Late Husband’s Birthday

[looklauren]

It’s been just over a year since my DH died suddenly. Even as a devout Catholic who prays, the thing that gets me the most is the end to our everyday conversation.

On Father’s Day last year, a rose plant he had bought me a couple of years before, bloomed for the first time. One rose. Then on his birthday a few weeks later there were 5 more (one for every child we have). It was so comforting. Would love more things like that.

Just wondered if anyone’s had tangible communication from loved ones who have passed...

That sounds really beautiful about your rose, OP.

My little boy was born asleep, and I have woken up many times over the years to a childs voice saying "Mummy"........ I've lost count of the amount of times I got up and checked our other DC to find them fast asleep. It may have been a dream of course, but it's something I've always found comforting thinking he's still around us in spirit.

Not from humans but from pets. My beloved collie was PTS & soon after, there was a trail of wee spots on the carpet in the garage ( I know, dead posh right?!) He always used to do that & it was incredibly comforting to see after he’d passed. Also, one of our amazing bunnies died a couple of months ago & white feathers have appeared next to the pot placed over his grave. And I’m convinced I have seen him in the garden, bless him.

@looklauren
I have no story to add but just to wish you continued solace.

@randomkey123

That sounds really beautiful about your rose, OP.

My little boy was born asleep, and I have woken up many times over the years to a childs voice saying "Mummy"........ I've lost count of the amount of times I got up and checked our other DC to find them fast asleep. It may have been a dream of course, but it's something I've always found comforting thinking he's still around us in spirit.

Wow.. So precious. Sorry for your loss...

@CurryLover55

Not from humans but from pets. My beloved collie was PTS & soon after, there was a trail of wee spots on the carpet in the garage ( I know, dead posh right?!) He always used to do that & it was incredibly comforting to see after he’d passed. Also, one of our amazing bunnies died a couple of months ago & white feathers have appeared next to the pot placed over his grave. And I’m convinced I have seen him in the garden, bless him.

Lol.. I love it. I’ve heard many pet ones..

White feathers is another thing I’ve heard is a sign from the next life... we see them regularly in our garden.

[quote LadyEloise]@looklauren
I have no story to add but just to wish you continued solace. [/quote]
Thank you 💕

Sending love to everyone on this thread.

My late dear mother picked a particular song to play during her funeral.

Years later and me and DH chose it as the last song at our wedding. The guests formed a circle around the 2 of us dancing, and then my father decided to join us in the circle.

The 3 of us were hugging in the middle of all of our drunk wedding guests who were belting out the words.

It was the most amazing moment and I will never forget it. It was like my mum was there with us.

God bless you OP, I’m writing this with tears in my eyes.

@TheDuchessOfBeddington

Sending love to everyone on this thread.

My late dear mother picked a particular song to play during her funeral.

Years later and me and DH chose it as the last song at our wedding. The guests formed a circle around the 2 of us dancing, and then my father decided to join us in the circle.

The 3 of us were hugging in the middle of all of our drunk wedding guests who were belting out the words.

It was the most amazing moment and I will never forget it. It was like my mum was there with us.

That is beautiful... Thank you for sharing.

Hi @looklauren I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband just over 3 years ago. Someone once told me, that seeing things that were personal to my husband is a sign he is around and reminding me he is there. For me, a song on the radio, a flatcap, certain pharses or words. I take comfort when I come across these things and smile to myself

@heidbuttsupper

Hi *@looklauren* I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband just over 3 years ago. Someone once told me, that seeing things that were personal to my husband is a sign he is around and reminding me he is there. For me, a song on the radio, a flatcap, certain pharses or words. I take comfort when I come across these things and smile to myself

I never thought about that but going to look out for those kinds of signs. Miss him so much.

And sorry for your loss too 💓

Oh I know @looklauren it is so hard. I don't want to give you all the cliches, you will have heard them all before but I have found that with time, it does get a little easier. You never forget but you do learn to live with it

Kind of.

My DSIS passed away last year. We were four siblings. In my garden I had 4 sunflowers and the week she died, one of them broke and snapped in the wind. Sunflowers were her favourite flower.

One of my siblings ordered something online just before she died and due to an Amazon mix up, they received the wrong item two days after she died. The wrong item was some kind of Owl ornament. She loved owls and owls are also meant to be a sign of ghosts/the otherside if you believe that stuff.

