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SpringChicken · 18/10/2004 14:50

One of my clients at work had a baby daughter on Wednesday - she slipped into a coma and died on Friday night.

I am sitting here a blubbering wreck - i can't even speak.

I've always had a good relationship with him and when my DD was bought he sent a big bouquet of flowers to the hospital for me - I heard from my mum (who is also my boss) that the baby had been born on Wednesday but things "Weren't good" but er knew nothing else. I decided yesterday to send an email to his Assistant just saying that i obivously don't know details but if she feels it apropriate then please pass on my thoughts to * and his wife.

I have since had an email back saying that sadly she died on Friday evening - aparently, his wife went into labour on Monday - she was induced 3 times and finally gave birth on Wednesday. When Isabel was born she had 3 fits and slipped into a coma and then so sadly passed away on Friday.

I didn't even know his wife or Isabel but i cannot see the screen for tears, i m just a complete wreck. Her funeral is later this week.

Obviously they are just in complete shock at the minute but i'm sure it will soon turn into anger and they will be demanding come answers from the hosital as to what the hell went wrong.

As i only have a professional relationship with him and don't know his wife i am struggling with what is the best thing to do - i have asked his assistant to let me know if they will be allowing flowers at the funeral, in which case i will send some - other then that i was just going to send a very basic card saying something along the lines of "Thinking of you".
Should i do this or just leave for the time being?

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tiredemma · 27/10/2004 11:39

thats so sad springchicken, a younger cousin of mine gave birth to a girl last year, who sadly died a few days later, my cousin said that it was all the cards and letters that helped her through it as she knew people genuinly felt for her and her partner from the lovely, sincere comments they had made.
hope you are feeling ok today x

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