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periods after MC

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littleweed · 01/11/2004 08:29

just out of interest, when did they start again? I've always been as regualr as clockwork - every 28 days but since my mc - 31 days agao - there's been nothing and I don't feel like anything is imminent if you know what I mean. I'm keen to start trying again asap becasue of my age so tying to be patient is a nightmare. does your body take a while to restart itself after something like this?
grateful for any ideas

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Azure · 01/11/2004 08:57

I recently had my first period after mc, and the timing was roughly in line with my cycle before getting pregnant (30 days). I understand that it is normal for a cycle to be quite irregular for several months after a mc, which doesn't help when ttc again. Is there any chance you might be pregnant?

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littleweed · 01/11/2004 11:26

well we haven't NOT been trying if you see what I mean but I feel absolutely fine. the only indication that old AF might be on the way is that my driving is even worse than usual...... thanks for replying & I'll let you know one way or teh other!!

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MINNIE1 · 01/11/2004 14:38

littleweed,
My periods have been irregular since my m/c in Jume, Its a pain in the neck as were trying again and my periods really don't help!!!! My average is 35/36 days!!! have been told they will come back to normal!!!Did you have a d&C littleweed??

Bubu · 01/11/2004 19:31

Sorry to jump in here, but could someone tell me when you can start trying again after a mc? I've only just had one and am devastated - was really looking forward to my Spring baby... when is it safe to start trying again?

Azure · 02/11/2004 09:28

Bubu, sorry to hear about your mc. It is recommended to wait at least one month before trying again, in part to date the pregnancy but also to enable any "retained products" to be washed out. The doctor I saw at the early pregnancy unit said that - unofficially - there seens to be a higher proportion of mcs with pregnancies conceived within 3 months of a previous mc. It also depends when you feel ready to try again - some people want to try straight away, others can't face it for a while.

JuniperDewdrop · 02/11/2004 09:33

sorry to hear about your miscarriages

After my last one I tried after first period, which was late btw. I conceived DS2 straight away. The only negative thing I'd say is I hadn't let myself grieve properly and it came back to haunt me but I'm fine now. Everyone's different though.

MINNIE1 · 02/11/2004 10:20

I waited till my first period after my m/c, i am now TTC with no luck yet!!!! But i'm hopefull it will be soon.. The doctor said it was sfe to do so..

Bubu · 02/11/2004 18:43

I'm so sorry you've all had miscarraiges, I don't think you really understand how awful it is until it's happened to you. I've started bleeding really heavily today, I'm supposed to go in for a D&C tomorrow but the way things are right now I don't know if there will be anything left by tomorrow. I can't believe there could be so much blood, it's really depressing and it just keeps reminding you. Can anyone give advice as to whether I should go in and have the D&C, I wanted it to stop this happening but now that I am bleeding like this I don't know if there is any point. Any advice gratefully received. Thanks

JuniperDewdrop · 02/11/2004 18:47

so sorry for you bubu. I had to have a D&C after both of mine. The second was a missed miscarriage so i went for the 12 week scan and nothing much left. It was awful.
I don't really know what to advise hun, could you chat to your GP? Hope you get some advice soon. A D&C is very quick so you wouldn't be under long. If you'd like to talk on MSN CAT me anytime. (((((hugs)))))

Azure · 02/11/2004 18:54

Bubu sorry to hear about the bleeding. With my first mc I bled for about 2 months, varying from frighteningly large red amounts, including clots, to a light brown. The heavy loss was about when my first period should have been - I remember being at work and having to run to the loo, feeling the trickle down my leg. Sorry for being graphic, but I know how horrific and distressing it is. I really wish I had had a D&C. I would definitely go in tomorrow. Once there I would imagine that you will have a scan first to assess how much lining etc there is left. If not much is left, the hospital may suggest that it is not worth going ahead with the D&C. Personally, I would rather have the procedure than prolonged bleeding. BTW my second m/c was completely different - the bleeding was a lot lighter, and over with in a week.

Bubu · 02/11/2004 18:56

Thanks JD. Mine has been a missed mc too. Went for scan on Monday and it wasn't there but there was alot of pregnancy tissue, that is why I opted for the D&C to get everything cleaned up and avoid going through what I'm now going through! I just feel as if I don't want them to mess with me now, it's just a bit raw if you know what I mean...

