My mum died a few hours ago

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I know it's real but it in some ways it doesn't feel real, I wish I could go back 24hrs.
I feel numb and I keep playing the day back in my mind.
I can't go to sleep, I don't want to go to sleep, for some reason I don't want today to end.
Sorry for my rambling, I am just not sure what to do.

I am so sorry for your loss… It sounds like you loved your mother very much.

Breathe … take it one hour , one minute .. one second at a time .

Thinking of you . I’m really sorry for your loss 💐

It won't feel real for a long-time, you are in shock.
I am so sorry. Take small steps and lean on those around you offering support for the next few weeks. 💐

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in A&E with my Mum so here if you want to talk 💐

Really sorry for your loss, it’ll take a long time to get over. my mother died over 50 years ago, she’s a fond memory now. Find support around you and may god hold her close whilst you hold her close in your heart.

No matter how much you think you might be prepared for the death of a parent, the reality is, that nothing can prepare you.

Everyones grief is different, so it can be hard to lean on others for help and support.

I don’t think it’s anything you can just get over, years and years later, I can feel fine, then I’ll hear a song, or spot one of her favourite ornaments in a shop, something completely random.

It won’t necessarily make me cry anymore, but I still get that kick in the gut.

I’m not the kind of person that would benefit from an organisation like Cruse which I believe help people with loss, but maybe you could consider such a path?

Right here and now though, your emotions are likely all over the place, and you don’t know how to feel.

Theres no “normal” way to deal with it.

It will be painful, and just like you’d expect pain from a physical punch, then expect emotional pain too.

Wishing you well, and so sorry for your loss.

I hope your mum is OK.

So sorry for your loss. You are probably in shock right now, so will be all over the place. Take care.

Thank you all for your kind words.
I have managed to get about 3 hours sleep. I woke up replaying yesterday in my mind.

It takes time. All you can do is take each moment as it happens. Be prepared to feel exhausted and get rest when you feel you need to. Sending love and solidarity x

Tell us a bit about your mum, OP x

I'm sorry.

💐 so sorry x

I am so, so sorry for your loss OP. It sounds like you and your mom were very close, and I there's nothing I can say except she loved you very much and you need to let yourself grieve. Keep yourself around other family members. Your mom was special to you and so many people, and she will always be close to you.

I’m so sorry OP. I lost my mum last year and it still hurts every single day, we were so close.
Take it hour by hour, there’s no normal way to feel everyone grieves differently. Be kind to yourself x

So sorry about the loss of your mum. Do whatever it is you need to do to get through the each day, i remember so well how numb and shocked i was when my dad died, im here to listen if you want to share some memories of your mum whenever your ready 🌷

So sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 9 weeks ago suddenly.

You are in shock as it takes a while to sink in. Be kind to yourself. lots of support here for you 💐

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I remember that dislocated feeling in the early days after my mum died. Reliving those last days seems to be unavoidable at first, I think it is part of the brain’s way of taking it all in. I remember waking up in the night, discovering my pillow was wet because I had been crying in my sleep.

I hope you take your time, just don’t rush to do anything (except the necessary things, there seem to be so many chores related to informing people and organising things). If there is someone to help you, lean on them.

Find a hobby which helps you remember good times.

I wish I could sleep but I keep waking thinking of my mum and then reality hits, god it hurts so much.

Sorry for your loss. Ive suffered sudden loss of people close to me and the only words i can offer is that time will enable you to grow around the grief ( expressions like ‘get over it’ are not helpful). You will move from shock and pain and hurt to being able to incorporate more and more fond memories of her into your thoughts. X

Sending you love and all my sympathies. The loss of a mum is tough, it’s heartbreaking, I’m so sorry.
Sleep is tricky for me still and I’m nearly 3 months ahead of you in losing my mum. In other ways I think I look like I’m doing ok but like you I have all the thoughts about my mum, her passing and just the loss of her, going through my head so I either wake up early or can’t get to sleep. I’ve put myself on a list for bereavement counselling but you’re still in the very early days so maybe just sleep when you can even if it’s napping throughout the day.
Im so sorry x

I'm so sorry OP. Can you call a friend to be with you? Make yourself a cup of sweet tea. You're probably in shock. My Mum died almost 5 years ago and I still cry every day. This is a terrible time of life when we lose our parents. You can sit up and remember her for as long as you need to.

I’m so sorry for your loss. How are you doing now? I lost my mum last night and I’m still in shock and I don’t want to sleep yet. Reading these posts is helping me feel I’m not alone. I keep playing all the events leading up to her death over and over in my mind. I trust that this will ease and happy memories will start to fill my mind. It’s the shock factor at the moment - kicks you me in the gut every time I think of it.

😔 yes it hurts.