Clearing a hoarder's house

[Morethanthis71]

My Mum passed away last week. Unexpected, completely unexpected. I've been trying to clear the house for my Dad who is too upset to return at the moment. Mum was an extreme hoarder. It's taken me 2 days to clear the living room and the landing. I've bagged up 'keep', 'sell', 'donate', 'check'. There is just so so much more to do.
How can I make it easier for myself?

Without being mean , ask yourself if keeping lots of your mum's stuff is really necessary ? I know you have emotional feelings towards them , but it is just stuff.
My mum died 9 years ago , I had to clear her house quite quickly ( she wasn't a horder ) but I did bring lots of stuff back including a few clothes , but mainly nick nacks / ornaments .
Nine years later they sit in the attic , unseen gathering dust etc.
The clothes were in a cupboard , including coats , again unworn.
It probably took me 6 years before I started to charity shop a few bits , and now all the clothes are gone with a few other items.
The attic stuff is still up there , but for now long ? Five years , Ten , or until I die and it's someone else's problem .

@Morethanthis71

Thanks everyone. A lot of the clothes are plus sizes so I think once I've cleared the house, I'm going to sell things in bundles. I want to raise the cash so that my Dad has something to show for it, maybe a family holiday. My kids are u der strict instructions never to spend money on things for me again. All gifts going forward to be days out, family meals, etc. There is not much that I am attached to in the house, but I'm trying to be respectful. If it brought my Mum joy to buy it, then I shouldn't really skip it.

It brought her joy in the same way a shot of heroin brings joy. A brief flush of pleasure, and then a crash and need for another hit, whatever the cost to others and herself.

Buying into the touchy feely stuff puts you at risk of adopting the same behaviour. The behaviour that meant she kept you from visiting both her and your father for 15 years. The logic that told you she did it because you were inadequate. The logic that you made her do it. Which is wrong, it wasn't your fault and never could be.

Saying you'll have the stuff gone in a year is dangerous. It's hoarder talk.

Please, skip it, bag it, charity shop the very best clothes of all, but don't hold on to it because it'll be worth something in the end. It won't. When it comes down to it, it is stuff that she placed between you and her/your father as a barrier until the day of her death.

Basically echoing what everyone else said.
Also I don’t think hoarders enjoy buying stuff. I think they think they’re rescuing it. Or something.

Have you thought about hiring a declutterer? They can help you with the organising and sorting. I'm one and this kind of thing is very much what we can help with. Try a google search see if there are any near you.

And I'm sorry I should have said I'm so sorry for your loss..losing someone is hard enough without having to deal with all their stuff as well.