I know noone can really answer this but just wondered what people's experiences/thoughts are.
A very good friend of mine drowned last week, I loved him to bits and am heartbroken about it.
He's now in the Chapel of Rest but it's been 8days since he died. I feel I want to go and see him but my mum has said, and apologies because this is horrible, but that he will be 'going off' - that sounds so awful, she means that as time goes by he will be looking less and less like himself and by now it will be just be really upsetting to see him.
I'm totally torn between remembering him as he was and seeing him again to say goodbye.
I've only seen 1 other dead person, my nana, but she was very very old and had a peaceful death and I was with her when she died and saw her 2days later in chapel of rest so that was a totally different situation.
I am so sorry if this has upset anyone.
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mustangsally · 29/04/2008 20:26
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