Lighthearted/To Comfort Others: What's the silliest thing you've done when grieving?

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I wanted to start a thread to offer some comfort to others especially on mother's day and to say whatever you've done you are not alone.

If it helps you, it's fine. I'm still grieving my mother so still doing bizarre things.

Here are a couple of my silly things:

-when her favorite drink ran out, I bought a new bottle and poured it into the old one because she had touched it. This was really silly because my entire home is filled with stuff she had touched. I do smile whenever I have this drink because I'm laughing at myself.

-I bought something for myself that I was really buying to remind me of her. It had a gift option on the website for a free gift card and I wrote it to her as being from me. That's not the end of the sillyness though because after that then I couldn't throw it away.

I take comfort from the fact that my mother would have thought I was a nut!

I found some end of line garden ornaments that were in the exact cute, goofy style mum liked. I bought them as a 'Mother's day' gift for her. This summer I hope to make a little relaxing memory area in my garden for her and they will be added to that. At the moment they are among my house plants!

Last week I slept with her jumper as felt so sad like a child with a comfort blanket- was one of the best night sleeps I'd had in ages.

My partner passed away 3 months ago and his bottle of Pepsi max is still sitting In The kitchen and the mug from his last cup of tea is still there unwashed... I dunno how long they will sit there for

@Bananajuice they will be there until you are ready. I've had this with lots of things like that. Some of them are still in place because I can't bear to change anything. Some of them one day I just looked at it and though 'actually, I can throw that away now.'

It was one of the reasons why I wanted to start this thread because whatever you are doing it's fine, someone else will be doing it to and more extremely than you are.

@Tumbleweed101 wanting contact with your deceased loved one's clothing is really common as is wearing it. Makes you feel closer to them. I'm dreading the day when all the perfume has faded and there is no 'smell' of them left on their clothing any more.

Another confession from me - I've actually sprayed my mother's perfume onto jumpers of hers I'd washed so that a jumper that is not mine, I will never wear as it doesn't suit me and is not my style and probably won't even look at for months, years after putting it away smells like her for the few moments I sniff it and fold it up to put it away. That's not rational I know! No grief is really.

I have a cardboard 'Fairy' cake paper patty pan box, with a 27c price sticker on it, that was my Mam's. I keep it and refill it. I also have a small jar with a cork lid that has her writing on it.

I painted my new bathroom pink because it’s my mums favourite colour 😂😂