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Original poster

i lost my older sister yesterday....

28 replies

lovecamping · 01/09/2007 22:03

it happened suddenly, still in shock. pain comes in waves.

i've got to deal with the croner, gp to find cause of death, can anyone else experienced this, tell me what the process is etc...

thank you

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kitsandbits · 01/09/2007 22:04

Oh god, Im sooo sorry,

how awful for you

2shoes · 01/09/2007 22:04

so sorry for your loss

winnie · 01/09/2007 22:05

lovecamping, I am so sorry

Hurlyburly · 01/09/2007 22:05

Oh I am so sorry.

fryalot · 01/09/2007 22:05

can't offer any practical advice, I'm sorry, but I wanted to offer my condolences.

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lovecamping · 01/09/2007 22:05

its not been a good year ...

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Nemo2007 · 01/09/2007 22:07

no advice just condolences

Biglips · 01/09/2007 22:09

xx

hazygirl · 01/09/2007 22:09

so sorry for the loss of your sister,i lost grandson nine months ago ,and everything takes time, the coroner will probably have to do post mortom if unexpected, it take time but coroner will guide you through it

Jojay · 01/09/2007 22:10

So so sorry - what a horrible shock.

No advice, but thinking of you xx

Whooosh · 01/09/2007 22:11

Am so sorry for you .

So,practicalities-you will need a death certificate (dependent on circumtances this meay require a post-mortem_ then you will need to register the deat.For this you will need to make an appointment and take the death certificate with you.
Once you havehtat you can go ahead with all the funeral arrangements and deal withher solicitors etc.

I HTH-another queations-please ask away,so sorry for you.

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lovecamping · 01/09/2007 22:14

thank you for yr messages.

how do i contact the croner? she's at the funeral directors at the moment - do i just give them a call on monday? i dont want to wait for them to call us,

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Ulysees · 01/09/2007 22:16

So sorry for you I too lost my older sister this time of year 5 years ago.

I hope you get lots of help hun, must be awful having to do all the arrangments.

Sending you love and healing prayers xxx

littlelapin · 01/09/2007 22:16

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Original poster
lovecamping · 01/09/2007 22:17

i miss her HUGELY ...

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hazygirl · 01/09/2007 22:17

the coroner contacted us aftter the hospital,and police contacted them,he died of cot death december/inquest in octobeer,it s a long job

Whooosh · 01/09/2007 22:18

Call the funeral Directors-they understand all the process and will guide you throuhg-thois is their job and they are likely to be very helpful.
Incidentally,if they are not-as painful as it may be,call a couple of others and talk to them and if needs be,move her.I did this for a firend with a stillborn recently and it was the best move ever.

I sish you luck and hope you sleep well tonight.

Doodledootoo · 01/09/2007 22:21

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Dropdeadfred · 01/09/2007 22:22

Sorry for your loss - hope you have rl friends around you too.

Bubble99 · 01/09/2007 22:29

Deepest sympathy to you, LC.

I agree that the funeral director should be able to guide you through all of this.

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lovecamping · 01/09/2007 22:32

thank you all so much ... its all still really raw and i would not have known where to start calling ......

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Tinker · 01/09/2007 23:07

I'm so sorry. Funeral directors and coroner's office are usually very good here - the Coroner will have a form telling you excatly what needs to be done. Best advice - when registering the death, get 4 or 5 death certificates. Any authorities that need to be advised re your sister's death (bank, employer, benefit's agencies, utilties companies etc) will need originals, not copies.

I hope you have people to help, let them if you do.

MarsLady · 01/09/2007 23:08

I'm sorry for your loss

cornsilk · 01/09/2007 23:10

Sorry

Tortington · 01/09/2007 23:13

sorry for your loss. a good funeral director should be v. elpful in explaining tings and they are usually willing to deal with the coroner.

you can call them directly. i did when my mum died a few months ago.

i second the advice to get a few copies of death certificates.