In the winter I was feeling pretty flat about it all and I did ask for a sign She was still there. A voice in my head told to watch out for something. Something totally ridiculous I would never see. Think of a mythical creature. The following week, my DC who had previous showed no interest in this creature drew picture one, giving it the exact name I'd heard.

I know it's all nonsense and looking for signs. But it gives me some comfort that there is a higher purpose, which I needed after losing her so young.

My beloved godmother was an amazing teacher at a school for children with quite severe special needs. One of the songs for her funeral was one that they used to play at school assemblies. I’ve never heard it on the radio before or since, but it came on right as I pulled up at her house to go through her jewellery with her other goddaughter and choose a couple of bits for ourselves.

I once woke to the most amazing scent of sweet vanilla and lillies, strong and clear and with no reason to be there. It reminded me of my grandmother and I like to think she was with me then.

Occasionally I get a waft of cigars, again when there shouldn't be, and it takes me straight to my sadly deceased father in law. His memory is so vivid, often we know exactly how he would have responded to a situation, he is very much with us still even if he isn't physically.

I'm sorry for the loss of your DH, I hope you can take comfort in the memories and small reminders.

I think music plays such a part. I remember leaving a counselling session after losing my husband. It had been quite a tough session and I was feeling really low. I stepped outside and a busker was playing a song that was really special to us and was played at my husbands funeral (unusual song for a busker to sing). It was so beautiful, I actually felt my heart swell and noticed the sun shining. I couldn't stop smiling as I felt that was DH's way of saying he was there and it was going to be ok ❤️

@Screamingcowboy99

Kind of.

My DSIS passed away last year. We were four siblings. In my garden I had 4 sunflowers and the week she died, one of them broke and snapped in the wind. Sunflowers were her favourite flower.

One of my siblings ordered something online just before she died and due to an Amazon mix up, they received the wrong item two days after she died. The wrong item was some kind of Owl ornament. She loved owls and owls are also meant to be a sign of ghosts/the otherside if you believe that stuff.

In the winter I was feeling pretty flat about it all and I did ask for a sign She was still there. A voice in my head told to watch out for something. Something totally ridiculous I would never see. Think of a mythical creature. The following week, my DC who had previous showed no interest in this creature drew picture one, giving it the exact name I'd heard.

I know it's all nonsense and looking for signs. But it gives me some comfort that there is a higher purpose, which I needed after losing her so young.

These are lovely.. Yes, so hard to make sense of it all.

Beautiful🌹

My grandfather passed 7 years ago and my DM always talks to robins as if they are him; he adored robins. A few weeks ago, I was waiting for a train and a robin came and sat by my feet. It stayed for ages, just looking at me and jumping around. I'm not sure what I believe but it was lovely to think of him.

@Sunbird24

My beloved godmother was an amazing teacher at a school for children with quite severe special needs. One of the songs for her funeral was one that they used to play at school assemblies. I’ve never heard it on the radio before or since, but it came on right as I pulled up at her house to go through her jewellery with her other goddaughter and choose a couple of bits for ourselves.

Amazing..

The morning after we put our beloved dog to sleep I woke up to the most beautiful smell of flowers. It was as if the bedroom was full of a million roses. It was unbelievable. It's the most spiritual thing that's ever happened to me and brought me immense comfort to know she was telling me she was ok.

When my dad died we scattered his ashes at the cemetery where my sister was buried and my mums ashes were scattered. We had planted a rose tree for my mum but it had never thrived. My dad was an avid rose gardener. The year we scattered his ashes the rose tree flowered for the first time.
We live in my dad's house now. Occasionally we can walk in the front door and teenage dd says, I can smell grandad.
He's still about.

These are all beautiful and comforting stories.

My DGF died in January last year. My grandparents had moved into that house around 15 years previously and moved one of their plants (an outdoor lily) from their old garden (both were keen gardeners) and whilst the leaves had grown it had never flowered. Last summer a single white flower appeared for the first time ❤️.

This has happened to me twice now - once for each of the two people I most loved who have died. When I've been feeling really, really low, suddenly out of nowhere a feeling of absolute peace breaking over me. It's physical. I felt it breaking over my head like a kind of healing balm.

I hope things get easier for you, OP xxx