I feel stupid.....

[littleweed]

found out today that I had an empty sac with no baby in it. I was only 8 weeks so I know it could be worse. I feel absolutley fine physically and feel this doesn't count as a miscarriage cos there is nothing there but I feel stupid for geting my hopes up and there being nothing there. ahve to go back on friday to see if it will come out by itself or if i need a D&C. Please don't feel you have to reply to this - only my husband and one friend knew I was pregnant anyway. just needed to get it of my chest.

LW, I to only had a sack at 11 weeks when i went for a scan with lower pain.. It was my doctor that later told me that the baby past out.. I went home got up the next morning and had all the PG symtoms again for a week until i had a D&C.. It was the longest week of my life.. Anyway the reason for not doing a D&C stright away is 1 you might pass the m/c your self 2 if dates are wrong..
You have had a m/c and you body has all the symtoms of being PG.. And at one stage you had a feotoes there too.. After the hosp told me there was no baby i though they were mad and went to my own GP she explained the in and outs of what had happened..
Were all here for ya and ramble away cause we all have done it at some stage..

PS when are you going into the hosp again??

I went in for another scan on friday morning. The sac had grown so thry booked me in right then for an emergency D&C - all very Holby city! It all went fine adn physically I feel fine now but mentally I feel a real wreck. I htought once it was over and done with I'd be able to move on adn put it behind me but I just feel incredibly sad adn want to burst into tears all the time. I have a beautiful DS to look after but I just don't want to do it and feel so guilty that he might pick up on my feelings. when will I feel normal again??!!

(((hugs))) You mus give yourself time to grieve and recover frrom this. Is there anyone who can look afetr your DS for you for a few hour - to allow you to have some time for yourself?

So sorry littleweed

A few months ago i was trying to concieve and i did an early test and it was positive. DP and i were over the moon and a few days later i got my period. I actually FELT i was pregnant and was very sad as i felt i'd lost it(posted on here and got lots of good support).

Anyway, just wanted to say that i felt the same and i was only 'just' there! Hope you are getting some re-assurance from all these posts++++++++++

LW - give yourself time - you have had a shock, both physically and mentally, and your hormones are probably all over the place as well.

Try and take it easy for a few days.

Littleweed - sorry to hear it all happened so quickly on Friday. Remember your hormones will be going haywire while your body catches up with all these changes. I felt quite numb at first but then very tearful for a few days and then just felt very low. Each day gets a little easier and there will be good days and bad days. Everyone is different. It is still early days.

Do you have someone to talk to? I know not many people knew you were pg but that doesn't mean you can't tell then now - they will want to support you though this. You should have received some info in hospital about Miscarriage Association and local support groups.
Thinking of you

I'm thinking of you Littleweed - it's a really difficult time with hormones and everything still rushing about. Give yourself some time and space if you can because you are grieving.

littleweed ,
I would love to give you a big hug.. I am soo sorry to hear all you have gone through.... i wish i could say somthing to take away the pain, but i can't.. You feeling are natural and will be around for a while..
Were all here for you..