Mum has just died

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I'm in a bit of a daze. Mum passed away yesterday morning. Death had been coming - advanced cancer - and I have spent the last few weeks mentally preparing and saying goodbye. But now in the quietness and stillness of night the horror of the last 12-18 hours keeps playing over in my mind - truly awful. I need right now just to be able to sleep ~ but I can't switch off the images

I’m so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel - 20 years now since I lost my Mum. Sending you a hand hold xx

Sorry I don't know what to say but know that a strange is thinking of you and sending love ❤️

Stranger not strange!

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Take it easy, stay hydrated. Cry if you can.

Hope you have suport.

I don’t have any words but sending you love x

So sorry for your loss. I lost my mam with cancer at the age of 53. Is was very Traumatic.

Sending my sympathies and hugs

I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my Dad a year ago and know exactly what you mean. I hope you are able to get some rest 💐

I'm so sorry. Even when you know it's coming, the end is so very shockingly final. Give yourself time. The awful last 48 hours will fade snd give way to lovely and happier memories. Get some photo albums out and think about your mum when she was smiling and well.

I’m so truly sorry for your loss OP 💐 No matter how mentally prepared you think you are and how expected the passing is, it’s always such a hard thing to experience. Were you able to be with her at the end? Do you have family/friends to support you?

Would you like to tell us about your Mum? I’m sure I speak for everyone when I say we’d love to hear about her if you’d like to tell us ❤️

Another hand hold. Just stay in the moment and try not to think too far ahead or too far behind. Time makes it easier but for now it's won't.

I'm sorry OP, grief is so horrible x

A hand hold x

Sending you a hug OP. Just take it one step at a time. If you can't sleep, could you try meditating or listening to some soothing music to try and switch your mind off? xx

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I lost my Dad to cancer and a friend lost hers to a ruptured aneurysm around the same time- neither were “good deaths” and that was such a shock to us both. I share that because I found a strange comfort in knowing that not everyone got to have the peaceful goodbye etc- that my experience wasn’t unique.

The memories of those last days do fade, and take their rightful size in your mind eventually. Be so very kind to yourself x

I lost my mum earlier this year. It will get easier, you might not think that now but I promise you it will.

Give yourself permission to switch off and sleep.

I cannot help other than to say I've just discovered my dad has cancer. But i just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you x

So sorry

Oh big hugs, I'm almost a year on and I promise you the images do fade with time.

Make sure you rest is you can and try to sleep and ask for all the help you need xx

I'm so sorry <<hugs>>

Hand hold here too. I lost my mum in August this year, also advanced cancer. Lost my dad in 1999 also to advanced cancer. Be kind to yourself. I'm finding I have good days and bad days. Little things will set me off. Cry if you want to. Or not. It's all normal. Hugs for you.

There is no pressure to sleep, your body will give in to it when it needs. Things will absolutely ease with time. Just one small part of the day at a time. You could try to read? A podcast? Some tea and television. You will process it all with time. Sending you all the best.

I'm so sorry, it does get easier. I posted after my mum died and was really struggling
This is really random but playing Tetris can help a lot with trauma and intrusive memories

Thank you for all your kind messages x

I lost my mum 3 years ago next week. It was cancer and the last few months were horrific. I'm so grateful I got to say goodbye though. A few months later and I wouldn't have been able to.

Sorry for your loss