My darling dad

[theluckiest]

I’ve been through this before with my mum. It’s brought back all the hideous memories of long nights stuck in a hospital room waiting for the inevitable.

My darling, dear dad is now end of life and I don’t think he’s going to make tomorrow to be honest.

Hes been very ill for a while with stomach issues & not able to eat without severe pain. We brought him to A&E a week ago & they’ve been running tests & tackling a nasty infection, etc. Last night he was in a lot of pain so they prepped him for emergency surgery first thing this morning but after reviewing his case, realised he wasn’t well enough for the op.

So that’s it. We’ve reached the end of the line for him.

It’s just so bloody awful, isn’t it? He’s on a morphine driver and is currently sleeping.

i just needed to write this down somewhere .Thankyou for reading…

was going to name change but fuck it. If you know me IRL, I know you’re lovely anyway and probably already know about this..

My condolences OP.
I slept next to my Dad the night before he died and was able to hold him when he went.
It was lovely to have him to myself tbh. Six years on, it brings me such happiness to remember.
Sending you love.

Sending lots of love....x

I am so sorry for your loss. Sadly, I am going through similar with my Mum atm who is end of life and has stage 4 cancer. We have been told today she has ‘short weeks’ left but she is so poorly and barely able to speak currently. It’s an unbearable pain. I’m sending you lots of love.

Thank you everyone.

@Swallowdoubleandrunamileyes, this is what I had too and it eases the pain a little knowing that I held his hand as he went.

I’ve spent much of today fielding very kind messages and visitors, crying a lot and feeling lost. I’ve made a few practical phone calls to feel productive and have just had two very large G&Ts. I’m hoping they might help me sleep later as I’ve had about 3 hours in the last day and a half.

It’s just exhausting isn’t it?

So sorry for your loss. Like you, I am an only child and sadly lost my DF when I was only 20.

He was a wonderful dad and gave you a fantastic childhood, many people don't get to experience that.You have been very fortunate.May you find peace.

So very sorry to read about your dad. My dad died in April whilst on holiday with my mum.

I had to contact their travel insurers that evening and started the process of repatriation of his body to the U.K and arranging her flight home. Many forms and emails followed and the repatriation company were very good. Was on autopilot then as a means of getting through it. The British consulate was also involved and helped my mother in the resort re translation of documents etc.

I did get to speak to him though a couple of days beforehand and remembering that conversation gave me some degree of solace. We are all still very much learning to live without him. It’s still very early days. Christmas is going to be hard going.

Oh love, I’m sorry I’m glad (not exactly the right word, but I hope you know what I mean) that you got to be there with him.

Still holding your hand from afar, I hope you have all the best kind of love and support around you now and in the days to come ❤️

I’m so sorry x

Hope you're ok OP x

Im so sorry to hear about your Dad. What a terrible shock and sounds so stressful. 💐

Thank you everyone.

it’s been a very strange week. I’ve done all the major things and everyone has been incredibly kind and lovely.

I just feel numb and spaced-out. Like menopause-fog X 10!!! I’m an only child so I’ve had to do all the official stuff. I remember reading somewhere that you never really feel like a grown-up until you’ve lost a parent and I’m feeling very grown-up and alone right now.

Family have been brilliant but I did have a moment of being overwhelmed - they’d descended on Dad’s house to clean and start clearing the mountains of ‘stuff.’ It’s a weird mix of being very grateful (and it does already look miles better!) but also wanting them to leave things as if felt intrusive. Wasn’t their intention and I have to remind myself that they’ve lost him too. It’ll take weeks if not months to sort through everything and I’m not making any decisions right now.

anyway, one day at a time…

Thank you all for the love. Your kind words are so comforting xxx

So sorry for your loss, I lost my dad nearly 2 months ago. I was lucky to be with him when he passed. At times I wanted to run away, but I managed to stay strong and I will be forever grateful that I was with him as you can't always guarantee when it will happen. Sending love and strength to you, it's a difficult time and lots to process.