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Today would have been my mum's birthday

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lou33 · 08/10/2004 08:55

She would have been 70, but she died 5 1/2 years ago. She was my best friend and I still really miss her.

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Poo2 · 08/10/2004 08:58

Don't know what to say, but There's nobody else quite like your mum, is there.

agy · 08/10/2004 09:00

Try not to be down Lou. I know its hard, I still miss mine. Hope you have sunshine where you are to-day. [

Angeliz · 08/10/2004 09:00

Lou, hope you relive somw good memeories today and don't feel too bad++++++++++++++++++++++

GRMUM · 08/10/2004 09:07

Oh lou Its so sad isn't it? My mum would have been 70 earlier this year too, she died 7 1/2 years ago and I still think of her every day, most of all I wish she could see my kids and what wonderful young people they are growing up to be. I hope that you will be able to remember all the birthdays you celebrated together and think of her with happiness too.x

welshmum · 08/10/2004 09:11

Am thinking of you, it never goes away does it. Mine died 9 years ago next month and I miss her so much. Hope you have time to think about some of the good things you did together.

mckenzie · 08/10/2004 09:13

thinking of you lou33. Enjoy your memories though today wont you? Nobody can take those away from you.

jampot · 08/10/2004 09:26

I miss mine too Lou - it just isn't the same is it. My mum died 7 years ago on ds's 1st birthday

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lou33 · 08/10/2004 09:53

Thanks everyone. It's good to hear others feel the same iyswim.

Grmum, I feel the same about the children. My mum died when I had only 3 children, aged 7, 2 and 10 weeks. She never met ds2, or really got to know ds1 because she was so ill, but omg she would have been so in love with them, and they her. She was the sort of nana every child should have, and you really couldn't find anyone who had a cross word to say about her. She adored her grandchildren so much. The world is a far worse place without her imo.

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GRMUM · 08/10/2004 09:59

Snap Lou, that description could be my mum too!The saddest thing of all for me at the moment is that my dad is still struggling with her loss - if anything he's finding it harder as the years go by. And I'm so far away I can't help at all on a day to day basis

My youngest was 18 months when she died and asked me one day (years ago now) who the lady was in the photo.The older 2 still talk about her though

stickynote · 08/10/2004 10:01

Lou, that's a beautiful thing to say about your Mum. My Mum died almost a year ago and I miss her every day. She was a calm, peaceful lady and a fantastic Grandma. Thinking of you today.

JuniperDewdrop · 08/10/2004 10:01

I really feel for you today Lou xxx

welshmum · 08/10/2004 10:05

Oh lou33 I feel exactly like you. My mum would have totally adored dd. It might sound daft but I'd been saving some soaps that she gave me (couldn't bear to throw them out) recently dd asked if she could play with them and I was just so delighted - it was like my mum had given dd something to play with in the bath. Daft - but I'm almost crying writing this.

WideWebWitch · 08/10/2004 10:18

Sympathy Lou. My dad's birthday was 13th Feb (same as Scummy's IIRC) and he would only have been 62 this Feb - he died 3 years ago, at 59. So far I haven't stopped missing him, I don't think we ever do. Thinking of you.

mothernature · 08/10/2004 10:33

lou33 - so sorry your really missing her, I too lost my mum, it was 15 years ago, I still miss her terribly my mum would have been 74 this November - I will be buying her favorite flowers in rememberance - I have no grave or plaque to go to, I hope to be able to recall all the happy times, sharing these with my children who never knew their nana - I hope you will be able to do something similar - lots of love and hugs for you and your family on this her special day.

Marina · 08/10/2004 11:15

Lou, thinking of you today. I grumble about my mother sometimes but posts like yours remind me how much she loves her grandchildren and how lucky we all are to have this time together. Your mum sounds like such a great person. Like mother, like daughter they say!

Aero · 08/10/2004 11:17

Thinking of you lou.

Twinkie · 08/10/2004 11:21

Thinking of you today Lou, can you go and get yourself a cake and sit and have a coffee and have a look through all your pictures of her - sort of a rememberence thing??

DelGirl · 08/10/2004 12:08

thinking of you Lou

pamina3 · 08/10/2004 12:11

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Marina · 08/10/2004 12:45

pamina, I'm really sorry to hear this. Thinking of you too and hoping she can fight it off again.

Tinker · 08/10/2004 13:21

Thinking of both of you - lou and pamina. Losing a parent is not good is it?

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lou33 · 08/10/2004 16:27

Thank you everyone.

Twinkie, I don't have any apart from one large one on the wall in my bedroom.

Pamina,, I am so sorry to hear your news. i really truly hope your mum's cancer can be overcome.

I've been out all day doing boring stuff, but I know tonight , when I have a chance to breathe, it will all hit me like a tone of bricks.

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lou33 · 08/10/2004 16:27

Ton i mean.

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sunchowder · 08/10/2004 16:34

Oh Lou, you have my sympathy. I also lost my Mom 14 years ago on April 17. She was never able to meet my daughter or my DH. I miss her every day. I lost my Dad a year and a half ago too, so I am an orphan all together. It is really hard sometimes. Expecially on the anniversaries. Be good to yourself, you are not alone. XO

Cadbury · 08/10/2004 16:35

Sending lots of hugs to you Lou. I'm sure she's having a great party where she is. We found my papa's (grandfather) birthday very difficult this year - he died on last Christmas Eve. The world was so much improved for him having been in it, but it will never be the same again now he has gone. I'm sure your mum had the same effect on the people and places around her. Take care.