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My dear friend is about to die.

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MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach · 04/11/2025 13:45

We've been friends since we were 8 when we met at primary school, we're 33 now. She has been diagnose with Leukaemia 2 months ago, immediately started treatment but has had some complications and became far too sick to continue treatment, she has declined rapidly, so rapidly and yesterday her husband been told it will be just days left.

She has 3 year old twins and a 14 week old. I'm heartbroken for them, her husband, for me, her friends, her family, my family who love her. I barely know a life without her in it. I cannot imagine a world without her in it.

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Kattley · 04/11/2025 13:49

I’m very sorry. It must be such a shock as well.

Gentlydoesit2 · 04/11/2025 13:50

That's so very very sad for everyone, I'm sorry you are going through this 😔

GreenSox · 04/11/2025 13:50

Oh my goodness that’s horrendously tragic. I’m so sorry for what your friends going through and for you to not have her in your future. Life is beyond cruel at times and some people are so lucky, whilst others really have to deal with the worst things.

Making it to in to your 80’s is a privilege as some people don’t get to live past 40! Terrible. Her port kids growing up with no mother, her poor parents for losing their child and her husband of course. So many lives affected. Take care. You and your lovely friend will be in my thoughts today.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 04/11/2025 13:50

I'm so sorry.Flowers

ASuitableName · 04/11/2025 13:51

I’m so sorry to hear that, I understand you being devastated. Nothing anyone can say can be a comfort in such an awful situation.

Lovelyview · 04/11/2025 13:52

I'm so sorry. X

PurpleReindeer2 · 04/11/2025 13:53

That's so terribly sad. Life is so cruel sometimes. I'm so sorry x

Tammygirl12 · 04/11/2025 13:53

That is so awful. I opened this hoping she would be older and have no kids or more grown up kids. The age of her little ones breaks my heart x

TheSlantedOwl · 04/11/2025 13:55

I’m so sorry ❤️

MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach · 04/11/2025 13:57

Thank you all, you're very kind.

She bought a ridiculous Christmas babygro when she was pregnant, and bought it in 3-6 months so baby could wear it for Christmas obviously and we laughed so many times at how stupid it was and how her DH will roll his eyes and I've just realised she will never get to see her DS in it, its such a stupid thing to focus on but im so sad about that

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ErlingHaalandsManBun · 04/11/2025 13:58

I am very sorry to hear that your lovely friend is dying. Its simply so tragic for her, her DH and DC's and all of her family. Its so very young and life can be brutal.

I can resonate. My very dear friend is also currently dying in hospice care. I saw her last week and she never woke up while I was there and I barely recognised her. It is now just close family allowed to visit as she nears the end and I can't stop thinking about her.

She was such a good friend to me and we would see each other several times a week and we went for lunch every Thursday together. My lunches with her were so special to me and I miss her so terribly already and she hasn't even gone yet. Like you, its hard to imagine a future without her in it and I feel so desperately sad for her DH who is struggling with it all. We have known it was coming for months when they told us they had come to end of treatment for her cancer. But now she is so close to actually going I feel sick to my stomach.

Unfortunately I have no words for you, other than sorry.

Sending hugs 🌹

MrsWhites · 04/11/2025 14:00

This is so unbelievably sad, I’m so sorry for what you and her family are going through x

DeborahVance · 04/11/2025 14:05

I'm so sorry, it's utterly tragic. I love my close friends very much and dread them dying and we are all a couple of decades older than you. 32 is no age at all. Sending love to you

MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach · 04/11/2025 17:13

Thank you everyone, you really are so kind.

@ErlingHaalandsManBun its just ridiculously fucking shit isnt it

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ErlingHaalandsManBun · 04/11/2025 17:29

@MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach it really is. I have felt a whole heap of emotions from frustration, sadness, desperation, helplessness and anger. My friend has fought so fucking hard. She really has. She wants to live. And she did not deserve for this to happen to her. She is honestly the nicest, funniest person I have met. Wouldn't hurt a fucking fly and always there when anyone needs her. Why this has happened to her I don't know. Life is fucking totally shit and cruel and unfair. But then again, we have always known that haven't we?

All I can hope for now is that she passes peacefully but I miss her so much it hurts. 💔

MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach · 04/11/2025 20:11

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 04/11/2025 17:29

@MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach it really is. I have felt a whole heap of emotions from frustration, sadness, desperation, helplessness and anger. My friend has fought so fucking hard. She really has. She wants to live. And she did not deserve for this to happen to her. She is honestly the nicest, funniest person I have met. Wouldn't hurt a fucking fly and always there when anyone needs her. Why this has happened to her I don't know. Life is fucking totally shit and cruel and unfair. But then again, we have always known that haven't we?

All I can hope for now is that she passes peacefully but I miss her so much it hurts. 💔

I'm so sorry x

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Ilikewinter · 04/11/2025 20:28

I'm so sorry OP. My DM died of leukemia 5 months after being diagnosed and she was only 69, but jesus christ 33 with 3 babies is heartbreaking. 😥

LushLemonTart · 04/11/2025 20:33

I'm so very sorry that's horrendous. Sending love ❤️

Have you thought of asking her dh if you could have Christmas early? Get a baby outfit to fit?

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 04/11/2025 20:51

MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach · 04/11/2025 20:11

I'm so sorry x

Thank you.

I'm so sorry too. It truly sucks.

But your friend is so young and those little ones 😭It really is just tragic.

Sending you love to get through the days/weeks to come xx

Snipples · 04/11/2025 20:54

So so sorry OP. You must be in such shock about it all. Life is so cruel at times. Try and be kind to yourself as you get through these next few days. Lots of love ❤️

RobertJohnsonsShoes · 04/11/2025 21:14

That’s so sad. Thought with you and all that love her xx

hockeysticks89 · 04/11/2025 21:25

This is horrific, I’m so sorry. I’ll be thinking of you all

poppinpink · 04/11/2025 21:27

I am so so sorry. That is so awful and so sad. Flowers

spiderlight · 04/11/2025 21:29

I'm so very sorry - that's just awful.

MyMomUsesColorSafeBleach · 04/11/2025 23:49

LushLemonTart · 04/11/2025 20:33

I'm so very sorry that's horrendous. Sending love ❤️

Have you thought of asking her dh if you could have Christmas early? Get a baby outfit to fit?

Thank you all for your kindness.

Unfortunately she is far too sick for this, she's barely awake the last 2 days and isn't really very aware of what's going on, it has happened so fast, it's just awful.

She was so excited for the girls first Christmas that they really understood, she already had so much planned and booked for them all, 14 weeks ago she was booking in visits to Santa and Christmas photos the day before she went into labour and now she's dying. I can't actually get my head around it.

Her DH is the most wonderful dad and is being so strong,I don't know how he will get through this, they adore each other.

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