Bubu · 02/11/2004 18:57

Thanks Azure, that helps, may go in then, don't think I could let this happen for 2 months it's really distressing.

alterego · 02/11/2004 19:01

The trouble is you can never tell. I've been "lucky" twice in that my 2 mc's have both happened naturally and there was no need for D& C and no complications. Having siad that a D&C will get it over with quickly (I bled for about 2 weeks with both mc's although only really heavy for 4 or 5 days) but still does sometimes have complications.
Could you have a scan? I had one on the same day that I had most of my blood loss and the sonographer said that it looked like it had all come away cleanly. Then I went back 2 days later. I was still bleeding although not so heavy and she confirmed that it had come away cleanly and no need for D&C unless any problems arose.

alterego · 02/11/2004 19:02

Crossed posts bubu - maybe if you feel a bit raw, ask to wait a couple of days - have a re-scan and then make a decision based on that.

alterego · 02/11/2004 19:03

Azure - 2 months

JuniperDewdrop · 02/11/2004 19:05

I've heard stories like yours too azure. I'll be thinking of you bubu xx

Azure · 02/11/2004 19:07

Bubu, I didn't realise you hadn't had the inital loss yet . God, my first one was awful. It happened naturally but I was almost 12 weeks. I know just what you mean about not wanting to be messed with - but try and get that scan.

Bubu · 02/11/2004 22:57

It is really awful. I feel like I'm never going to stop bleeding. Think I will wait and see how I feel in the morning and then decide. Just feel like I have to get back to work and couldn't go in like this. Thanks for all your messages re this, I'll let you know how I get on - thanks. Do any of you have kids after having miscarraiges?

Azure · 03/11/2004 08:39

Bubu, don't even think about going into work this week. Can you arrange a hospital visit for, say, Friday rather than go in today? If you do go in, I hope it goes as well as can be expected. BTW on Mumsnet there are plenty of people who have had babies after one or more miscarriages. There is a very useful book by Lesley Regan called "Miscarriage: What Every Woman Needs to Know" which is often recommended here.

Azure · 05/11/2004 08:42

Bubu how are you today?

Bubu · 05/11/2004 10:36

Today I can't stop crying. Went into the hospital on Wednesday, it was awful, apart from the fact I was there to get rid of my baby the whole experience was awful, I had to walk to theatre in my socks and hospital gown into the main hospital corridor then wait for a lift with workmen, ambulance men and two nurses, one of which was new and asked me if I was going upstairs to have my baby!!!! Couldn't stop crying, I won't tell you the whole horror story because it would take too long to type, however, let it be known that should I ever fall pregnant again I will be going nowhere near the Queen Mother Hospital in Glasgow EVER again!!! They should have knocked it down when they said they were going to - rant over.... Anyway feel awful!!!

Azure · 05/11/2004 11:22

Bubu, what a horrible, distressing experience at the hospital - I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself - cry, cry and cry some more if that's what's needed. It's often difficult for people who have not had a miscarriage to really understand how it feels - here on Mumsnet there are sadly plenty of us, so please carry on posting if it helps.

Bubu · 05/11/2004 18:55

Thanks Azure. My friend came over today and she is trying for IVF and I felt really bad that I was upset and I already have a gorgeous wee boy and she still hasn't had any luck. I should be happy with what I've got already, and I am, it's just really sad. My wee boy knows there is something wrong and just wants his Daddy just now which makes me worse!!! Typical man - never there when you need them!!!! Anyway going to go and bath him now. Take care and thanks again, will no doubt bump into you again on here.....

Quackers · 08/11/2004 21:23

Bubu that's awful. Sorry to hear of your m/c and the experience at the hospital. It's terrible. I just wanted you to know there's lots of suuport ob Mnet. I bled very heavily after both. The first was missed and I bled for 10 weeks, I did have an infection though and had some tissue still left after the D and C even. Periods took a couple of months to get right again and I was still passing tissue when we finally concieved after a second m/c. She's now 13 weeks. Wishing you lots of luck for your next pgcy. xxxxxx

cecillia · 10/11/2004 14:46

babu, it sounds like you had a terrible time at the hospital. I know exactly how you feel! I had a terrible time in the hospital as well during the time i had an ectopic pregnancy. Talking about it helped me but also made me so frustrated and angry. Lets hope that we will have better luck next time and give birth to healthy babies in hospitals where we are treated like humans.