Lost my Mum this morning

[Crazyladee]

Well here I am again five years later posting on the bereavement board. The first time was the suicide of my son. This time, my Mum. Passed suddenly during the early hours in her sleep. She hadn't been ill...no signs of anything wrong. In fact last night, my Dad and her had my sister and family over for a get together (DH and I weren't there as we had already been invited to his parents for Easter Sunday) and she was full of life and even having a little boogie in the kitchen. It had been a late one. She went to bed at approx 1am and my Dad found her this morning sat up in bed with her reading glasses on, passed away.

We're all in shock. She's been my rock since losing our son. I honestly thought she had at least another good few years left in her. Totally devastated. 😢

I am so sorry, what a huge shock for you all. Sounds like she was an amazing mum.

I’m so sorry

I'm so sorry OP.

@Crazyladee I am so so sorry for your loss X what a shock.

What a shock for you all - so sorry for your loss. Your mum sounds like she was an amazing woman and you were lucky to have her. 🌺

So very sorry for your loss. Such a shock.

In time, it may become a comfort to remember that she’d had a great evening with loved ones and from the circumstances it was very unlikely that she suffered.

A huge shock for all of you
I hope in time there will be some comfort in knowing that her last evening was spent dancing with her family and that she went peacefully.

I'm so terribly sorry, @Crazyladee, I know the pain of losing your mum only too well and it's just awful💐

Oh what a terrible shock for you all. I’m so sorry you’ve lost what sounds like a wonderful and fun
mum, I hope you will take comfort in the thought of her dancing in her kitchen in time. It’s a terrible time, just take each day and be with the ones you love and who loved your mum. X

I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost a close family member in similar circumstances and the shock is very hard to deal with.

Years down the line, I can tell you it brings me so much comfort to know she had a fantastic last day on this planet and passed away very quickly. After watching other family members die of cancer, it really is a relief now. I hope that brings you a small comfort.

Oh I’m truly sorry for your loss. What a horrible shock.
In time it may bring you some comfort to know she was happily dancing until the end.
Seek support from each other, and accept your feelings as they come.

I’m so sorry sweetheart, what an awful shock 😭

Do whatever you need to, take every minute (or even every second) as it comes x

I'm so very sorry. What a shock for all of you.

I am so sorry, how terribly sudden, but at least it seems like she didn't have fear or pain. Wishing you strength and comfort.

You poor thing, you must be feeling totally bereft.
Two such significant losses for you. My Mum has been my rock since I lost my child too, so I have a little understanding of what you are saying.
Carry them both in your heart and your head.
It's so hard to carry on sometimes but somehow you have to find the strength for all the people who love you and your Mum. Sending you a massive hug.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I lost my mum suddenly 3 years ago. It was brutal, and the shock combined with the grief made me quite ill. I had already lost my dad years before this, to cancer, and the two experiences are quite incomparable. I also had/have to battle with the shock of being the person to have discovered her.

It does get easier with time. As a PP has said, there has been some comfort to be had from knowing she didn't suffer a long illness. Well meaning people will tell you this a LOT and it won't help yet, but hopefully it will one day.

The loss of a parent is profound, I hope you have a good support network so you can allow yourself some time to process and grieve. Sending love

I'm very sorry

This sounds like a huge shock I’m sorry for your loss 😭

I'm so sorry - what a dreadful shock for you all. Hopefully the fact that she didn't suffer - in time - will bring you some comfort.

Sending love. x

I am so sorry and I am thinking of you. She sounds like a wonderful woman. I hope in time you find comfort that she seems to have died peacefully. Sending you lots of love and strength and this difficult time

I am so sorry. I hope in time you can take comfort in knowing that she didn't experience pain.

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s not the best time to say this but your Mum left this world reading a book, sat in her own bed with happy memories of a great day spent with her loving family.

Sorry for your loss.

I know it’s not the best time to say this but your Mum left this world reading a book, sat in her own bed with happy memories of a great day spent with her loving family.

So sorry OP, I've lost a few close relatives in similar very sudden circumstances. It is brutal for those left behind but I try to focus on the fact they didn't suffer, went quickly in comfortable surroundings, have avoided the pain, discomfort, invasiveness and indignity of long term illness or real old age. But I know that none of this will be a comfort right now.