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Kate&thegirls

129 replies

Mirage · 11/09/2004 09:41

Thinking of you & your family today.Hope the day passes peacefully for you.

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BeckiF · 13/09/2004 11:39

Blimey ..... and we think we have it hard at times. Enormous love and respect to you and your families Kate.

A ship sails and I stand watching till she fades on the horizon and someone

at my side says She is gone

Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. She is just as large now as

when I last saw her. Her diminished size and total loss from my sight is in

me, not in her.

And just at the moment when someone at my side says she is gone there are

others who are watching her coming over their horizon and other voices take

up a glad shout There she comes!

That is what dying is. An horizon and just the limit of our sight.

Lift us up, Oh Lord, that we may see further

Bishop Brent

Twinkie · 13/09/2004 11:56

All my love to you and yours.

Happy Birthday DD1.

The loss never goes you just learn to live with it a little each day.

Twinkie XXX

tabitha · 13/09/2004 12:14

Dear Kate,

I didn't know about your story either until I read through this thread with tears in my eyes. Your husband sounds as though he was a lovely guy.
Glad Saturday went okay. All my love to you and your daughters and happy (belated) birthday to Caroline.

Northerner · 13/09/2004 12:21

Kate, can't put my feelings into words. But Lots of love coming your way. Can't even begin to imagine wht you have been through.

Happy birthday to your dd. 2 is a delightful age

Metrobaby · 13/09/2004 12:27

Kate - thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

xxx

Flossam · 13/09/2004 12:42

Oh Kate, I never had any idea either untill I saw this. It really does put into perspective things, what a terrible terrible thing. You will be in my thoughts, you sound an incredible person. Im in awe of you really.

lisalisa · 13/09/2004 12:59

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JoBurger · 13/09/2004 13:15

Kate, I am so very sorry for your loss. Like many others, I am humbled. Best Wishes, JB.

Thomcat · 13/09/2004 13:15

Dear Kate,
We've not 'chatted' before, our paths haven't crossed until now.
I read the article's you kindly shared with us and sat here at work with tears spilling onto my keyboard.
So sorry to hear of the awful, tragic way your lost your beloved husband. I can't even begin to imagine what that day, and the days since have been like for you and for both your families.
However like you say, you had him in your life for 9 wonderful years, knew the love of a great man and had beautiful, healthy children together. I'm happy for you for that. Best to think that way, as your husband would have done, the glass should always be half full aye.
So in honour of your husband I'm going to go back and read those tributes to him again and think about him and your and your family for 5 minutes. I'm on my own in the office so it's the perfect time.
Love to you and yours - TC x

Galaxy · 13/09/2004 13:21

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alexsmum · 13/09/2004 13:31

oh kate,it's only because I have read through this thread that I knew this about you.I am so so sorry for your terrible loss,and I am sending love from me and my family to you all.You sound like you are doing a tremendous job with your girls.Our thoughts are with you.

smellymelly · 13/09/2004 14:06

I have never been so touched reading something by someone I don't know, I like many others have read the beautiful story about your husband, with tears running down my face, I can't imagine how incredibly hard it must be to be without him.

I just wanted to add that my thoughts are with you and your girls..

xxx

Issymum · 13/09/2004 14:17

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Yamamoto · 13/09/2004 14:51

just managed to dry out my keyboard...

Wanted to say that my father died on my brothers 4th birthday 25 years ago. I know he feels a real connection with the dad he never knew thro this shared date.

Good luck for the future.

KateandtheGirls · 13/09/2004 14:56

Really Yamamoto? I never considered that there might be a positive, for Caroline at least, in her birthday being on that day.

coddychops · 13/09/2004 14:58

well isnt that interesting!

Ailsa · 13/09/2004 22:20

Kate, don't quite know what to say, I think everyone else has pretty much said it.

As far as I'm concerned, you're a star. I'm sure your girls couldn't wish for a better mum

xxx

colinsmommy · 13/09/2004 23:44

Kate- Just got back from vacation today, and my first thought was to check MN to see how you were doing with the hurricane coming. Instead I found this. I had no idea. I've been teary-eyed for the last hour, and couldn't even post till now. Thank you so much for posting the tribute pages for your husband. All my love.

Ghosty · 14/09/2004 01:33

Dear Kate,

I had no idea ... I am so sorry ....
I hope the day went ok ...
Happy birthday to your little girl ...
Much love

Ghosty {{{{{}}}}}

mumbojumbo · 14/09/2004 09:03

Kate

Thank you for sharing those tributes. They are incredibly moving - you are one brave lady. Hugs to you and your lovely family.

Much love. xx

littlemissbossy · 14/09/2004 09:24

Dear Kate, I read this thread yesterday but didn't post as I just couldn't find the words... but wanted to say how very sorry I was for your loss and that I, with every one on mumsnet,is thinking of you and your family, you are one very brave lady. Take care lmbx

luckymum · 14/09/2004 14:22

Kate - I'm so sorry, been offline for a few days and just caught up here. I had no idea that you had lost your husband. Very special thoughts to you and your family.

Much love X

nikcola · 14/09/2004 14:26

kate just read the tributes , dont no what to say but my thoughts are with you and your family

bundle · 14/09/2004 14:33

kate&thegirls, I had no idea about all of this, though I knew your husband had died. i have a friend whose wife died in childbirth & I think their daughter's birthday is the day after (ie she was born after midnight) and I always thought this might help a little, being a different day. but I know it's a very hard time for my friend & his/her families. x

tamum · 14/09/2004 14:37

Heavens. I've only just seen this as I was offline all weekend. Like bundle, I knew your husband had died but had no idea of all this. I'm pretty sure I remember reading your story in one of the newspapers at the time, at least briefly.

What can I say. Just that I'm thinking of you and your daughters, and your lovely husband.

Cathy xx

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