Worried I’ll cry during funeral reading.

[MrsTopaz]

Hi all, my dad passed at the weekend, we are trying to make plans for the funeral. I’ve written a reading myself and I’d like to be able to say it but whenever I try, even on my own or with immediate family when I showed it to them, I could barely get through it as it’s such lovely words it makes me cry. The funeral will have lots of people there, many I don’t even know as they were his friends/colleagues. Should I just plan for the celebrant to read it? Has anyone managed it when they didn’t think they could beforehand? I suspect my tears will be even more in the day, but I worry they won’t read it ‘right’ as it’s very descriptive. Not sure what to do.

Brilliant. Well done. I had exactly the same feeling/experience myself. He’d have been proud of you. Go get yourself a glass of wine!

sorry for your loss

Well done for managing to read it

I did dad’s a few weeks ago, & as everyone else said, practiced until I could do it.

it’s the clearing his house that is making me unexpectedly cry now. Random small items that meant so much to him. The big stuff was easy-ish.

That’s a great update, thanks so much. Hope the rest of the funeral went well.

I’m really sorry for your loss Op.

I agree with what others have said here. You can do it. I did my Dad’s eulogy a few months ago. Not going to lie, it was bloody hard, but I was determined to do it. So I practised over and over, so I felt comfortable with the words. Initially there were a few bits where I always cracked, but on the day I was ok.
Definitely a good idea to have someone in stand-by (and let them have a copy in advance so they can prep too).
🌷🌷🌷

Oh - I’ve just seen your update Op. Sorry I was late with my advice.
So glad it went well. And yes, he absolutely would be so proud of you.

Really sorry for your loss and well
done for getting through today. It’s not easy and many of us have been through similar situations and understand 💐
I organised a relatives funeral, the celebrant read the eulogy and then I got up and shared some of my happy memories. I didn’t write anything down but knew I wanted to talk about 3 specific things and focus very much on happy times because I know if I’d veered off of that I would have burst into tears and not gotten any words out at all.
Hope you have a restful sleep tonight OP 💐

Thanks for updating and very well done (although it would still have been fine if you had got someone else to do it). You'll be proud of yourself for years to come! 💐

This is a celebration of his life.

That is such a good tip, having a message to yourself about why you are there really gives focus and strength to get through.

Well done, I am glad you did your dad proud, he deserved it.