New year's resolutions for the broken

[Twentytwentyfour]

It's been a hard few years of bereavements and trauma.

I'm trying to think of new years resolutions that might give me some focus/reason to carry on.

I'm not adding extra pressure in a difficult time I just want to search for a way to get through.

So far I've got-

1. learn to make a good scone recipe off by heart. (I can bake a basic handful of recipes, but never made a scone and there's no one to teach me now )

1. Find something fun or that makes me laugh. I have no idea what fun looks like anymore.

Other ideas welcome, additionally if anyone wants to join that would be grand x

@ladycardamom a plain notebook, with three things daily?

lady cardamom I was thinking of maybe getting a Polaroid camera and taking (bad!) pictures of things I see e.g. on a walk with the children - like a photographic gratitude journal - the other day there was a robin on the path next to me and I thought it was a sign (when robins appear lost loved ones are near?)

I have days when I just cannot write.

....thanks waving I love a good scone, nothing beats a fresh one, little round crumbly hugs of butteryness they are.

I'm sorry waving that your 2023 has been hard too, 💜 I'm really hoping that you are emerging from the worst of it now and better days lie ahead of you in the new year.

Wearing colour is a great idea.

The comedian thing is another good idea. I can't imagine ever laughing again but I do want to. I used to find Michael McIntyre funny I will try youtube.

Happy New Year everyone xx

A couple more…

I am going to try to start the day by reading some positive affirmations written by my bed to get myself into a better headspace;

I am going to try and have a camomile tea before bed; and

I want to make sure once a month (weekly is too ambitious for now) I visit the spa area of my local leisure centre and a yoga class to make sure I am looking after myself a bit better.

There is a lovely book by Gretchen Rubin called The Happiness Project which has lovely ideas on a monthly basis to make positive changes which is worth a read for anyone looking for positive inspiration.

I really wish everyone on here the very best for 2024 xx

Camomile tea at bedtime is great ❤️ baby permitting I might try and do that with my journalling.

New year was tough, but done.

I'll definitely read the happiness project- at the moment all I feel is "what was I made for" (the Billie ellish song) because right now, I don't know.

@desperatelyseekingwisdom best wishes for the coming year- your plans sound lovely to take better care of yourself, I find we get lost as women in care, and grief and families. (Maybe men do too, maybe we just reach out more.)

I'm adding nightly cuticle oil into my nighttime routine because I've bitten my nails into oblivion over Xmas due to the recent bereavement etc.

Hoping for better days for all on here in '24. Xxx