I cannot stop crying

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6 weeks bereaved and I cannot stop crying. Every minute of the day that I am not actively crying I am on the verge of tears. I am sobbing daily, anything sets me off. I miss my mother so much. I am in disbelief that she has gone.

Oh my lovely, it is so hard.
Does the crying bring you any relief?
Do you have any real life support?
I do not think that 6 weeks is any time at all really.
Though I can see that maybe your grief is getting in the way of you functioning.
I am 4 years post the death of my lovely mother and 3 months on from the absolutely devastating death of my beloved daughter.
I am not remotely functional after the death of DD. Thinking back to the loss of my mum I think I started to be a bit more myself in the January (she died in July).
There is no short cut to coping with this grief. Time, self care, possibly therapy. Enlist friends and family to listen and lend a hand? I really feel for you and send you healing love.

Oh gosh I am so sorry for your loss. You must be absolutely bereft. It sounds like you were very close to your mother.
it is not abnormal to be crying all the time. Grief is so heavy and so exhausting.

Aww love. My Mum died 13 years ago when I was 49. It was, and still is, the worst thing that ever happened in my life.
You are at the stage now when you’re in total grief mode, it’s literally all you think about. I recall the nights six weeks on after Mum died where I sobbed and cried for her, I just wanted her back, I was distraught at times. I was just so upset I’d never see or talk to her again.

I’m not going to tell you when it gets ‘easier’, we’re all different.

All you can do at the moment is take little steps, each day, just little steps but keep moving.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard losing a loved one, especially when it's your mum. How you're feeling is perfect. There's no timeframe or right way to grieve and no one has any right to give us one. So take some time to be nice to yourself, to do things that bring you comfort and to experience what you are going through. I'm including a link to a meditation on bereavement from one of my favourite meditation experts. I hope it brings you comfort ❤️

I am very sorry for your loss. Six weeks is very soon. Just take one day at a time. I am four months on from bereavement so do understand.

Let it all out is my advice. Holding it in is harmful.

There is just no short cut to grief. The deeper you loved your Mum the harder you might find it. Also if a person dies unexpectedly it is harder to deal with too.

Bless you. It’s very early days. When my mum died (she was only 66 and I was 39) I cried every day for a year. It’ll be 25 years this May. I wish she was here to see us all and how far we’ve all come. Sending love ❤️

So sorry for your Loss. I don't sadly have any words that will help, but sending a hug over the internet for you.

Crying does bring temporary relief and in real life I don't have support. I am very much isolated and alone and I find MN a lifeline to be honest. In the new year I went back to work. I am functioning superficially at work but I'm sitting there thinking 'what am I doing here, my mother has died?' However, when I'm on my own at home I am frozen. I am just getting by doing the basics. It like I've been in a trance since her death and I've woken up this week and realised that she is gone.

I am heartbroken, it's a physical pain and we were very close. That is why it is so hard, it's not like she lived in another country and I saw her once a year, I saw her everyday.

Total grief mode is so right. Your description of the loss of your mother is exactly how I feel. I wish I could see her again, to feel her physical presence in the room and have a chat is all I need.

Thank you so much.

I am sobbing responding to you all. I cannot hold it in.

I am sorry for your loss, I hope that in four months time I will able to be better adjusted to my new way of life without her.

sending you love & hugs.
let them out,
im so sorry for your loss

It was not unexpected so to speak but I think that losing someone who has been long term sick is hard too. She knew she was unwell and just wanted one more year.

Thank you, I've cried everyday but I am crying now more than ever. I know that she would want me to be strong, to live life and carry on. It's just so hard without her.

Thank you

Thank you

I'm so sorry for your loss, sending you the biggest hug.

My dad passed 4 weeks ago after a long battle with dementia. I have barely cried, I feel devastated and I am absolutely exhausted all the time, but the tears won't come. I'm just cracking on with everything in some kind of weird numbness.

I have no words of advice, we all grieve so differently and I don't think anything is right. Just know you're not alone. X

I am so sorry OP xxx

I’m so sorry OP. I was much the same when my dad died. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat and I had physical reactions like a tight throat that made me cough and cough until I vomited. I also got rages. All sorts if reactions.
6 weeks is nothing. Let yourself cry. Get help from bereavement counsellors or, if you are religious, your church. I did a bereavement course at my local church which was very helpful.

After a year things started to ease a tiny bit. 5 years down the line I can now think of my dad in a more nostalgic way rather than just with pain at his loss.

The tears will come and you won't be able to stop. I am sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for you. Your grief is so real.
I was not ever so close to my mum but I nursed her through a horrendous cancer and even I can understand. For a long time afterwards I would go to pick the phone up to speak to her and that lasted for a very long time.
So,.for you, being so close, it must be so so hard.

I'm old, 70s, and all I would wish for my daughters is to live their life, be happy, laugh about memories of me (and there will be lots, we are very very close, a day doesn't go by when we are not whatsapping about nonsense! Today I've been in stitches about something one said to me!)
I am sure your mum would want you to just revel in the memories and not be too sad
I am so sorry if I have said the wrong thing.
I hope it slowly gets better, grief has no time schedule, good days and bad days, I hope the good days get more