.
So for you. I know how it feels.

So sorry Sidge, I lost my dad 7 weeks ago and then found out I was pregnant a few days later. I am still very much grieving and hate the loss but I do feel a little more settled now. I was just so frantic to begin with and couldn't quite believe it. Now I know that this is the true sadness coming out and I almost feel comfort from my tears. Everyone says that it gets better with time and I think that I'm starting to believe that it might now. A month ago a could have screamed if another person told me that time was a healer.

Hang in there and use your friends... you need them and they just want to do something to help.

Thinking of you.

Dad's funeral was today. I couldn't go (he lives in Australia) but my sister phoned and told me how lovely it had been. There were hundreds of people there, and the eulogy was wonderful (they sent me a copy).

My nieces released balloons (seven, one for each grandchild) and my siblings put 6 roses on the coffin, one for each of his children.

The best bit was that Dad was awarded his "Wings" - he was only a few hours off getting his pilot's license when he had to stop flying, so for him to be awarded his Wings was so special. His instructor placed them on his coffin and everyone stood and clapped.

I still can't believe he is gone

I'm so sorry for you Sidge. I lost my dad to cancer last September, and know the pain you are going through.

I would only say that take things a day at a time. There will be good days, and ones when you have a good cry, which are'nt so good.

Wishing you lots of love and strenght at this time.

xx

the funeral sounds lovely Sidge and how wonderful about his wings - am so sorry for your loss