Losing a much loved husband and daddy

[vic777]

I am new to mumsnet but desperately need some advice. My husband died nearly 2 weeks ago in a road accident and I am trying to make sense of this. My children are 2 and 4 and very very confused. I need to make sure I am doing the right thing by them - my little girl doesn't seem to understand but I'm sure she picks up on how we are all feeling. My eldest is just so angry and thrashing out at everyone around him. I am trying to be as open and honest as possible with him considering his age but would appreciate any advice on how to handle this awful situation.

My thoughts and prayers are with you today vic.

...only just found this thread, so hope I am not too late to add my support for today.

The whole day is likely to be surreal and otherworldly. Just concentrate on yourself and your children. The grief of others is secondary. For now just put yourselves first.

Good luck!

I just wanted to say that you and your children are in my thoughts today.

So very sorry that this has happened to you, vic. Thinking of your today especially. Please keep posting if it helps.

Will be thinking of you and your children today, x

yes, thinking of you today xxx

I'm so incredibly sorry to hear about your dh. Wishing you strength and support for today and the days, weeks and months ahead. My little brother was killed after a hit and run accident in May of this year, so I know that some of the shock of the sudden death is the first thing you'll go through. I've found MN amazing, so when you feel you can, do keep on posting.

Sending you lots of love for you and your dcs for such a hard time xx

thinking of you.
x

hope today passed off without incident for you, vic.
hugs/pats on shoulder for you and your DCn.
xx

So sorry for your loss - and hope that you got through yesterday and that you have support today and for the coming months and days as well.

Lots of love,

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Still thinking of you Vic, wishing you strength for the days to come x

Oh Vic I'm so sorry, I can't offer any advice, but please take care xxx

Well we got through Tuesday and the service at church and burial ground were beautiful. It is very surreal though - I feel now its all over, a weight has been lifted. But at the same time I felt very very low today and missed my husband terribly. All the comments posted here offering support have helped so much and I thank you all for that. In the spirit of keeping going I am booking some counselling sessions. Hopefully the more I face up to this awful situation now, the easier the future will be for me and the children.

DS1 was 5 when my dad died, he was the only father figure ds1 had had. He was angry beyond belief and still is. I was 28 and was angrier than i ever remember being. there are still days where i feel that anger, I took ds1 to counselling sessions and tbh its true what people say, they don't work for everyone, sadly they didn't work for ds1. but they did for my mum.

It is normal for you LO to be angry...all they understand is daddy was there and now daddy has gone away.

You are your dc's are in my thoughts.

well done vic for getting through it and for booking the counselling - do keep coming back to this thread,mumsnet is wonderful at comforting and supporting or just listening.Thinking of you x

So sorry to read what you are going through. MN can be a great source of support and advice, and there's always someone online.

((hugs))