Hi yorkiegirl, i've just read your thread, sorry for the horrible day you must hacve had regarding having to visit your dh's grave
I do think an ornamental cabbage sounds fantastic, though! Will your dh be appraciating all the shocked looks and the talking point he'll become? His resting place will probably be geting lots of admiring or puzzled glances!!
Don't florists sell thse funky looking not flowery things that look like veg (i don't know what they are or if they even are veg?) which you could take as a bouquet with you?
Your dh is probably very proud that you've done this for him xxx