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My dad died

51 replies

Gingerbear · 31/07/2008 23:15

His melanoma was so aggressive. I saw him on Sunday 20th July, the day before we were due to go to Greece on holiday. He was very ill, not eating, sick, covered in black patches on his head. My brother and sister were there with me. We insisted he get the doctor to see him, who came out that night. Dad was adamant that I take the kids on holiday and was angry when I said I didn't want to go. rang mum on Monday - he was comfortable - the doc had given him anti-sickness injection and he wasn't throwing up every 5 mins. But when we were away, he was taken to St James' in Leeds. He deteriorated so quickly. Was on morphine for last 7 days. We had a phone call Monday afternoon, from my sister, to get back asap. Managed to get flight back to Gatwick Tuesday pm, but brother rang back later that day. Dad died at 830pm Monday night.
Saddest journey of my life back from holiday.
My dad was a wonderful, lovely kind man and did not deserve to die from this horrible disease in 4 short months.

I went to see him today in the chapel of rest. So glad I did. His funeral is next Thursday. We are scattering his ashes in a lovely forest close to home.

I will miss you dad. xx

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Tinker · 31/07/2008 23:20

I'm so sorry.

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ThatBigGermanPrison · 31/07/2008 23:20

Gingerbear, I'm so sorry for your loss. So so sorry.

stretchmarkqueen · 31/07/2008 23:21

So sorry for your loss. x

HumphreyPillow · 31/07/2008 23:22

Oh Gingerbear.
So sorry for your loss.

cornsilk · 31/07/2008 23:22

sorry for your loss

thumbwitch · 31/07/2008 23:23

so for you - so sorry.

ExterminAitch · 31/07/2008 23:23

i'm so very sorry, gingerbear.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 31/07/2008 23:23

Im so sorry gingerbear

Beauregard · 31/07/2008 23:24

So sorry Gingerbear

SaintGeorge · 31/07/2008 23:24

Oh Gingerbear, so sorry

wrinklytum · 31/07/2008 23:25

.Sorry for your loss,Gingerbear

ScummyMummy · 31/07/2008 23:26

Very sorry to hear that, gingerbear. He sounds like he was a lovely father.

Tortington · 31/07/2008 23:26

so sorry

stitch · 31/07/2008 23:26

so sorry to hear that ginger.

claricebeansmum · 31/07/2008 23:28

My thoughts are with you Gingerbear.

Sidge · 31/07/2008 23:29

I'm so sorry you have lost your dad.

RIP Gingerbear's dad.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 31/07/2008 23:31

I am so sorry

Rachmumoftwo · 31/07/2008 23:35

I am so sorry for your loss x

SorenLorensen · 31/07/2008 23:39

Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry. Don't feel bad that you weren't there - he wanted you to go and have your holiday. It's such a cruel disease

marthamoo x

mummylin2495 · 31/07/2008 23:56

im very sorry

Evenstar · 01/08/2008 00:04

I am sorry for your loss, I am glad you were able to see him, it is a comfort to see them and know they are at peace. I hope the funeral will be a comfort to you all as a family.

Aero · 01/08/2008 00:10

I'm very sorry gingerbear.

lilolilmanchester · 01/08/2008 00:17

Try to take some comfort in the knowledge that you did what your Dad wanted you to do. So sorry for your loss.

mel1981 · 01/08/2008 00:24

So sorry for your loss. my thoughts are with you and your family. x