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My mother's been found dead in her bed..

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wheredowegofromhere · 16/08/2008 17:27

had a call from the French police an hour ago. They don't know when she died and I can't get hold of any family member because the whole of France is on holidays in August.

I don't know what to think.

ps I'm French living in London.

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piratecat · 16/08/2008 17:28

oh god, i am so sorry. Is there anyone you can contact. to try and contact your family.

realy sorry.

Imnotok · 16/08/2008 17:30

I am sorry don't know what else to say to you but I am so so so sorry .

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wheredowegofromhere · 16/08/2008 17:31

Thanks PC, they're either working or on the beach at the mo so mobile turned off. It's surreal.
I'll try calling later.

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sarah293 · 16/08/2008 17:31

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princessglitter · 16/08/2008 17:32

I'm so sorry

FamilyRant · 16/08/2008 17:32

Oh I'm so sorry

MatNanPlus · 16/08/2008 17:32

sorry WDWGFH

schneebly · 16/08/2008 17:33

No practical advice but just wanted to let you know how sorry I am that your mum has passed away. I know how difficult it is.

betterhalf · 16/08/2008 17:33

So sorry for you.

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wheredowegofromhere · 16/08/2008 17:33

She didn't have a mobile or an answering machine so each time there was a period of time with no answers it was at the back of my mind she might be dead in her flat and no one would know for a few days.
As it turned out.

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betterhalf · 16/08/2008 17:34

Had she been ill? How old was she?

sarah293 · 16/08/2008 17:34

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CvQ · 16/08/2008 17:36

im so sorry

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wheredowegofromhere · 16/08/2008 17:36

She was 63, not ill but a heavy smoker.
I am a lone parent and DS is asleep right now, so I still haven't told anyone. This is mad.
Thanks for your messages of support

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BigBadMousey · 16/08/2008 17:36

Really sorry to read your news .

You can only do your best to contact people - try not to let it upset you that you can't get hold of them as quickly as you'd like to.

kid · 16/08/2008 17:36

Can you get the police that are local to your family to go round there. They can let them know you are trying to contact them or leave a note if they are out.
I know my dad did that for his brother when trying to get in touch with him.

Really sorry to hear about your mum, you must be in shock

slim22 · 16/08/2008 17:38

so sorry for your loss.

Used to live in Paris. Were a few lone elderly people in my building. Always wondered what would happen if they broke a leg over Xmas or summer holiday.

My mum found my grandma slumped on her chair in front of her lunch. Alone.
Very sad.

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wheredowegofromhere · 16/08/2008 17:38

She was found by a friend who was worried after a few days of unanswered calls. I will have to go there to deal with the admin side of things. How gross. I'm a single child so it's all down to me.

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slim22 · 16/08/2008 17:39

good idea from kid.

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wheredowegofromhere · 16/08/2008 17:42

Kid, that's a really good idea if I still can't contact people by tomorrow.

I probably am in shock right now.

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slim22 · 16/08/2008 17:42

yes. Do ask a friend.This is one of those times where you do need a company and don't be shy to ask.

Hassled · 16/08/2008 17:59

I'm very very sorry - what a horrendous shock.

Mamazon · 16/08/2008 18:02

I am so sorry to hear this.

cocolepew · 16/08/2008 18:02

So sorry, how sad for you.