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Sudden loss of our 2 year old

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Gonetoosoon · 27/08/2023 10:57

We just lost our beautiful 2year old daughter on the 22nd August 2023. She fell ill so quickly and passed before we even knew what was really happening. The doctors tried to save her for over an hour but we knew it was too late. I feel broken. The guilt of thinking if there was more i couldve done to help her is killing me and I feel completely lost without her. I have another older daughter and trying to be there for her is difficult. My partner is being amazing and looking after us both but I know he is struggling too. I dont know how I can go on without her. She was an amazing little girl, truly one of a kind. I miss her so much.

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itsallnewnow · 27/08/2023 11:30

She's so beautiful OP like a little doll ❤️

Araminta34 · 27/08/2023 11:31

I am sorry for your loss.

Araminta34 · 27/08/2023 11:32

I have just seen her photograph. Hannah was such a beautiful little girl. Sending love to you and your family.

user86654111 · 27/08/2023 11:33

Oh beautiful Hannah ☀️

I am so so sorry for your loss. This is beyond devastating. I'm so sorry.

May she live in your hearts forever.

Lovehearts82 · 27/08/2023 11:35

I'm sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter Hannah ❤️ your family will be in my thoughts. No words can comfort you, but know that there will be people thinking of you.
Talk more on here if it helps xx

AppleBlossomTimeNow · 27/08/2023 11:35

I'm so very sorry x

Hevasparkle · 27/08/2023 11:36

I’m so sorry for the suffering your family is experiencing, my heart goes out to you all.

as a mum you will always worry and wish you could have done more. That’s natural. We have the skills and science in this country to save many children when things go wrong, but sadly some just cannot be saved despite very best efforts of all around them.

right now you’ve been hit by a huge wave that has brought your whole world crashing down.

you will already know that nobody can say anything to improve how you feel. But surround yourself with those who allow you the space just to be whatever you feel in the moment, if you need to cry, shout, scream, then do. If you need to sit quiet and reflect, do.
a grief like this is a lifelong journey, ebbs and flows, bad days and better days.

There is support available to you all further down the line, but for now it needs to be one day at a time. if you can try and focus on getting to the end of today.

LemongrassLollipop · 27/08/2023 11:36

OP sending you and your family love and support to face this tragedy. I can't imagine what you are going through. You and your beautiful daughter Hannah are in my thoughts.

Reach out and you will find many sympathetic posters here. It can sometimes help to open up to strangers rather than family facing the same loss as you. You can say anything you want to us, nothing will get back or be remembered in your daily life, if that makes sense.

Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 27/08/2023 11:37

What a beautiful girl. I am so very sorry for your loss. Have you got a wider family around you to help you? You must have absolutely cherished her and I’m thinking of you x

sassyduck · 27/08/2023 11:37

I am so sorry for your loss.

Georgina125 · 27/08/2023 11:38

I am so so sorry for the loss of your daughter. She is absolutely beautiful. I am also a bereaved parent and it's hard to explain how horrendous the pain is. Mothers always blame themselves, it is just how we are. But its not the truth. We would give our lives for our children but life doesn't work that way. I can only say to please be easy on yourself, take your time. There will be days when you can only survive and that's ok.

TheBreeder · 27/08/2023 11:39

Sweet Hannah darling. I'm so sorry. You did everything you could. You are a good mummy. It's just a terrible tragedy.

cisisaslur · 27/08/2023 11:42

I'm so sorry. She was beautiful.

booktokbear · 27/08/2023 11:45

What a beautiful sweetheart, your pain is unimaginable and I am so so sorry, I wish there was something that could be said to ease it for you.

One step at a time. Perhaps a little timetable, I imagine you will want to be curled up in a ball on a dark room, but if you have a list of say:

10 am shower
11am Go for a little walk with your girl (away from crowds)
12.30 lunch

Etc. just to try and get through the days in any way you can. If you have a list and think that you have to follow it you might be able to get through the days on autopilot.

Sending love and strength 😢❤️

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Gonetoosoon · 27/08/2023 11:47

Hannah was the most head strong, funny, clever, loving little girl. She had no fear amd was loved by anyone who met her. She was born with a rare condition. She had a missing right lung, her heart was on the right hand side and she had a narrowed airway due to solid tracheal (cartiliage) rings. She spent alot of time in hospital due to respiratory issues but she always pulled through. She spent this summer so happy, no illnesses, no raspy breathing, just perfect. She was absolutely fine Tuesday morning but by the afternoon she just turned. I dont know what happened. I feel cheated. She's just gone. We're still waiting to hear what happened. The only solace I can think of is that they tell us it was something we couldn't have prevented. I just want to be with her.

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feathermucker · 27/08/2023 11:49

So very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I wish you love and hope that, even from a stranger, it brings some small comfort ❤️

GotMooMilk · 27/08/2023 11:50

I’m so sorry what a beautiful girl. Thinking of you and your family. Take all the support you can, reach out to bereaved parents charities and peer support if you can. Sending love and healing to you all.

Mammyloveswine · 27/08/2023 11:55

Oh my goodness my heart breaks for you.. Hannah is a beautiful little girl.

Right now you will be in absolute shock still, do you have answers as to what caused your daughters sudden death? (I'm not asking to know, but it might in time help you to process and will help with relieving the feelings of "could I have done something more?").

Take each day one at a time, be kind to yourself, drink plenty of water or tea or juice, any fluid you can stomach.. if you can, try and eat but it's normal to completely lose your appetite.

Accept any and all offers of help, especially if people want to take your older daughter out. If you are struggling to sleep, speak to the doctor who will prescribe something to help.

Be kind to yourself, do whatever you need to do to get through each day, hour, minute.

Grief is the most painful, overwhelming and personal experience to try and navigate.

There's nothing I can say to take away the horrific pain that you will be feeling but please know that you are in my thoughts and so is your beautiful Hannah.

RedDoughnut · 27/08/2023 11:56

I'm so very sorry to read this. Your heart must be in a million pieces but please stay strong for the sake of your other child.

Vintagecreamandcottagepie · 27/08/2023 11:57

What a gorgeous, beautiful girl, clearly loved very much. I'm so very sorry.

ringsaglitter · 27/08/2023 12:00

Oh she's beautiful isn't she!! What giant eyes with a big smile. It sounds like she had a condition that limited her time with you, what a precious two years.

Of course I'm terribly sorry for your loss, if you ever feel able to share those treasured memories of her I'd love to hear. What did she like to eat? Did she follow her big sister around? She looks like a right little angel. ❤️

User5653218 · 27/08/2023 12:02

Beautiful Hannah. I'm so sorry

lemmein · 27/08/2023 12:14

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl OP Flowers

Juneboon · 27/08/2023 12:17

Hannah was a beautiful little girl, so so sorry for your loss xxx

paulaparticles · 27/08/2023 13:16

Beautiful little angel Hannah 😇

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