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Brother's best friend been killed aged 29 today

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pgwithnumber3 · 26/12/2008 21:57

Just had a phone call from my mum to say that my brother's best friend has died in a tragic accident today in New Zealand. He was only 29, a Doctor who helped people in every way he could. So so sad for his parents especially. Why is life so cruel?

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NiceShoes · 26/12/2008 22:05

oh how sad,yes dreadful

GaspodisWearingASantaHatHoHoHo · 26/12/2008 22:05

Oh, so sorry . My brother's best friend died suddenly about 6yrs ago now. My brother was devastated, it's such a shock when someone so young is snatched away.

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pgwithnumber3 · 26/12/2008 22:07

My brother got engaged yesterday (his fiancee was also friends with this poor man) and to say this has gutted them is an understatement. They only spoke to him a few days ago. It is such a shock.

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GaspodisWearingASantaHatHoHoHo · 26/12/2008 22:12

SadSadSad

Piffle · 26/12/2008 22:12

Oh I'm so sorry
My youngest brother was a witness to a fatal road accident. In NZ today ( yesterday?)
Christ hope it's not that?
Really sad news x x

PeachyBidsYouNadoligLlawen · 26/12/2008 22:17

Oh poor suld, I lost my best friend many years ago (we were sixteen) and I still miss her dreadfully.

Thinking of them all.

stillenacht · 26/12/2008 22:18

Am so sorry to hear about your brothers best friend.

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pgwithnumber3 · 26/12/2008 22:20

Piffle do you live in NZ?

It won't have been the one your brother witnessed, this was a boat accident - here

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pgwithnumber3 · 26/12/2008 22:21

Thank you everyone. I cannot bear to think about how he suffered. He was crushed to death under a boat. My Mum and Dad are devastated as they have seen him grow up and he was a fine man.

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NiceShoes · 26/12/2008 22:23

as a parent losing a child (regardless of age because they are always precious) is so sad

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pgwithnumber3 · 26/12/2008 22:28

NiceShoes

You never expect your children to die before you and it is most definitely a grief you must never recover from. My Nan lost her first born child aged 18 months to TB, whenever my DC reach this age I feel so sad for her. She never got over it and would never speak about him as it was too painful. She couldn't even cradle him as he was in isolation (war time).

His poor father called my brother to tell him this evening. I cannot imagine having to sit on Boxing Day and make phone calls to people who loved his son telling them he had been killed. So tragic. How do people stay strong?

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NiceShoes · 26/12/2008 22:36

dont think you stay strong you just keep breathing.they die.you die bit by bit

TWINSETinapeartree · 26/12/2008 22:43

I am so sorry.

mrsdisorganised · 26/12/2008 22:46

today was the anniversary of a childhood friend as well, he was only 18 when he died. My thoughts are with you.

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pgwithnumber3 · 26/12/2008 22:46

so sorry NiceShoes.

Thanks Twinset

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NiceShoes · 26/12/2008 23:03

thinking of you all at such dreadful time

cathcat · 27/12/2008 01:17

so sorry too

LightShinesInTheDarkness · 27/12/2008 01:27

So sorry about this tragedy. My father was 29 when he was killed in a boating accident and it took my whole family a long time to recover.

I think grief blows a massive hole in the centre of your life. Every morning you wake up and fall in this huge, black pit. Slowly though, you start to negotiate that big hole. Eventually you know its there, but most days you can walk around it without falling in. Families stay strong and cope, because really you have no choice - we cannot all die because someone close to us has passed away...

Heart goes out to your brother, and that young mans loved ones. Bloody shame.

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pgwithnumber3 · 27/12/2008 12:31

So sorry to hear about your father LightShines, how very sad for you to have lost your dad when you were so young. The only saving grace with my brother's friend was that he had no children to leave behind.

Thanks everyone for your condolences.

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Lulumamaloveslatkes · 27/12/2008 12:32

how horrific. how cruel your brother celebrating his engagement one day, then devastated by a loss the next day. it is senseless. am so so sorry

evansmummy · 27/12/2008 15:11

so sorry to hear your tragic news.

my brother was killed aged 24 in may of this year in a rta. i know what an awful shock a tragic accident is. my brother's poor friends have all felt a terrible loss as well as we, his family. my heart goes out to your poor brother and his best friend's family.

lottiejenkins · 29/12/2008 20:28

I saw this story in the newspaper today,,,,,,, am really sorry for your brother and his friends family xx

cheerytinselcherry · 29/12/2008 20:40

So sorry for you all, it is so shocking when these tragic accidents happen. It is amazing, but people get through it, may change a bit (or a lot) but never ever forget. Dhs best friend killed in traffic accident, have been there done that, its a living nightmare for quite some time.

Frizbe · 29/12/2008 20:40
Sad
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pgwithnumber3 · 29/12/2008 21:52

lottie, we are surprised the press have picked up on it as much as they have, it has been in all the major newspapers. It is just so sad for his family, my heart breaks for them. My brother is devastated.

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