Late Husband’s Birthday

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It’s been just over a year since my DH died suddenly. Even as a devout Catholic who prays, the thing that gets me the most is the end to our everyday conversation.

On Father’s Day last year, a rose plant he had bought me a couple of years before, bloomed for the first time. One rose. Then on his birthday a few weeks later there were 5 more (one for every child we have). It was so comforting. Would love more things like that.

Just wondered if anyone’s had tangible communication from loved ones who have passed...

To answer the OP, no, but that's because I don't believe in an afterlife.

What does give me comfort is when a pair of kookaburras moved into the neigbourhood. He would have been thrilled to the marrow to hear their cackle. Ditto the booming hoot of tawny frogmouths giving it large in the courting season outside our house. Neither of these happened while he was alive.

It pierces me to hear them and think of his joy.

Oh, and the bloody lemon tree we planted that only fruited after he died. 🍋

OP I'm so very sorry for your loss, and your story of the Roses blooming is beautiful. My DF passed away very recently and I too am looking for signs he is still here in some way. I've not been brought up with religion but I now that I've lost him I so desperately want to believe in an afterlife. I keep telling myself that if there is no afterlife, then he can't feel anything either way so is at peace and can feel no sadness or suffering, and if there is an afterlife then he will be with his parents and looking down on us and one day we will meet again in some way.

In one of the days immediately after his death my DP took a shower in the small en suite of the guest room at my parents house where we were staying and felt what he says felt like a tap on his shoulder. He says it may well have been just a few larger drips of water but it felt so different and like someone was patting him on the back that it made him physically turn round (despite the fact the shower is absolutely tiny). The reason this is sort of significant is my DF had got stuck in that shower in the middle of the night a few days before he passed away (it's next door to their bedroom, and he was very frail and somewhat confused hence taking the shower in the middle of the night, but luckily my DM woke up and found him). You may well think I'm crackers but I like to think that what my DP felt was my DF giving him a pat on the back for what a rock he was being for all of us, whilst having a little chuckle at having got stuck in the shower. Anyway it gave me some comfort and I'm desperately looking for further signs he is still with us in some way. At the very least he is ever present in our hearts, I think of him all the time, talk to his photo every day, and when I'm at my mum's house I feel him all around us as he put so much effort into renovating the house and it's filled with his beautiful drawings.

Also sending love and solace to everyone on this thread, and may you continue to see signs of your loved ones all around you.

Love all the new stories 💓