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Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

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Original poster

A bit of support for all those without a loved one for the first time at Christmas .

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CaptainUnderpants · 14/12/2007 12:13

My Mum passed away in the Summer so Christmas will be a bit strange this year and obviously very hard for my Dad.

I will be at the INLs for Christmas , Dad going to my brothers and then coming to us for New Year . I know that I am going to find it very hard especailly when hearing Carols on Christmas morning as Mum loved that.

I know that there are probably a few of us out there who are going to be without a loved one for the first time .

Its been so strange just writing card to Dad and not buying a present for Mum

just a thread to share our thoughts .

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LieselVentouse · 14/12/2007 13:00

Thinking of you
xx

MerryAnnSinglemas · 14/12/2007 13:09

sad for you Captain and anyone facing a first Christmas without LO

hazygirl · 14/12/2007 13:50

thinking of you xxx

Polgara2 · 14/12/2007 13:58

Captainunderpants, feel so the same. Mum passed away 5 weeks ago and am feeling totally lost.
The children are excited about Christmas and I just want it all to go away .

It's hard being strong isn't it.

Thinking of you too.

Tortington · 14/12/2007 14:07

i wrote a card to mum - it was dh's mum - that was weird as mine died in may

onlyjoking9329 · 14/12/2007 14:46

thinking of all who have lost a loved one.
OJ

ChipButty · 14/12/2007 14:50

My Dad died in May. Sending thoughts to all who have been bereaved this year. xx

Mummy2TandF · 14/12/2007 15:00

CaptainUnderpants - I too want Christmas to go away, but with my 2 dc's so excited it isn't going to I don't really know what I am going to do or how I am going to get through it but have been assured by other people who have lost a husband that I will.

TenLordsaLapin · 14/12/2007 15:03

Thinking of you all x

Austin · 14/12/2007 21:53

i was thinking today of a lovely MNer who lost her DH this year and i cant remember her name

hippipotTEDCHRISTMASTREEami · 14/12/2007 22:01

T&F's mummy lost her dh suddenly this year.

You are all in my thoughts this Christmas.

Austin · 14/12/2007 22:12

thats the one. thinking of you my love
xx

Austin · 15/12/2007 00:25

sorry I never saw your earlier post

ChristmasseyHarrisey · 15/12/2007 02:34

thanks.
This is my first Christmas without my very much loved Gran. Its nice to know others are thinking of us at this time.

AnnainNZ · 15/12/2007 03:27

Polgara2 - my mum died 5 weeks ago too - 10th November. It is a hard time of year, isn't it. My dd was born 8 days before she died too, so the last few weeks have been a huge rollercoaster of emotions - one of the happiest events in my life coinciding with one of the saddest. At least having my dd has given me something positive to focus on - it's a bit of a cliche, "new life" and all that, but it's true. Still have some very hard days though.

Thoughts going to everyone who was bereaved this year.

Original poster

CaptainUnderpants · 15/12/2007 13:23

Mummy2TandF - my thoughts are with you especailly this year . I hope this thread brings some comfort to you.

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cushioncover · 17/12/2007 21:06

Thoughts with you all.
Thinking of GGG too, both this month and next. x

hazygirl · 17/12/2007 21:18

thinking of you all, its a year tomorrow since we buried our little grandson ,i know how hard it isx

GColdtimer · 17/12/2007 21:39

my bf lost her husband suddenly 3 weeks ago. She isn't a mner but I have told her to come her to get some support from those of you who sadly understand.

Thinking of all of you who are spending christmas without a loved one.

fruittea · 17/12/2007 21:49

I lost my FIL 2 months ago. The family are coming to us for Christmas, and the DC are excited about having everyone here, as grandad was too ill to come last year so we were on our own. I'm looking forward to that too, but slightly nervous about how it will go in the circumstances, as we'll all be missing him. With children, you can't but get on with it, but yet I feel we should do something to acknowledge his absence.

threestars · 17/12/2007 23:02

Fruittea, last Christmas morning I went to my baby's grave with some flowers. It meant I could concentrate on him and nothing else for a few moments on Christmas Day, and also feel he'd been acknowledged and included. I felt alot more restful and stronger after I did this. I also noticed that lots of other people were doing this too for their loved ones.
My thoughts are with everybody who's lost a close friend or relative this year.x.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 18/12/2007 11:11

I lost my ds 6 weeks ago so I really can't get excited about Christmas. I find it difficult to believe that I will have to carry this grief and huge void around with me until the day I die. I miss him.

I am thinking of everyone who has lost someone xx

hazygirl · 18/12/2007 11:26

its my 2nd christmas without our little man trying hard to have it perfect for the girls, and its so hard just lately keep running out of way to toilet as dd doesnt want me like this ,he was buried a year ago today at 12 oclock ,its weird he was born at 10 to midnight,declared gone at 10 to 12 and the vicar rang and said be at cemetry at 10 to twelve its strange but today is even harderx

hazygirl · 18/12/2007 11:26

GColdtimer · 18/12/2007 12:06

iliketomoveit, I didn't realise it was only 6 weeks ago that you lost your little boy, you have been so supportive to me, I am amazed at your strength. Wishing you lots of love at this difficult time of year. xx

hazygirl, I am so sorry for your loss, thinking of you this christmas. x

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